This Election Taught Me Women Don’t Matter

Friday, November 11th, 2016

…And obviously many (most) other groups too. (And it’s devastating.) But today, I’m going to talk just from my perspective (as a woman)…

As you almost certainly know if you’ve been following this blog –

This year, I was sexually assaulted by someone I knew and cared about… After it happened, I spent *months* wondering “was I loud enough/clear enough?”

I kept trying to bring it up to him. He kept either giving me the silent treatment, or gaslighting me, pushing me aside, etc…

Until finally, I got to have a straightforward conversation with him about it about 6 months later (that’s months of nightmares, problems, therapy, etc.).

I asked him, “Was I not clear enough? Did you really not know?” And he said (verbatim), “I knew you didn’t want to, but you needed to.”

He was “helping me.”

Once I got that admission, I tried to report, but to no avail.

So, for a quick recap: we have the man, the police and the legal system who are either apathetic or just can’t help me… (It’s been exhausting)

And NOW the man who holds the HIGHEST OFFICE in our land not only doesn’t think sexual assault isn’t a big deal – he brags about it.

I don’t know what to say after that… America has now told me LOOOOOOOOUD and clear “women don’t matter.”

(The millions of people who voted for him told me through their votes, ‘It doesn’t matter if he views women as objects. We can sweep his views on women under the rug because they just aren’t that important.’)

So that is *one* reason *one* woman is more than just disappointed her candidate didn’t win. She now fears for her safety even more.

4 thoughts on “This Election Taught Me Women Don’t Matter

  1. Kevin

    So sad. We’re seeing a huge outpouring of ugliness this week.

    Many things have shocked me this year, such as nearly nobody caring about Russian interference in our election process and how much mileage the media got out of that email nothingburger. But perhaps the most egregious manifestations of apparent insanity are how many white women went for Donald Trump (He won them 52-42 (barely losing college grads and winning non-college grads by a huge margin), as well as how well he did with minorities. (Exit polls have him doing slightly better than Romney among African Americans and Latinos–what the Hell is going on? )

    At least you can take solace that you live deep in the urban archipelago, where, on multiple axes, you have many more friends than enemies.

    1. Aurora De Lucia Post author

      Yeah… I don’t understand all the women who went for Trump… Or really any group he denigrated. It’s just… I hardly even know what to say… But nonetheless, I appreciate you commenting. I always appreciate your input, Kevin. And I’m so glad you continue to read the blog and leave comments 🙂

  2. Sylvia

    It’s sad that you are using your assault to get attention. Now you get to be on TV and flaunt it all over your facebook. You are a true hero there. Self absorbed and with your own hidden agenda.


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