Irvine Lake “Summer of Mud” Obstacle Course Run – Blindfolded! (June 21, 2014) – Part 7 (The Water Slide and Wondering About Frames of References)

August 1, 2014

Aurora De Lucia giving a big smile while blindfolded in her start corral of the Irvine Lake Blind Mud Run 2014Picking up from last time –

The most nerve-wracking obstacle to do blind was the water slide. I was warned we’d be fully submerged at the bottom. I don’t know how to swim! And I wasn’t going to be able to see? Well, let’s hope I don’t die.

Nick went down first to be able to help me out of the water. Joanna was behind me and really seemed pretty darn nervous. Part of that made me nervous, but part was actually helpful, because having someone by me who was nervous almost made me want to keep it more together.

I saw later in pictures that people were sliding down holding their noses. That might’ve been smart…

But I didn’t think about it. I just went down and got muddy water all up in my nose. As soon as I hit the water, I started moving my legs and arms, trying to get back above water. Almost instantly, Nick and one of the people manning the slide were helping me out. (I’m pretty sure they thought they were just helping me ’cause I was blind for the day – not ’cause I totally can’t swim…)

Either way, I made it outta there. It was very interesting to me how just being submerged in water for a moment could make me so disoriented. People were telling me to go to the left, and sort of leading me that way. But it sounded like I was just going straight toward people coming down slides (I’d think right into me). However, I trusted the sighted people, since you know, they could see. And I didn’t get hit by anyone, so they certainly did not lead my astray.

Aurora, so tired, during the Irvine Lake Obstacle Course mud run - lying on top of a tiny wall as she climbs itIt was just interesting to me that I really could not tell where I was when I was in the water…

At some point after we were safely back on the course, Joanna commented on how beautiful the lake is. I could picture a beautiful lake because I have seen lakes. I could picture the costumes Joanna and Nick were explaining to me. Heck – I could picture the obstacles when they were described to me. Because I have seen. These are things in my brain that I can call upon.

But what do you think it’s like to be born blind? How do you get a sense of what a lake looks like?

I’m sure there are ways. I’m sure people can draw things in your hand and you feel them, and that’s helpful. You could go get in a lake, and feel it. That would also probably be at least somewhat helpful. but it was interesting to me to think about – if I had never seen a lake – if I had never seen anything at all, so I had absolutely no frame of reference whatsoever – how would I picture a lake in my head? Would I even picture it as a picture? Or would I just have memories of feelings with no visual?

I didn’t do any research to answer those questions, but they were ideas that interested me while out on the course.

Irvine Lake “Summer of Mud” Obstacle Course Run – Blindfolded! (June 21, 2014) – Part 6 (What It Felt Like to Run Blindfolded)

July 31, 2014

Aurora and her guides taking off at the start from behindPicking up from last time

So, I got my guides, got my blindfold, and we went to the start line.

It was odd to me that I really didn’t have a great sense while wearing the blindfold of which way the start line was. I wasn’t completely sure whether we were in the corral or not. The beginning was more confusing than I thought it was going to be.

Soon enough, we were off to the races!

I’ve talked before about running making me feel free – about how sometimes when I run it almost feels like I’m flying. I just love taking those strides…

But I did not really know what this free flying felt like, until I felt it blindfolded. I really felt the wind as I ran through the air. I’d thought I’d felt wind before, but I felt it so much more intensely while being blindfolded. I felt every step too.

I didn’t have a chance to overthink, to get distracted by things – to look in the mirror at my strides at the gym, or to be on the lookout for a mile marker or other things during a race – I was really focusing on one step at a time. And it felt so truly freeing.

Isn’t that weird? You have to concentrate more than usual, and I’d think that might be inhibiting. But to me, for some reason, it felt very freeing.

Getting back to my guides – Nick is a highway patrol officer, and he’s former military. So, he knew how to quickly and calmly describe every obstacle. He’d say things like “we’re gonna run about 350 yards. Then there’s a slatted wall about 10 feet high..” He’d explain, in as great detail as one could with words, what I’d have to do at each obstacle. It was very helpful.

I’ll admit I only had a very light grasp on what 350 yards meant, but thankfully from so much half marathon running, I did have some idea because I know about how far that last tenth is. (It’s 176 yards.)

Tackling the obstacles was funny. I was definitely more cautious than I needed to be…. Afterward, I got to see some photos after the race where I’m carefully putting my hands out, feeling what’s in front of me, “climbing” over short little wooden obstacles – that people who can see are just walking over.

And this is where I’ll pick up next time.

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 16 (Big Kidney Day! – The Social Workers Are Sidling Us)

July 30, 2014

Aurora laughing a bit with rosy cheeks
…killing time waiting for doctors and such. (I don’t have tons of photos, but I do have tons of posts – so basically, it may just be me making silly faces in medical rooms from here on out…

Picking up from last time

When I say I don’t love having visitors, it becomes this whole thing like something’s wrong with me. I tried to explain (as I have in my blog), that the time when you’re actually in the hospital isn’t when you need visitors. You have the whole bustling hospital around you. You’re tired. You look tired. You already have a team of people waiting on you. I’d rather have people once I leave.

But oh no. She thought that was the weirdest freaking thing ever. She was telling me how they expect a lot of visitors to be in there. I think because I was pushing back a little, she overdid it and made me feel like I needed a freaking parade in my room everyday.

(I understand if maybe I get pushed, and I push back, that she feels the need to push even harder. But a social worker should be a bit more calm than this, right?)

Then, the new social worker pipes in. “You called your dad earlier today. Are you close with him? Do you want him there?”

Wait, excuse me. What? How do you know I called my dad?

Earlier, before Big Kidney Say started, when we were all milling about waiting for the doctors to come in, I called my dad just to let him know I’d made it there okay (since I’m horrible with directions (and pretty much with driving in general)).

I stepped to the corner of the room away from everyone else and made a short, quiet phone call. But this woman said she’d been in there watching us! What?!

Some woman was in there being a sidler (you know, like from Seinfeld) to us? She also asked me about things I’d asked in the meeting. For instance, I’d asked about when I could return to running. So she brought that up. “Is running important to you?” Yes. Yes, it is.

It’s fine, I guess. Maybe I should’ve been more observant/thoughtful to who was in the room. Thinking about it later, I had seen her in the listening portion, but assumed she was another person giving a kidney whom I just hadn’t met before the meeting started.

Also, nothing I said or asked was secret. But I just thought it was a little weird that she was paying so much attention me even when I was in the corner of a mini-bustling-ish room, before any nurses or doctors entered – before anything was even beginning to start at all… that this woman was paying enough attention to me to be able to hear me say, “Hi Daddy” in the phone. I know I’m loud, but I’m not that loud!

So, that threw me a bit. Why are you in there kind of spying on us? To me it felt a little icky, but maybe I only felt that way because I was oh so unbelievably annoyed in my conversation with the social workers.

Getting back to the whole visitor thing… Well, let’s pick up there on Sunday.

Irvine Lake “Summer of Mud” Obstacle Course Run – Blindfolded! (June 21, 2014) – Part 5 (Getting Assigned My Guides)

July 29, 2014

Aurora De Lucia with Nick and Joanna after the Irvine Lake Blind Mud Run 2014Picking up from last time

Oh my goodness, did we finally do it? We, finally in part 5 of this story, got to the race? Yee haw!

I went over to the Blindstart tent, got my t-shirt and my bib. They took a million pictures, which obviously I am always down for.

As we waited around, I started wondering when and who to ask about the blindfold. That’s when I overheard one of the coordinators looking for someone to guide an actually blind runner.

Oh no, if they’re having trouble finding guides for people who actually need them, that doesn’t make things look too promising for me. Of course I paid the money, got up early, and came all the way out here for the specific reason of trying this new experience. So, if I just go out there and run in the mud like it’s any other race, I may end up a bit cranky.

Thankfully, even though for a moment it seemed like there might be a problem finding guides, that fear disappeared almost the moment it began. There was a huge group of people running for Blindstart who were part of a smaller, more specific group (supporting a specific person). Now, why I say it was smaller than our whole Blindstart team, I mean barely smaller. The vast majority of the Blindstart team was made up of this (barely) smaller team.

That whole team was taking a group picture – leaving us with only a handful of other people around. That’s why it seemed we might be short. Once the group photo was over, there were more than enough people around who wanted to be guides.

Aurora being led up the side of a mud mountain at the Irvine Lake Mud Run 2014I was paired with wife and husband team Joanna and Nick. They were so sweet, kind and all-around awesome.

Nick and I got bright orange vests with signs on the back of runner and guide.

As I was walking around with my blindfold, preparing to simulate being blind for a while, another runner came over and told me that she thought I was brave to be trying the blindfolded running. She said that last year it seemed like at least half the blindfolded runners gave up on the idea and ripped off their blindfolds midway through the race.

It never even dawned on me to think about doing that. I’m in it to finish this thing! Plus, it’s only 3 miles. Who can’t survive that?

(Usually when I end posts with sentences like that, it’s some sort of foreshadowing… Spoiler alert: Worry not. I never took the blindfold off while on the course.

(Though I will admit what I though would be a measly 5k (ish (slightly longer)) was tougher than I expected..)

We’ll pick up here next time!

