First off, I’m totally obsessed with Chrissy Teigen. She is my spirit model. I love her. And if you’re not following her on twitter & snapchat, you are missing out on some spectacular joy in your life.
I was watching said snapchat, and they were being sooooo cute for their daughter’s first birthday. (I can’t even handle it.)
And all the time, John Legend is on her snapchat seeming like the most amazing husband/dad in the world. He’s always joining in on the cooking and the housework. There was a snap a while ago where Luna went over and was crawling around underneath him while he was playing piano. And Chrissy was like, “come back here, baby,” and John looked at her all cute and said, “She’s helping me play!”
Chrissy Teigen is a hilarious, smart, quick, interesting, funny goddess. And John Legend steps up his game to meet hers. Once, she was really drunk and asked, “Are you mad at me?” And he said, “Why would I ever be mad at you? You’re perfect?”
Anyway, I was thinking about tweeting a picture of John helping to put together his daughter’s new toy and saying what a great dad he is…
And then I realized… “Aurora, are you kidding?” Yes, John Legend seems like an amazing father. And he should be commended as such.
And yes, I do sometimes think about how it’s amazing that Chrissy Teigen still cooks herself when she’s Chrissy Teigen. She could have a staff…
But do I think the same way about Chrissy as I do about John?
Was I compelled to write a tweet about Chrissy Teigen is such an amazing mom (which she does indeed seem to be)?
Or was it more wild to me that John Legend would help put together his daughter’s toy, and help make the birthday cake?
They are both wildly successful in their own right. They both could hire a staff. So, why was I more likely to be impressed by John’s behavior than Chrissy’s?
I am here for feminism! I get upset at blatantly sexist stuff. I even follow this satire account @manwhohasitall – which is amazing and an incredible daily mirror into how ridiculous some things sound that we just accept people say about women (if the genders were reversed).
And yet, do I have sexism so deeply ingrained in me that it took me an extra minute to realize I seemed to be expecting Chrissy Teigen (Luna’s mom) to be putting together and toy and helping make the cake and cook good, but I was going to congratulate John Legend (Luna’s dad) for doing the exact same work?
(I mean… Chrissy Teigen is a cookbook author, and she does love to cook. So, it is possible that I have that swirling in my brain, if I don’t imagine it as quite such a big deal that she’s cooking… But still!)
Anyway, I’m very sorry for my underlying blind spots. (And I’m trying to keep them in check!) And also, both Chrissy Teigen and John Legend are amazing, and I highly recommend following them on your social media of choice.