Picking up from last time –
So, he picked an option from my options. I started writing it. It wasn’t going super well and I wasn’t able to mine a lot of comedy out of it. So, I asked if we could switch.
He then gave me an idea of his own, that really was pretty good and workable. I wrote the first a section and he said that’s totally along the lines of what he’d been thinking of.
The deal in the comedy song is that the lyricist is supposed to go first and the composer writes music to the words. (Usually it’s the other way around.)
Well, he wrote something that was catchy, but wasn’t written to the words. It would’ve required a rewrite of what I had. And I reacted a lil’ too strongly.
Collaboration should be collaborative. (It’s right there in the word.) It really wouldn’t have been that much of an issue to re-write the little bit I had to fit his melody.
However, I just got transported back immediately to the first assignment – where I felt like I didn’t have a say in anything, and I kinda let the composer walk all over me. (*Fans self* Oh, it is getting a little real in here! Sorry… Also, I do understand that that is *my* perception of the events that occurred. It’s safe to say it’s possible other people feel differently. But anyway…)
I got kind of super defensive and like, “Nope. Nevermind. How about we just do that original idea I wanted to?”
So, basically I turned the tables and had the opposite experience of the first one. I was the one who was indecisive – changing her mind a few times times. I was the one kind of calling the shots and really probably “putting my foot down” or whatever too often. Like, really, I was kind of maybe a slight nightmare, huh? (From saying he could pick between my ideas, then scrapping it, then seeming like I was gonna give him a turn, but scrapping that because I was too afraid of being walked over – I know I just said that. I’m just not sure if I’m making sense.) Oof.
So, I’m at the ends of the collaborative spectrum, pushed over way way (way) too much the first time around, but now maybe pushing too much in the second). I still haven’t figured out how to get to the middle – a beautiful collaboration. (I don’t know if that’s 100% true, as I liked the 3rd song process, and even the second (even though we didn’t have enough time). But, yeah. I dunno. I still felt on the ends of the collaboration spectrum…
So, me and this composer worked up until the day before. He came up with a fun melody. And out came a song I really actually kind of liked!
Even though I don’t love the way I went about it – or the way I kind of unfairly pushed my way through… the final product was cool. It was cool to finally feel like I truly helped write something – and that I even kinda liked what was written…
Maybe BMI can actually be turned around?
HA! I know, right? But we’ll get there next time.