Irvine Lake “Summer of Mud” Obstacle Course Run – Blindfolded! (June 21, 2014) – Part 4 (Morning Prepping – Bags, Towels, and Such)

July 28, 2014

Aurora De Lucia being guided up a little muddy hill during the Irvine Lake Summer of Mud run 2014(Sorry for the delay with other stories…)

Picking up from last time

While getting ready in the morning, I was a bit stressed about riding around after the race in my friend’s car (since I didn’t want to get it all muddy and such). So, I tried to make sure I had towels and bags and things.

I was pretty woefully underprepared. I looked for plastic grocery bags, but all I could find were reusable ones with a few paper bags for recycling or what have you. (Curse our sustainable household!)

However, we did indeed have plastic trash bags that did not cross my mind until it was too late. (Kudos to those of you who were already yelling that at your computer screen.)

I grabbed one (one?!) towel with the intention of sitting on it, on the way home (if I were still too dirty for the car). I did wrangle two plastic bags from the Apple Store (yay for hard drive purchases – always a thing of wonderful safety, apparently even down to the bags they come in.

I got a second pair of shoes. (That I knew for sure would be necessary.) I even brought a second hat. (And of course I brought a change of clothes.)

Somehow I forgot sunscreen! How did I, of all people, forget sunscreen? I’m constantly telling everyone in my life they need to wear more sunscreen – and I don’t even bring it on a run? Aye, aye, aye. Where’s my head? …Probably in a very painful sun-induced screaming/crying fit in a little while due to the painful Los Angeles rays.

(I actually was totally fine, but that doesn’t mean it’s smart to not wear sunscreen. It just means I was at least semi-protected with a bunch of other layers of other things, and I was lucky that day.)

I did remember water (very smart) and bars of food (yummy). Then I went on my merry way to the race.

(When we get to the post-race shower and clean up and all of that, we can talk about what I wish I’d brought. Thank goodness for this awesome learning experience – especially since I have a crazy 12-mile obstacle course run coming up in September!)

I’ll pick up here next time.

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 15 (Big Kidney Day! – “But Why?”)

July 27, 2014

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

My parents have told me that ever since I was a little girl, I was basically insufferable because I never, ever, ever took anything at face value. Ever.

It was never, “drink your water.” “Okay!”

It was – “But why do I have to drink water?” “But why is it important to be hydrated?” And on and on.

Apparently, even though this was sometimes frustrating for my parents, I guess it was sometimes fun because we did a bunch of little research activities when I was a young girl so they could explain to me why things worked the way they did.

(And I appreciate that they encouraged me to think that way – to want to understand the world around me… Even now I still like understanding logic behind things and how various things in the world work.)

Now, if you don’t mind me saying so, I’ve also been known as a genius (blegh, that doesn’t sound right to say) my whole life. (I’m in Mensa, for real.) You don’t have to be really smart to be curious about the world around you. But adults always thought that me being smart played into me being curious. I just wanted to learn more. No harm, no foul… sort of.

Many people in life want you to take things at face value without asking for explanations. (This, um, let’s say curiosity of mine sometimes makes authority figures love me, because I take a keen interest in what they’re teaching. Sometimes it makes them hate me, because I’m too curious (or challenging or something like that).)

And maybe I should just let things be how they are… but should I? If things really make sense, there are explanations behind them. Are there not?

I don’t want to make anyone’s life hard or miserable. But it’s usually not that hard to explain something – especially when that something is pretty simple. If all I wanted to know was “Does it have to be my power of attorney? Will the person in the waiting room be someone making medical decisions for me in a worst case scenario?” – that should not be an impossible question to answer!

Who knows. Maybe I didn’t phrase it correctly. Maybe the social workers somehow felt as attacked by me as I was by them. But whatever happened, it basically became a verbal fight!

All I wanted to know was why. But instead I got huff, huff, puff, puff. “It’s major surgery. Obviously someone has to be there. ‘Why’ is a ridiculous question. It doesn’t even make sense that you’re asking it.”

If I responded to one of your questions with that kind of non-answer (and judgement), Ms. veteran social worker, would you just be okay with that?

Then we open up basically a whole can of worms when I say I don’t really love visitors in the hospital. They do not like that.

Just for the record, when I say “they” basically anytime in this social worker portion of the story, I really mean “her.” The new girl was nice. The veteran was the one who wasn’t happy (or patient) at all with me.

I’ll pick up here on Wednesday.

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 14 (Big Kidney Day! – The Social Worker Push Back)

July 23, 2014

Aurora's arm with an IV inserted
Getting some good ol’ contrast in my arm for one of the tests

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

I don’t remember the exact trajectory of the conversation, but somewhere along the way, I felt that they were starting to give me some real push-back.

I’m trying to be a consistently better and more patient person. But I think it’s still my nature that if I’m pushed, I will push back!

They asked me who would be present for the surgery. I innocently asked an easy simple question. (And I think I’m allowed, am I not? I mean, they asked me why I didn’t want to stay with worrisome parents when I have a patient, amazing, medically trained friend… So, if they get questions, I do too!)

So, I ask, oh so innocently, “Why does someone have to be there?”

This is a legitimate question, y’all! The way it works at this hospital is that you go in the day before to get settled, have last minute tests, whatever. Day 2 is the day you have your surgery. (Then you plan to leave on day 4.)

Of course someone needs to drop me off. And someone needs to pick me up. I can get behind those. I can understand that. But honestly tell me, why, on a weekday (in the morning, no less) someone has to drive in for no reason to sit in the waiting room for no reason? Why?!

(Fyi, sure. I’m bitter and really upset now. But at the time, I’m pretty sure I was much more calm… Anyway, getting back to my bitter non-understanding…)

Logically, I don’t understand why someone needs to be there. I don’t know any surgeons ready to rush in and help should something go wrong. I get it, I guess, that people sometimes go to surgeries. Just seems like a waste of time of the people I love.

Aurora's arm with an IV inserted for contrast
I had a slightly different angle of my arm, couldn’t really decide which one I wanted to put in. So, boom. Slapping both pictures in here.

Even if they’re worried about me, maybe they should be doing something productive to pass the time until the surgery’s over and they could actually see me?

But, in all seriousness, if my power of attorney needs to be there – or someone who can make the medical decisions should something go wrong, okay. I could perhaps understand that (even though we do have phones).

But I genuinely ask, because it’s important to know which person needs to be in the waiting room, the innocent question of “why?”

Then, I get back a very defensive “What do you mean why?!” At that point, I try to explain what I just explained to you. But all I get is, “You’re having major surgery. That’s why.”

Um, does that answer my question of if it needs to be my power of attorney? No. I don’t believe it does.

We’ll pick up with more of this incredibly unhelpful conversation Sunday.

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 13 (Big Kidney Day! – Talking With The Social Workers)

July 20, 2014

big chairs at OSU medical center
This doesn’t have anything to do with this post, but look at how huge the chairs were at OSU!

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

So, my first meeting was with the social workers. There were two of them. One was new and being trained.

The vibe in the room didn’t necessarily seem right from the moment they walked in. I kept trying to cut the tension. (It was so thick you needed more than a knife – you needed a at least a chainsaw!)

I’d quip things like “hmmm, you sure are writing down a lot.” I was trying to be funny! I said things with a smile and maybe even a little lilt.

But everything was so freaking serious! The more established social worker would say something back like “Does that bother you? Why don’t you want us taking notes about you.” It was like “Geez. Can nothing be fun in this room?”

As I said before, it was SO not my previous hospital experience. All I’d ever known from a hospital was a place where we could laugh and dance to Thriller. Not here!

Now, the social workers were explaining how incredibly important it was to have a support system and people to look after you. I was a little like “yeah, sure.” But I went along with what they wanted.

They asked who’d be taking care of me. I said my amazing friend Emily volunteered to let me stay with her. She’s one of the most caring people I know. She’s a certified EMT. She’s one of my closest friends. Why not stay with her?

big chairs at OSU medical center
Another angle. It may have been a rough day, but at least I got to feel like a tiny adorable girl in a giant’s house! (These chairs were bigger than some New York apartments I’ve seen. 😉

But the social workers gave me grief about that. “Don’t your parents live here?” Yes, they do. “Why don’t you want to stay with them?”

Can we just stop for a second to ponder why this was even a real question. I’m not 17 years old. If I come back to the town where I went to high school and stay with a friend instead of my parents, is this really so much cause for alarm?

But whatever. People are certainly allowed to ask whatever questions they want. So, I explain that sometimes parents care so much about you that it’s actually a little stressful. My parents were so worried about my health with heart stuff that I didn’t want them around all the time.

They were more worried about me than I was. It invites too much worry about placating somebody else when you need to focus on yourself.

Plus, I adore Emily! And she’s a medical professional! It would only make sense to be in her care if she is oh so sweetly offering.

The social worker didn’t love this. Somewhere in the conversation, some real push-back started happening. And this is where we’ll pick up on Wednesday.

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 12 (Big Kidney Day! – Realizing This Is Not Like My Previous Hospital Experience)

July 16, 2014

Aurora sitting in a hosptial bed
A photo from my time back at Mass General. I knew they were awesome there… little did I know how awesome they were

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

In addition to the kind and patient surgeons, the nurses also spoke with us.

