I know I have said in the past in this very blog that moving to New York has sometimes made me feel like I’m speaking a foreign language – ’cause people take genuine things as sarcastic, etc.
And I thought maybe it was just a little problem, or maybe my sample size was too small…
But it is STILL happening, friends!
There’s this wonderful, lovely human I’ve been hanging out with a fair amount. I feel like we get a long really pretty well.
It’s also funny because while I’m frustrated that people don’t get my genuineness, I bet people around me are frustrated that I don’t get their sarcasm… For instance, we were planning to see this awesome Sally Field movie (that I loved) late at night on a weeknight.
And he texted something like, “Whoa! It should be super crowded.” And I texted something like, “Oh. Really? Hmm.” And he was like, No! Not really! Did I whiff that joke that hard?” And that kind of stuff happens to us a fair amount.
I don’t know if I’m just bad at texting, or bad at sarcasm, or bad at New York-ing or what. But I’m sure it’s annoying to other people…
And on the other side of the coin, we were together in person – none of this text stuff getting in the way.
And he did something adorable. I looked at him right in the eyes, smiled at him, and said, “I thought that was cute.”
And then he said, “Oh sorry.” And I said, “I don’t – I don’t understand. Why are you apologizing? I looked right at you. I smiled at you. I said the words that was cute.”
And he said, “Oh! Oh yeah. You did. I forgot how genuine you are. Those are indeed all signs that you thought it was cute. I just figured you must be being sarcastic.”
Why is there so much sarcasm in New York?! I mean, I like to think I generally can read social cues. (I’m cool, you know?) But, why can’t people read mine? I maybe need to get better at reading it (especially in texts), but when multiple times now, different people in New York have watched me look their eyes and give them a compliment and then they doubt me…
Do I have too much California on me? Do I give some kind of a vibe? Are people in New York just different? I don’t know what the deal is, and I don’t know how to change it… And that’s all I got on this for now.