They made it overly extremely clear – if you ever change you mind, for any reason, at literally any point – even if you’re in the hospital prepped for surgery – it is not to late to back out.

Okay, I get it. I can wuss out at any time. But I’m good. (They really hammered that home (really, really, really hammered it hard). I guess that’s nice of them to try to be so unbelievably sure that people don’t feel pressured in any way…)

One person in our talk was smart enough to record the whole talk on his phone so that once he got home, if he forgot something, he could listen… I took copious notes. So, I feel good that I got everything. But, if your center allows it, recording the big lecture might not be a bad idea so that you can always go back to it.

After the talk, we got to have one-on-one meetings with everyone involved. This is where it all started to go south…

I haven’t had many experiences with social workers in my life. The last (and only) time I can remember dealing with a social worker was at Mass General during all my heart stuff. *Beautiful harp memory/dreamy transition music plays.*

Everyone at Mass General was so wonderful, sweet, special, kind, amazing, fantastic… there are not enough adjectives to describe their awesomeness! Impossible!

At Mass General, the lovely, beautiful, patient social worker (and everyone else involved in my case) was all about helping me. I was the patient. All patients deal with health and surgery differently. And she just wanted to make sure that I was very well taken care of – in the way that was right for me.

(from www.AurorasBlog.com)
Another random pic from Mass General, when I was playing with my hair color and such. 😛

Now, if you’ve read my series of posts about my time in the hospital as a heart patient, you know that I did not want people up my butt all the time! What is fun about that? You’re sick. You’re tired. You’re not looking great. You’re already surrounded by 80 million other people.

As I’ve said on this blog before, being at home can be lonely. But for me, being in the hospital is not lonely. And I don’t love tons of people visiting me there.

(Even if a select few friends – whom I greatly appreciated – knew exactly how to treat me, what days/times were right to come, and exactly how to handle me… It doesn’t mean I want anyone on the actual day of surgery. And it doesn’t mean I want the cavalcade.)

At Mass Gen, they were all about accommodating me. When my family started threatening to come visit, the social worker was all, “Don’t worry! We’re happy to make a no visitors order for you, and people won’t be allowed in your room. Whatever you need.”

When I said I didn’t live with anyone and would be going home to my empty apartment, the social worker and nurses were all, “Hmm. We could get a home nurse to check in on you… You know what, though? You’re young and strong. You’ll be fine.”

They had complete faith I could take care of myself.

And I was! Heck, I went to the studio at school the very night I got out of the hospital to work on a project – that I got an A on, by the way!

So, Mass General was all about me. Wexner Medical Center? Not so much. Let’s talk about that on Sunday.

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 11 (Big Kidney Day! – The Beginning)

July 13, 2014

feet dancing on the Billie-Jean-like light up squares outside the Met Lofts
When I was first getting tests done in California, I passed these awesome squares on the way to the lab! I obviously had to do a little dance break, pretending I was in the Billy Jean video

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

So, I get to Big Kidney Day at a time of morning I don’t like to see unless it means I’m still up (or running a marathon). But, I was happy (ish) to do it if it meant giving a kidney.

Considering I’d already had to pee for these people 40 billion times, I did not use the bathroom before I got there – fully prepared for them to say, “Pee for us!” right when I got in. And wouldn’t you know it? I did in fact need to pee for them.

(I almost forgot until later, they’d warned us in the confirmation letter that we’d need to give a urine sample when we got there. So, I wasn’t all that cool for not peeing that morning – as that was more just paying attention and apparently semi-remembering, not thinking ahead in a cool knowing way. Wah wah. Moving on…)

I met some of the other potential kidney donors as we were waiting for the day to start. Everyone seemed quite nice.

We were taken back into the office one by one, and weighed on this humongous scale. Also, we got what I like to refer to as our mugshots

We had to hold up a sign in front of us with our name and maybe even our patient number. (Plus it was 7:30 in the morning. So, I probably looked a little like a mess (just as I’d kinda think many people do in their mugshots – from whatever situation landed them in jail).)

Before you knew it, Big Kidney Day began. We got yet another packet of paperwork. (Some papers we needed to fill out. Some were more to read.)

The nurses and doctors talked to us. In case we hadn’t learned enough from the reading packet and the DVD, the doctors were extremely thorough in explaining everything.

If there’s reason to believe one of your kidneys functions better than the other one, that one stays with you. If there’s no reason to believe that, you’re more likely to have your left kidney taken because the vein is almost always thicker and longer on that side.

They told us about the 4 days in the hospital and what to expect on each one.

They also shared that there’s a federal mandate that they monitor you a 1 month, 6 months, 12 months, and 24 months post-surgery.

They tell you about the small scars you’ll have (since they do it laparoscopically).

You’ll be on a lifetime ban from NSAIDs (Motrin, Advil, Aleve, etc.) Of course, sign me up for this because I hate pills!

For 6 months after your surgery, your remaining kidney will grow a bit. You’ll never be at 100% of the kidney function you once had – but we have extra that we don’t need. You’ll perform at about 2/3 what you usually did, and for most adults that’s still plenty enough to live a normal life.

In Ohio, you can write off any expenses incurred due to being a living donor on your state taxes. That doesn’t affect me, but just thought I’d bring it up if any of you are curious.

Someone asked if alcohol would be an issue. I don’t really drink, but if I decide I want to, I’m free to get crunk! The surgeons said having one kidney shouldn’t affect alcohol consumption since that’s more about your liver.

This is where we’ll pick up with more of the talk next time.

Irvine Lake “Summer of Mud” Obstacle Course Run – Blindfolded! (June 21, 2014) – Part 3 (Yeah, We’re Still Talking About the Outfit – Pants & Shoes)

July 12, 2014

Aurora sliding down into the side of a muddy pitPicking up from yesterday –

I had my shirt all ready to go. Now I needed my pants. As one might suspect, vanity was my downfall here. Ah vanity, getting me every time.

My thought was, “You’re gonna be covered in mud and water and everything. Don’t wear pants that are too tight in any places, because when you’re sopping, any tight areas are going to be revealed.”

This was a horrendous thought process. I did indeed wear a nice loose set of pants – with heavy fabric – and they felt like they were gonna fall down on the course multiple times! What kind of genius goes to a mad run in the heaviest (and some of the loosest) pants they have?

Wear thin fabrics that aren’t going to weigh you down so much, Aurora. Wear pants that fit snugly and aren’t going to keep partially sliding off as you go up and down and all around crazy obstacles. Aye, aye, aye.

At least I made a nice decision with my shoes. I’d tried on these Brooks Dyads at an expo once, and I loved them. But I didn’t have the money in my budget to buy them at that expo. So, a few months later I ordered them online. However, there was some update or something that slightly changed them. They didn’t work as well for me with the change.

I didn’t want to waste perfectly good shoes. So I’ve worn them sometimes for non-marathon training type things, but I knew they were never going to be wildly useful shoes to me… until… (duh, duh, duh – *triumphant chords*) Irvine Lake Mud Run!

Aurora De Lucia trying to make it through the mud as a blindfolded runner at the Irvine Lake Mud Run Summer of Mud 2014Nice sturdy shoes that really are overall good shoes (even if not my marathon shoe of choice) that won’t be wasted by only wearing them one more time, but also won’t be missed if I never see them again – these are definitely the ones to go with. *Correct-shoes-on-hand dance*

As far as why the Kanye shirt ended up being moot – it didn’t really dawn on me that all the people running for Blindstart would be wearing the same shirt. Truthfully, I didn’t even totally know that we were just one group within the race – as opposed to it being a Blindstart race – until I gleaned it from the emails as the day got closer.

I’m not used to wearing a race shirt given to me at the race on race day – because I know the rules… the unwritten race rules – only newbs wear the race shirt before they complete the race… but I didn’t count on getting an extra charity shirt, ’cause I haven’t done a lot of running with charities.

So, that’s how the clothes came together. Uh, but how am I going to transport them? How many bags and towels and things do you need for a mud run? Oh goodness. That’s up next.

(P.s. I’m sorry to keep starting and stopping stories, but we have to talk about my birthday before we get a million years away from June. So, let’s explore that. And then let’s come back to this and Hillary Clinton. Thanks!)

Irvine Lake “Summer of Mud” Obstacle Course Run – Blindfolded! (June 21, 2014) – Part 2 (What Am I Gonna Wear?)

July 11, 2014

Aurora mid-climb over a short wall at the obstacle course mud runPicking up from last time

The night before the race, I was wondering what kind of fabulously cute outfit I wanted to wear to try my best to look great in the photos from my first mud run – when my friend James pointed out that I do not want to wear a super cute outfit that I love in case the outfit gets so wrecked that I’m never able to wear it again.

For the record, I’m not completely oblivious to life and how things work. I’d had that thought earlier, around the time I’d signed up. At some point, it just fluttered out of my head as my super vanity took over.

Then I started looking for things I wouldn’t mind potentially ruining. I *just* did another purge of my closet within the last couple of weeks.

(I was pretty much hemorrhaging clothes, because I was getting things in my new size, but all my clothes that fit me when I was fatter still existed in my room. I thought, “I can’t take this anymore!” So, now I’m down to probably about 10 or so outfits – and that includes everything! Workout clothes, dressy clothes, office attire – I have maybe 10 looks. (It’s pretty much all workout clothes with a couple jeans and a dress or two thrown in.))

So, I’m rummaging through my clothes. And I find a shirt from a Kanye West concert! To me, this is the perfect thing to wear. It’s special to me – special enough for my first mud run – because an awesome memory is attached to that shirt. My dad bought it for me when we went to a spectacular, beyond words, insanely incredible Kanye West concert together.

Aurora De Lucia standing in the dirt facing away, not knowing where to look during a blindfolded obstacle course mud run
Apparently I have no idea which way is forward when I can’t see…

But shouting from the rooftops “I’m a Kanye West fan” meant something different in 2007 than it does in 2014.

I’ve said on this blog before that I feel bad for him and he’s free to do whatever he wants, of course.

I don’t want to sound judge-y about him, ’cause no one deserves to be judged.

But I also don’t necessarily want to wear a Kanye shirt around anymore in my day-to-day life.

So, I think I’ve found the perfect shirt because it’s special enough to wear for an exciting new adventure, but I probably won’t be wearing it around anytime soon. So, let’s do this.

However, that idea becomes moot later when it dawns on me we’re all wearing the same shirt. So, I suppose what I’m saying is forget everything you just read ’cause it maters not now. And let’s talk more about the race tomorrow!

Irvine Lake “Summer of Mud” Obstacle Course Run – Blindfolded! (June 21, 2014) – Part 1 (Signing Up & Sort Of Prepping)

July 10, 2014

Aurora De Lucia posing blindfolded before running the Irvine Lake Summer of Mud obstacle course mud runWhat?!

Yes, indeed. I completed the 3 1/2-ish mile obstacle course run while blindfolded!

(I say “ish” because the FAQs say longer than a 5k, shorter than 4 miles. Anyway, an over-3-mile run…)

“Why would you want to run it blindfolded?” – you’re possibly wondering.

The moment I found out this opportunity existed, I knew I just had to do it. It sounded different, interesting, cool, wonderful. It sounded like an experience – one I really wanted to – practically needed to – try!

I’d been looking on volunteermatch.org for volunteer opportunities when I read about this charity – Blind Start – looking for people to run with blindfolded runners, as guides. I thought, “run as a guide?! Forget that! How do I become a blindfolded runner?!” (Sure, it sounds fun in it’s own way and everything. But I must do a blindfolded obstacle course mud run now that I know this is a thing.)

Blindstart is a 501(c)3 charity whose missing is to “help blind and visually impaired persons learn and develop job skills to enable them to ultimately lead lives of independence.” So, they gave this opportunity to runners to go blindfolded with a guide so we could physically understand what it would be like to tackle the course if we were blind.

Aurora with a "blind runner" sign on her back before the Lake Irvine obstacle course mud runI’d never done an obstacle course race before. This was definitely the way to start!

So, I signed up, chose the option of blindfolded runner, and got pumped.

I would say I got ready – but what did I really do to get ready? Nothing.

I thought “eh, 3 miles? Pretty confident I could do that in my sleep, Holmes.” As far as the obstacles were concerned – what? We do a bit of crawling and climbing? I can probably do that. I go to Bar Method. It’s only 3 miles! How many obstacles could there be?

As far as the being blind part was concerned, Blind Start had a few practices available for the blindfolded runners. I asked if it would be okay if I weren’t able to make it. They said it wasn’t a problem as far as they were concerned – as long as I didn’t mind going out blind. (Good use of my words there, right?)

I definitely didn’t mind. I thought it’d be fun to experience it for the first time on the actual course. (And oh, was it ever.)

The only thing I really did to get ready was putting my stuff together, and I got a big ol’ F as my grade on that – which is what we’ll talk about Monday night (after Sunday night kidney stories).

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 10 (Flying To Ohio)

July 9, 2014

Aurora with a FedEx package of cheek swabs
When I was FedExing my cheek swabs to Ohio (months before this visit – ah, how exciting and simple things were ;))

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

So, all the blood, urine, cheek swabs, blood pressure readings, past medical records – all that jazz was approved.

That meant the next step was going into the hospital for some tests. For me, since I was being tested at a hospital in Ohio, this meant flying out there.

It wasn’t a huge deal. A bunch of people I love live there out there. I love getting away from Los Angeles whenever I get a chance. I wasn’t working at the time. So, what’s the harm?

I was prepared to stay in Ohio for many weeks, because I thought I was going to basically go and give a kidney.

I’d asked at the beginning of the process how long it usually takes from start to finish. The donor coordinator said it usually takes about three months. I started my testing in December. We were going into March now. So, we were right about at the 3-month mark.

Plus, all I had left were some tests performed at their hospital and the “Big Kidney Day” they do there. My understanding was that once you were approved, they basically worked around the donor’s schedule.

I knew March/early April was looking like a good time for me life/work-wise. So, I was ready. I packed ready to stay for 8 weeks to finish up the testing, get into surgery soon after, and then recover.

Oh goodness were my roommates (and I) surprised to see me back just two weeks later.

I mean, I always knew there was a chance I wouldn’t be approved… I heard this crazy story about someone who made it all the way to one of the final tests – the CT scan with contrast of her kidneys. Only in that test did she finally learn, she’d only been born with ONE kidney! Her whole life she’d only had one kidney but never knew… Why would she? When was the last time you saw your kidneys?

(By the way, that’s my go-to story whenever ever anyone says, “How will you function without one of your kidneys?!” Well, for all you know, you might be doing that in this very moment!)

Anyway, I knew there was a chance I wouldn’t be able to give – but I never, ever in a million years thought it would be for the lame reasons for which they turned me away. (Can you tell I’m still bitter? ;))

So, once or twice a month they have “Big Kidney Day” at the hospital. They don’t call it Big Kidney Day. But I do, because why not?

What happens is everyone who’s considering giving a kidney, and has gotten past the initial few months of testing, comes in together for one big meeting. (It’s easier to get everyone in on the same day.) My Big Kidney Day was March 4th (at 7:30am(!!!) read: 4:30am for someone still feeling California time). (Ow.)

Let’s talk about big kidney day next time.

Why Something New On My Birthday Every Year?

July 8, 2014

Aurora prepping to trapeze at Santa Monica Pier
This was trapeze-ing – my new thing from 2012

In case you haven’t heard, every year on my birthday, I do something I’ve never done before.

I know we’re talking about this in July (instead of June) because we’ve been busy talking about kidneys, Hillary Clinton, and mud runs – oh my!

For the record, my birthday is indeed in June. It’s June 25th – halfway between Christmas and Christmas (and the anniversary of Michael Jackson’s death).

I started this whole doing something I’ve never done before in 2010. Coincidentally, that was 1 year following Michael Jackson’s death.

In case you’re not an avid blog reader of mine, I love and adore Michael Jackson. He was the reason I was inspired to get into the entertainment industry. I was inspired by him to try to be a better person and do the charity work I do (though admittedly some of that is also Cory Booker and my dad and other good influences).

But Michael Jackson was a humongous part of my life (even though I never met him), and it was pretty devastating when he died… in fact, I always (half-jokingly) say my heart literally broke when he died, because that was around the time I found out about my heart issues.

In 2010, I put on a public workshop of a musical I’d written. I’d never performed a full musical I’d written for a public audience before. So, that was something new.

There wasn’t some master plan to start this “new thing every year.” It just sort of happened that between my job starting with America’s Got Talent and wrapping things up on the east coast – leaving school and my apartment and all that jazz – my birthday ended up being the weekend I could make it work. So, that’s what I did.

Aurora posing exhaustedly on the a trampoline after SkyRobics 2013
from SkyRobics – June 25, 2013

It was nice to ring in my birthday with a project. Quite honestly, while in the car running last-minute errands before the show, I cried a little as I listened to the station playing all Michael Jackson all day, honoring his life on this anniversary of his death.

Even before Michael Jackson died, my birthday has not always been the best day. It seems like things always go wrong – someone breaks into my apartment and I get robbed, or other smaller things get wonky. It’s just never seemed to be an awesome day.

And especially now that my role model died on my birthday, I could tell on that first anniversary that it would be an extremely sad day. And I wouldn’t necessarily want to get up and do anything. So, instead of wasting the day wallowing, thinking about how rough June 25ths seem to be – it’s better to grab the day and really do something with it.

It’s also a bit of tempting fate – like, “what’s up? You usually make this day pretty crummy. I’m gonna go on a police ride a long [or whatever]. What do you have to say about that?”

Someday when I then die on my birthday, feel free to talk about how foolish I was.

So, in 2010, after inadvertently starting this tradition, I thought it’d be a nice one to continue.

Tomorrow, we’ll talk about what I did this year.

Police Ride Along – Some Thoughts

July 7, 2014

Aurora giving wide eyes in the police cruiser while parked during her police ride-alongBefore going on the ride-along, I just thought about it as this semi-adventure of trying something new and maybe seeing somebody get handcuffed and Miranda-ed and all that.

I didn’t think about all the actual problems in our world when it comes to people and our justice system and all of that.

I talked with officers a bit about the homelessness problem in southern California.

Earlier this year during my 52 volunteer activities, I fed the homeless on Skid Row.

I thought I’d been doing something good and helpful, but when I talked about it with the officers, they said that some programs that just feed people, but don’t give them any other services (such as help in finding a job or a home), don’t actually help them. They said homeless people can grow to rely on free food, and then can continue to stay homeless without any plan for their future.

After hearing about it from the officers’ perspective, I could see how feeding people who are homeless might really not be helpful after all.

We also talked about the high rate of recidivism back into the prison system once someone has already been in it. We talked about overcrowding, and not even being able to arrest people (or keep them) for some smaller offenses anymore.

Maybe in some ways that’s good that people aren’t getting locked away for some smaller offenses.

But I just felt like I left with so many unanswered questions – not because the officers weren’t helpful. They were so open and informative and awesome. But there seem to be some questions that don’t necessarily have answers.

How do we truly help people? How do we curb homelessness? How do we equip prisoners to never end up in jail again?

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 9 (Lab Tests)

July 6, 2014

Aurora De Lucia excited ti be holding her jug of pee
Look at how excited I am about that jug of pee 🙂

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time –

Once I got home from that sweet vacation with my dad (which really is more like picking up from two posts ago (sorry!)), I had to have three blood pressure readings.

They could be self-reported. So, I went and took pictures of the monitor at the local drugstore. (Pictures weren’t required. But I took them to be thorough.)

One of my blood pressure readings was done at my gynecologist’s office, ’cause I happened to be getting my yearly pap smear in that time period – which is actually one of the requirements needed by the kidney people. So, that worked out nicely.

I sent those things in. I also had to send in some self-administered cheek swabs. And with everything looking good, I got to move on to some blood draws and urine collections (yee haw) at a lab by my apartment.

I didn’t write down how many times I had to make trips to the lab. It felt like it a million, but it was probably about 7-ish. At least one test was done while fasting (and I wasn’t warned that I’d need to be). Usually, I tried to go in immediately after waking up, to cover my bases just in case.)

I’m not sure what each different blood test was for, but I was definitely pricked multiple times. Of course, this was no big deal. When I was in the hospital they used to wake me up in the middle of the night to make sure they got blood draws every however many hours. So, once every few days is nothing.

Aurora De Lucia smiling with specimen bag
…And a little smile pose, because why not? 🙂

I will say though, bring a book here! The lab didn’t take appointments, so I kept having to just show up and wait. And wait. And wait, and wait.

I got pretty good at kind of understanding what days/times were usually less busy than others.

As I mentioned, in addition to the blood tests, there were urine tests. Some were just in a little cup, but I had to do a 24-hour urine collection on 3 separate occasions. They give you this big orange jug. You take it home, and keep it by your toilet. And every time you pee in a 24-hour window, you put that pee in the jug.

I see how this could be an annoyance in someone’s day-to-day life. A lot of people are out living and doing some of their peeing at work or at other places that aren’t their homes.

Also, some people share bathrooms. (I am lucky enough to have my own bathroom.) But for people who don’t, it might be a little annoying to your roommates – “Uh, why is there a jug of pee by this toilet?” “Oh, good question. Funny story…”

But, a pee jug (or two if you drink a lot of water, as apparently I do) in your home for a total of 72-hours isn’t really that big of an inconvenience as far as I’m concerned.

All of those tests kept coming back great, and we’ll pick up here next time.

Police Ride-Along! (June 25, 2014’s Something New) – Part 6 (Taking T to the VA)

July 5, 2014

Aurora De Lucia ponders if she's a good cop, or a bad copPicking up from yesterday –

So, the officer is working on convincing T to go with us.

I can feel that he almost might. So, I jump in to the mixture, leaning in, asking, “would you please mind going with us? We’d love to give you a ride over there. Come on. Just ride with us. It won’t hurt you to take a ride.”

He reluctantly agrees! Yay! Can you believe it? I sort of felt like I helped! *pat on my own back, small hair flip*

When I relayed that story to a friend, he said it sounded like “good cop, nicer cop” tehehe. I thought that was quite a funny way to explain it.

So, Officer Holloway and I talk to T on the way to the VA. I ask if he has any kids. He says, “not as far as I know!” Hardy-har-har.

We got to the VA, and Officer Holloway made sure he fought for T to really have someone in his corner looking out for him. We met another veteran there – J who is staying in an apartment on a the VA campus. He was telling T all about how he could be housed there and how if T would only wait until 9:30 he’d even take the shuttle over with him to talk to a case worker!

We were told that of course T couldn’t get his knee surgery until he was sober for a bit (I don’t know how long there needs to not be any alcohol in his system.) But, there was even a program to help with sobriety on the campus.

T seemed extremely skeptical about everything… Although, who knows – perhaps he should’ve been. I don’t know the system or how it all works. All I know is that I really hope he stuck around and was able to get the help he needed.

After our time at the VA, Officer Holloway took me back to my friend’s apartment. Before the ride along was officially over, we did take a few pose-y pictures of me in and around the police cruiser.

I asked if I could sit in the back and hold the bars on the window as though I was getting arrested. Officer Holloway said I definitely did not want to do that, ’cause I have no idea whose been in the back of that vehicle peeing and spitting and who knows what.

Okay then.

Before I said goodbye, I found out that Officer Holloway’s partner had arrested a sex offender while we were at the VA! I don’t know any details, but it sounded dramatic, and we totally missed out on it.

Though I will say, even though most of my friends reacted with “I can’t believe you missed an arrest!” – I think I’m happier having interacted with someone who will possibly be helped rather than interact with someone who’s being punished and thrown in jail (though perhaps, maybe also helped in ways he needs – who knows)…

As the sun was now out and the day beginning, I snuck back into my friend’s house just in time to wake him up for work – with June 25th, 2014’s experience complete.

Police Ride-Along! (June 25, 2014’s Something New) – Part 5 (Stop at the Station & Meeting T)

July 4, 2014

Aurora laughing while leaning against a police cruiserPicking up from last time –

So, the homeless guy throwing spirits, when asked for his ID, gave a printout of a previous arrest report!

Do you find that funny? Because I pretty much do.

He was given another citation – which he tore up right in front of us. Technically, I think he could’ve then been given another one for littering, but the police officers didn’t give him any more.

When he was told he had to leave the premises, he started stashing away his cardboard box in the bush behind him. The officers were like, “yeah, don’t do that… Ya can’t treat this closed property as your home.”

We had to make a stop by the station to write up a quick PCD on someone who’d been arrested the night before – since a judge needed to review his case today. A PCD, by the way, is a probable cause declaration, explaining why someone’s been arrested. Isn’t that cool that I’m learning police lingo?

While we at the station, I see some of the officers I met earlier that morning have also come back because they’re measuring out drugs in the evidence room. Somebody got busted.

Officer Holloway fills out the PCD. Then we get back on our way.

That’s when we meet our new friend. I’m not sure that I should give his name on the blog,, so I’ll call him T.

He was lying on the sidewalk. He seemed a bit disoriented (though I guess wouldn’t we all if we’d just been woken up). But we found out he drank a lot – so I think that was part of it. He had some abrasions on his forehead, and we thought he might’ve fallen – possibly due to his bad knee, or to alcohol.

We found out he was a veteran who’d served in the Navy for literally decades. (I know. It’s a morning full of sadness, as we’d suspected it might be.)

Officer Holloway told him he’d really like to take him to the VA, have T’s forehead and knee examined. T didn’t have that much faith. “I’ve been to the VA before. They’re not helpful!” But the officer tried to explain that the VA is under a lot of scrutiny now and maybe it would be a helpful place.

Think we could perhaps get him to go with us? Let’s find out tomorrow.

Police Ride-Along! (June 25, 2014’s Something New) – Part 4 (Some Morning Patrolling)

July 3, 2014

Aurora De Lucia giving a semi-tough face into a walkie-talkie in the front of a police cruiser
“Grr, book him!” is the face I’m trying to rock there.

Picking up from yesterday –

So, we head out on the town, doing some patrolling and such.

First, we found a guy sleeping in a closed park. I felt so bad for him! We started talking about his situation and why he was sleeping in a park. He’d lost his job; his last parent died. One sad thing after another seemed to be happening to him. I wondered, “Is this going to be a morning of all the saddest stuff ever?”

The officers gave him some advice of some places around that could help him – but all of the places that serve the homeless are apparently only open during business hours. There’s needs to be a place that will take people at any time of night.

I know of at least two places in New York City like that (though one is only for younger people – I believe under 22 years old…. but one will take anybody). I know those places can exist. Why don’t they in Santa Monica?

So, I don’t know where the poor park-sleeper went. I do know he looked very tired. For all I know, he walked away for a minute, then went right back to the park. Wherever he went, I hope he’s okay…

We stopped by a 7-11 a little later. I almost wanted to get a donut to try to play into the stereotypical cop role. But, that wasn’t healthy, and it wasn’t fair to police officers. So, I didn’t.

We found two more homeless guys on closed properties. One was trying to tell us a story about how a stranger had given him 50 billion dollars. (The details changed when he told it to Officer Holloway’s partner – not that we really suspected the story was all that legit in the first place.)

Turned out this guy had a number of citations for this same offense. So, he got another one. And that’s all that happened there.

As far as 2nd of those two homeless guys – he was making a bunch of hand gestures, trying to rid himself of the spirits that we were bringing over. He seemed pretty nice to the two officers, but he was not happy to see me there! He just kept asking, “who’s that girl?! I have nothing to do with her! I didn’t steal her stuff!”

We tried to explain that weren’t accusing him of stealing anyone’s stuff. But he was not hearing us. So, I kicked it in the cruiser while the officers talked to him.

This is where I’ll pick up next time.

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 8 (Why I Look Forward To Giving To A Stranger)

July 2, 2014

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

[Edited to add: The guy I originally tried to give to from MatchingDonors… He died 3 days after this posted, waiting for a kidney. So, that’s really devastatingly sad. And also, makes me feel a little weird about trying to see the silver lining about giving to a stranger. But it also kind of drills the point home that if you don’t ever get entangled emotionally about a stranger’s life, you won’t have this weird sadness about someone you never knew.]

I mentioned in the last post, that after learning if things don’t work out at one hospital/with one person, you can actually give to a new stranger – like never know/never meet them type of stranger. Spoiler alert (I suppose, though I have mentioned it many times haha): I was rejected from this hospital completely… Ultimately for various reasons, I was not able to give a kidney to the man I originally was there to try to give to. But at least now we’re like semi-friends, or at least acquaintances. And I can’t wait for the day when I find out he’s gotten a kidney from someone else!

So, anyway, since me being an integral part of his journey seems off the table, let’s get into all the silver linings of giving to a stranger – which is what I’ll be doing next!

For one thing, which has been mentioned (sorry to retread ground here), I do not want to be judge and jury! I don’t want to decide based on a profile and a photo who deserves to get her life back and who doesn’t. That is too much pressure. Plus too much bias can seep in.

Also, I don’t want this person to feel beholden to me for the rest of her life. I don’t want her to feel pressured to send me holiday cards or to show me she’s using her kidney in crazy adventures. If she is, great. But I don’t want her to feel nervous that I’m watching her.

Also, let’s get real. I might watch her a little! If I see that that person’s being really irresponsible and not taking care of her kidney, I’m probably not going to be the most pleased person in the world. (I get that we’re all human. But do I want to see that?)

Not to mention, what if the person does every single thing she’s supposed to – she takes all her medicines, eats great, exercises – but her body rejects my kidney? The chances of that happening are small. But it is possible. I do NOT want to see that.

I so awesome about the idea of never having any idea who got my kidney.

Some people have been playing devil’s advocate with me. “If you never know, then how do you know you didn’t save a serial killer or someone else who does horrific things?”

I won’t know. But I just have to hope that that didn’t happen. And even if my kidney saved a serial killer (although really, let’s not think like this), it got a non-serial killer closer to the top of the list. Teeniest tiniest silver lining ever, perhaps?

But I mean, if we’re going to big extremes here, maybe if my kidney goes to a serial killer, it bumps up the person who’s gonna cure cancer and world hunger up just enough that they get to live and do that. (Realistically, it’s not gonna go to outliers like that. so, I don’t know why we’re being like this haha.)

I believe in humans. And I believe there are no “good” or “bad” people, but that we all do some good and some bad things (some more than others).

Most of us strive to do more good than bad. I believe my kidney will help the world more than it will hinder it. And I choose to believe that the person who gets it is one of the people trying to do more good than bad in her life.

More kidney story coming at you next time!

Police Ride-Along! (June 25, 2014’s Something New) – Part 3 (Aurora Sticks Her Foot in Her Mouth)

July 1, 2014

Aurora laughing with a walkie talkie in a police cruiserPicking up from last time –

So, we’re at the station. And I’m reading the bulletin board… Aye, aye, aye.

I probably should just gloss over this part, because why admit when I embarrass myself? But, embarrassment is part of life. Plus, if I never talk about when I embarrass myself, what would I ever talk about, right?

So, I’m reading the bulletin board. There’s this thing on there about this guy who killed his whole family decades ago. He’s now in his 80s. A $100,000 reward is being offered for his capture.

A sculptor was even brought in to make a bust that would show what the guy probably looks like now after all these years.

Now, of course it’s absolutely terrible that he killed his family. Obviously, it’s horrible. There are no words to describe that tragedy.

But, I started wondering out loud why so much effort is going into finding one person… I wouldn’t think there’s a loved one of a victim behind it because the whole family’s dead… I’m sure they had friends and things, so maybe those people are still carrying this torch.

At first I didn’t assume friendship would be that strong to still be pushing hard after decades, but friendship is amazing. So, maybe.

Also, I’m just sort of curious why the FBI is putting a lot of work into a guy who – as far as they’ve mentioned in the paper – hasn’t killed again, and isn’t suspected of any other crimes…

Aurora in the passenger seat, sticking her head outside a police cruiserI thought that was sort of the point of getting criminals off the street – making sure more people don’t get hurt. I’m of the mindset that if this dude totally snapped, he’s probably dead by this point if he still isn’t captured.

Maybe not. What do I know? Maybe he’s living the high life on some island somewhere. But I just figured there have to be more current criminals who are in the midst of sprees and horrible things I don’t even want to think about.

I very stupidly mentioned that on Criminal Minds they’ve said in different episodes that people have stopped killing when they’re too old because it’s so physically taxing.

And this officer is all “oh, ’cause TV always gets it right!”

This was in the middle of a back and forth, ’cause he already started in on me when I was wondering why so much energy is being put into someone who doesn’t sound like a big current risk…

He tells me about how justice is important! It doesn’t matter how much time has passed. People need to pay for their crimes. And then I start feeling horrible, ’cause he’s all “what if it had been your loved one who’d died?”

And I tried to dig myself out of the hole like, “well, I just meant – ” And of course if I tried to say anything else, my foot just went deeper and deeper in my mouth.

It was rough. And I was in the wrong. And I shouldn’t act so nonchalant about any criminals. And I felt so bad!

Thankfully, Officer Holloway could see how bad I felt and only playfully ribbed my about it instead of putting me in time out of anything…

And we’ll go out on the actual beat tomorrow!

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 7 (Saying No To People Who Asked For A Kidney)

June 29, 2014

plastic model of kidneys
A plastic model of kidneys from the transplant office

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

I’d been approved to start the process.

At at the beginning, they told me even if I didn’t end up being a match for the original guy, there would be many other people here who needed kidneys and there would be a way to make sure I donate to someone. So, I was sure, no matter what, I was going to be giving a kidney here. (BAHAHAHAHAHAHA… Little did I know!)

Anyway, I took that time to respond back to everyone on MatchingDonors, saying I was no longer looking for someone. I’d found my hospital.

It was a little heart-wrenching to basically say, “You know how you really, really wanted a kidney and you’re super nice and all, well you can’t have mine. Good luck!”

(Obviously I phrased it better than that (I hope!). But it still felt callous and rough nonetheless.)

Some didn’t respond, which is totally fine. I mean, what are you really going to say? Some responded with encouraging words, thanking me for working toward be a living kidney donor at all – even if it wasn’t to them.

Some weren’t done fighting for themselves, saying if anything went wrong in the process and I had to start with a new person or go somewhere else to please keep them in mind.

At the time I thought, “Like that could ever happen.” But now I see that they’ve been on the list long enough to know the process is not always as smooth as one would hope.

legend explaining a plastic kidney model
It’s kinda hard to see, but here’s the legend of the model, if ya need it.

And good for them for fighting for themselves (even if some came off a little pushy or desperate – heck, I’d come off that way too if I needed a kidney!).

However, I was certain at this point that no matter what, I would not be using Matching Donors anymore. Nothing against the website. But in all this learning about the kidney process, I found out that you can just go to a hospital and say, “Hey there, I’d like to give a kidney to whomever needs it.”

(Why in the world don’t they make that so much clearer in online articles?!)

We’ll probably talk later about why I’d so much rather give to a stranger, when I go through this again. But, suffice it to say that once I knew that was an option, I was done with MatchingDonors.com forever.

And this is where I’ll pick up on next time.

Police Ride-Along! (June 25, 2014’s Something New) – Part 2 (The Early Morning – Getting Ready & Getting to the Station)

June 27, 2014

Aurora De Lucia with her grr face getting ready for her ride-along
When my dad texted to wish me luck on my ride-along, I texted this back to him, saying “Officer De Lucia is getting ready to walk the beat! Grrr ;)”

Picking up from yesterday –

So, on the night of June 24th, I slept over at a friend’s place who lives in Santa Monica – since my ride-along was at 3am, and being in Santa Monica already would be a lot more convenient than being in downtown.

My lovely, sweet, wonderful friend from work put me straight to bed immediately after work, so I could try to get as much sleep as possible. He dozed off on the couch, letting me have his humongous bed all to myself. (Aww. Sweet, right?)

I woke up bright and early (even before my alarm, as though my body clock was ready, baby!).

I got dressed in my cool civilian superhero duds. Officer Holloway even picked me up on the way to the station – full service treatment over here!

As I waited for him to get there, I gently woke up my friend and told him it was time to move into the bed. (I would’ve just tried to carry him, but you know, still working on that upper-body strength.)

Once we got to the station, I signed my life away on one of those big, scary release forms – though I wasn’t really all that worried. I got to meet the sergeants working (since the ride-along forms were in their area).

They seemed nice and funny. In fact, there was a half eaten birthday cake from someone else’s celebration, and we joked how they’d prepared for me – even getting me a cake. Hardy-har-har. 😉

After that, I went to the police officers’ area where they had their desks and computers and things. Officer Holloway went to change, and I met some of the other people who’d be out on the beat.

There was a bulletin board in the room with some people to watch out for, who were armed and dangerous and such. So, that was good to know to be on the lookout for those guys.

And that bulletin board will play a part in the next part of the story, which I’ll talk about Monday (after Sunday’s kidney installment).

Police Ride-Along! (June 25, 2014’s Something New) – Part 1 (How Did I Set It Up?)

June 26, 2014

police cars with lights on in the middle of the night
Out on the beat in the middle of the night. Uh, oh. Is somebody in trouble…? (Spoiler alert: Not really…)

My awesome dad was the one who came up with this super cool idea!

My dad was asking about what I was going to do for my new thing this year, and I was really uncertain. I knew I couldn’t get out of work, so it was a matter of going somewhere very early in the morning or very late.

Golf, laser tag, and even painting stuff at Color Me Mine all were little possibilities that I was probably going to do if I couldn’t think of anything better. That’s when my dad suggested this brilliant idea – “what about a police ride-along, sweetheart?”

Huh. I’d never thought about that!

We looked into a bit while on the phone together. I’ll admit, I didn’t look too deeply into the LAPD process, but from what I could gather it was a whole ordeal – it sounded like they got thousands of requests a year and we’d be lucky to hear any sort of response… Preference was given to people who were in training to be police officers. The idea seemed very far-fetched – especially because this was only a couple of weeks before I wanted to do it.

I ended up working the Santa Monica Festival, and thank goodness I did! While I was there, I met an officer who was doing community outreach and stuff. I said, “Hey, how hard would it be to do a ride-along?” He said, “Not hard at all. Here’s my card. Ride with me.” I said, “How far in advance do I have to set one up? ‘Cause I really want to do one on my birthday, but that’s about two weeks away.”

He looked in his phone, was working on my birthday, and said he’d be happy to take me.

Whoa! Way easier than I thought!

(How lucky was it that Officer Holloway works the 3am shift, so I wouldn’t even have to miss work? Boom! Stars aligned.)

This is where I’ll pick up next time.

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 6 (Be Prepared for the Blowback)

June 25, 2014

Aurora De Lucia posing with unsure face in a bathroom with tape all over it
I had to pee in a cup in this crazy bathroom during my interesting kidney process

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

When I decided to give a kidney, I was sure about it.

And it’s a good thing I am!

I was shocked – honestly shocked by the reactions of my close friends and family.

They certainly are allowed to react however they want and have feelings and everything. I just wasn’t expecting what I got.

I was expecting, “Good for you! How exciting!” and all that jazz. But no. I got a lot of “What?! That’s an awful idea! Major surgery for a stranger? I could maybe understand for a family member, but come on!”

Okay, well, this stranger is someone’s family member. (And, as has been taught to us by many, many sitcoms – our real family is the one we choose, not the one we’re related to by blood.)

Granted, this stranger isn’t one of those super close friends in the family that we choose. (But he could be! …Even though I’d kinda wanna leave him alone and not feel like he needs to be my bff.) Nonetheless, while he may not be my person, he is someone’s.

He has a life left to live and things hhe wants to accomplish. And as much as I truly, head-over-heels adore some of the people in my life, their lives are no more inherently special than someone else’s.

In answer to the always-coming-up question of, “What if someone you love ends up needing a kidney?” – Why hold onto my kidney on the super far off chance that someone I know might, maybe, someday in the distant future need one; when I can fill a need right now? Hopefully someone else could step up to the plate, in the future, if need be.

little sheet of living donor kidney facts
A little card of info I saw during one of my testing visits

Plus, it’s not even like I’m just helping a stranger. When you help one person, that usually translates into helping others.

For instance, in this situation – getting one person off the list of people who need a kidney will move other people one spot closer to getting theirs. (And often times non-directed donors can be a missing link in a chain for a multi-paired exchange, making it so multiple people get kidneys on the same day.)

The risk of dying or getting into a life-threatening situation in the donor surgery is very, very low. And multiple studies state that living with one kidney has not been shown affect your life in an adverse way.

Risk = very small. Reward for someone else = extremely large. Seems like a simple equation to me.

I understand that most of the people who reacted with worry did it because they care about me. People close to you generally don’t want to see you even possibly putting yourself in harm’s way (even though technically, we’re almost always in harm’s way by at least some percentage). But I certainly didn’t expect as much blowback as I got.

People will get on board eventually, after their initial shock. But my advice to anyone thinking about giving a kidney – really make up your mind first before you consult those close to you. Then you can strongly defend your position.

Whatever you decide, it’s a position you have to take and a decision you need to make without others kind of talking in your ear (unless of course you’re very close with nephrologists and the like, at which point, they will probably talk facts with you and not fear)…

More kidney talk coming at you next time!

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 5 (The Initial Paperwork Is A-Okay)

June 22, 2014

paperwork for living kidney donation
Just some of the paperwork I had to sign during one of my visits

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

So, I watched the DVD I’d been sent and read the pages. I filled out my medical questionnaire and sent it in – along with my records from Mass Gen.

(You may remember from another multi-part story that I’d been reviewing my medical records – it was for this.)

I was tempted to fudge some small things on the questionnaire, ’cause you know, I want to seem like the picture of health (which I pretty much totally am, of course). So, maybe let’s sweep that ulcer or blood clot under the rug? Let’s just maybe clean up that mess a little?

But, I didn’t sweep anything under the rug.

1) It would’ve been a stupid idea to fudge anything. My medical records are readily available to the hospital staff. (Not to mention, I have a blog (which is of course public) that details everything from an ulcer, to a blood clot, to multiple procedures and surgeries. I don’t know why I’d imagine I could hide anything.)

2) Even if I could hide something, that wouldn’t be a good idea. Doctors are my friends. They’re there to look out for me and take care of me. If they know I had a blog clot once, it might not keep me from donating, but they might know to keep an extra eye on that sort of thing.

3) Sure, I want to donate. But if something in my past makes that impossible, it’s better to leave this dream for someone else and go find another way to (try to) do some good in the world.

So, boom. Completely honest questionnaire and medical records sent.

I couldn’t wait to get the phone call to see if my history meant I wasn’t going to be able to give… Finally, while I was on an unforgettable vacation with my dad, I got the call.

I was approved to start the process. Now, the process is sort of long and involved. So, just being approved to start shouldn’t necessarily be all that super exciting.

But for me, I assumed that my biggest hurdle would be them saying I was a suitable donor after all that heart stuff. After all, what could go wrong after that? (Foreshadowing, much?)

At this point, once the ball was rolling, I couldn’t hold in all of my excitement. So, I started telling an inner circle of friends. Just a couple of people reacted mostly positively. (Not one reacted 100% positively in the initial phone call. Every person had at least one “but what about this…!” or “don’t do that – you’re making me nervous!”) But a couple of them came around incredibly quickly (like, within minutes)… However, I’d say the majority of people (I told more as time went on) didn’t react quite the way I thought.

I’ll talk more about that on Wednesday.

Color Me Rad 5k! – Part 5 (What Is Color Me Rad Like?)

June 19, 2014

Aurora De Lucia running along at Color Me RadPicking up from last time

I’ve talked all about me – my struggle with the outfit, my personal triumph of running stronger now, and all that jazz.

Now that we’ve talked on and on and on all about me for 4 posts, let’s actually get into what Color Me Rad itself was like.

They had a super excitable emcee leading everyone through Zumba before the race. I was in the first heat, so there were still people partying by the stage as I took off.

I didn’t see any mile markers, but I also didn’t think of this as a race I was dying to get through. I just thought of it as a fun little jog, so I was never really focusing on “what mile am I on?”

There were three color stations. So, I wondered if maybe those represented the miles. I have no idea.

There was only one real bottleneck when we were in the Stubhub Center. The running area got a lot more narrow, and on top of that, everyone stopped for pictures in the stadium. But, it didn’t bother me or anyone around me since the whole deal with doing a color run is letting go and not caring about your time or getting anywhere quickly.

Aurora giving a little posey pose at Color Me RadThere was only one thing I was annoyed with in the whole race… A guy was running with his dog! Hey dog guy, I read the FAQs before the race. They say no dogs allowed. I know you love your dog, but there are some places he doesn’t belong. This is one of them.

Other than that, things were pretty magical. There were tons of volunteers who seemed to be having a great time splashing color on all of us.

There was one area where you run through people spraying you with water. (I think it was water – some kind of wet substance.) I wondered why they would put us through water, because I thought that’d make the color wash off. However, I learned that areas where I’d sweat (aka the insides of my elbows) held color possibly better than anything else. So, maybe they were spritzing us to stick? Who knows. (Some people do, but I’m not one of them.)

There was a guy who ran around with a huge box of color, showering everyone around him. He seemed super fun.

Running through the color areas were cool. There was also this moment of “oh my gosh, this is there the photographers are. I can’t see anything! How am I posing? Am I posing okay?” I felt like I was in some really mild challenge “America’s Next Top Model” challenge or something.

I thought the pictures turned out pretty nicely. I’d wondered if the promotional pictures are just the very best of the best and everyone else’s just look like a big colored mess, but the pictures looked nice. Kudos to the photographers who know how to rock this race.

At the end, there was a big color bomb at the finish, led by the ever-energetic emcee. It was fun. It was just fun. I loved having such a fun morning, and I’d definitely do this race again.

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 4 (Initial Call to the Hospital)

June 18, 2014

packet of information from OSU Wexner Medical Center about kidney donation
The packet I got in the mail

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

This kidney stuff, it’s a roller coaster of emotions for many reasons, but one is that the people you are growing to care about may have problems (and may be taken off/put on the list during your testing).

…But, you may not have to grow to care about anyone if you give to a complete stranger. More on that later.

(By the way, if you’re wondering about the health of the mystery man, whom I don’t want to say too much about since this is the internet and I don’t want to be spreading anyone else’s personal information (though maybe in this case I should, since he wants a donor!) – this was back in early/mid December 2012. As far as I know, he still does not have a donor. But he has been put back on the list.)

So, his mom gave me the phone number I needed, and I called a transplant coordinator from OSU Wexner Medical Center.

I really did not imagine that I’d be going through a hospital in Ohio, but this seemed right since this was definitely the guy (spoiler alert – nope, not the guy, says our antigens). But when I thought he was, Ohio seemed doable. my dad lives in Ohio, so I thought it might make things fairly easy for me.

Grace* (*let’s call her Grace, ’cause I bet these people don’t want me using their real names, so I’m making up fake ones), one of the kidney donor program assistants was so pleasant and kind. She told me about the process. When I mentioned the name of the man for whom I wanted to be tested, you could hear her smile through the phone.

She repeated his name as though everyone knew who he was, and he was so popular and loved – and I’m sure he is. If he is, in real life, anything like he is online, he seems like a great guy. I’m almost certain he must be the life of the nephrology party.

Grace said that I need to be mentally prepared to not be a match for him since I guess he has sort of complicated antigens and such – but, she reassured me that even if I’m not a match for him, I would match someone in their hospital.

I told her from the beginning that I had a medical history. I didn’t want to make her waste time, postage, or anything on me – if I wasn’t going to potentially be a viable donor. But nothing knocked me out of contention during our phone conversation.

She sent me an impressive packet. There was a handy dandy DVD along with a folder full of information. So, no matter how you preferred to learn (watching or reading), (or if you just wanted to reiterate things to yourself in a second way), you were all set.

And this is where I’ll pick up next time.

Color Me Rad 5k! – Part 4 (The Start (and My Personal Improvement – Yay))

June 17, 2014

Aurora De Lucia running through yellow coloring at Color Me RadPicking up from yesterday

So I’m at the start line. People are already throwing color on themselves. Of course you can follow whatever fun coloring strategies you want, but mine was to wait and be blasted by the fun volunteers. Why pour pre-color on yourself? You only have to wait about 5 more minutes! Patience is a virtue, y’all.

Still, I was more than happy to take residual color from people’s silliness. After all – that’s what I was there to do.

And it actually was pretty cool that so many people had little color bombs because even though some people jumped the gun a bit (you know who you are), others waited. And when there was the countdown to the start – 3, 2, 1… (I know you know what a countdown is – just setting up the moment here) – pow, pow, pa-pow, tons of color was splashed everywhere into the air!

It was cool to see it all going up at once, then floating down on us. So, I guess what I’m saying is thank goodness for the people I was just calling out for having color in the start corral.

Jogging this 5k felt so great. I remember when I started this blog, struggling so much to not have to walk at all – during a 5k. Now I’m shooting for that in half marathons. So, it’s really nice to see and feel my growth.

I can actually literally feel my body changing (not just a warm feeling inside of “wee, I’m doing better!). I’ve been taking this class called Bar Method. It is tough, fabulous, and probably my favorite workout class I’ve ever taken. And I am actually starting to have some muscles!

I know it’s hard to believe since I never used to have any upper-body strength whatsoever, but it’s so true! When I run now, I can feel a denser, tighter, leaner girl jogging along – and that makes it easier! (Being dense doesn’t make it easier of course, I suppose lol – I certainly still need to lose some pounds… I guess I still want to be dense, but in a much more awesomely tiny way.)

But being stronger helps because my upper-body is now cool enough to hold itself up without issue. I’m not bending over at the waist, trying to rely solely on my legs.

So, yay for running feeling better. It’s a slow journey, but it is a forward-moving one. That’s for sure. (Yee haw!)

I’ll pick up here after we talk about kidneys tomorrow.

Color Me Rad 5k! – Part 3 (Yeah, I’m Still Talking About the Roughness Of The Outfit For This)

June 16, 2014

Aurora with a huge smile posing after Color Me RadPicking up from yesterday

When I put on the full outfit, it hadn’t dawned on me that the white Color Me Rad t-shirt was short-sleeved! I like to be perpetually in long sleeves. I don’t love showing off my appendages. They don’t have wonderful shapes – but they look like they just might when in clothing. It’s all trickery! My precious, precious trickery being ripped away.

Yet again though, I shrugged. I’ve put together a basically white outfit. I’m not gonna worry about my arms.

I did however realize I should’ve worried about my teeth! This is one reason you avoid white outfits – even the whitest teeth look duller when you’re wearing white! Aye, aye, aye.

I haven’t gotten my teeth bleached in I think about 8 months or so. So, they’re still pretty white. But they could be whiter. (I haven’t been the best at using my at-home whitening trays, but after this I’m going to start, baby! I gotta be ready for anything, apparently since you never know when all your trickery is going to be taken away.)

I realized, though, when I was looking at photos online from other Color Me Rads – people’s teeth actually often look great because they’re shining out in a mess of color. So, let’s just try to make that happen.

So, I got dressed in my pretty unflattering outfit (that would hopefully become flattering once I distracted you with all the colors. Pa-pow!), ready to take the world by storm. After all, who cares, right? (Apparently me since I’m talking about it… but let’s not focus on that.)

I’m there to get splashed in color – not to be gorgeous. I’m there to be fun. (You could be both at the same time, but I’m sure it takes oh so much work).

Can you even imagine what you’d need to do to look good at one of those P. Diddy white parties? I never thought of the work that would need to go into it until I got ready for this. Goodness gracious that would be stressful. (I’d still love to be invited, but I’d need some time to plan.. and to totally bleach out my teeth like no one has before…)

Enough about Sean Diddy combs. Let’s get back to Color Me Rad tomorrow.

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 3 (So, How Do You Start?)

June 15, 2014

card with kidney donation statistics on it
Took this photo of this little card at one of my transplant center visits

Time for another installment of this Wednesday/Sunday night series!

Picking up from last time

I have been on a roller coaster of emotions about the process of giving a kidney. Throughout this time, I’ve never wavered in my desire to give – but the process of giving has been interesting (to say the least).

I took notes at every step of the way. So, I’ll do my best to make sure any feelings I have now don’t cloud the (what should be positive) early posts (though I can’t promise you anything!).

In regards to this blog post title – How do you start? – I didn’t know the answer to that.

I’d read some article somewhere a few years ago about a website – MatchingDonors.com (which is mentioned in many articles about kidney donation). And that was pretty much the extent of what I knew.

I was really interested in giving a kidney when I’d originally read about it. Unfortunately, back then, I was still too close to the heart stuff (and embarrassingly, too heavy) to be considered as a candidate.

As I was looking for what was next in 2013 (eesh, you can tell this has been sitting in my drafts forever), I thought maybe now (or then, really) would be a time that I could be considered.

So, I did some googling. I went back to MatchingDonors. I made an account and started checking out the site.

It is the saddest website I’ve seen.

Aurora dancing to Single Ladies in a college class
The guy I choose was a dancer, so here’s a still of some dancing!

People start writing you immediately. Of course they all want the same thing – a kidney. You can’t give one to everyone.

I’m not judge and jury! Who am I to decide who “deserves” a kidney?

So I read these profiles of these people – these absolutely devastating profiles. Most people are trying to figure out a way within a picture and a paragraph to tug at the heartstrings as much as possible.

Someone might put up a picture of herself with animals. (That one obviously doesn’t work on me. ;)) Or someone will put up pictures of himself with small kids or a big family. This website is pretty much the definition of sad.

I’d look for a while, then put it away for a day or two. One day, I found this guy on there and I knew immediately – he’s the one. (Spoiler alert: He didn’t end up being a match.)

Usually, I was only looking for people going through Mass Gen or Johns Hopkins. This is my body and my life here, so I only wanted the best. But, I wasn’t married to those hospitals. I was still open to other nationally ranked, great hospitals and doctors. I looked through a lot of people’s profiles. And I found the one… in Ohio.

I found this guy who’s alone in his profile picture. (He’s not trying to manipulate me with the saddest possible presentation.) He’s just showing me who he is.

Aurora dancing on the American Idol Experience stage in Walt Disney World
I didn’t want to invade the privacy of the guy, so I put up a picture of me dancing instead of one of him dancing. 😛

(I have no idea what the right “strategy” is for recipients on this website, and I don’t judge anyone for the picture they choose. If I were sick, I’d be trying every single angle! I’m just saying that he was alone in his photo and after seeing all the other ones, I appreciated that.)

He was strong in himself, and his smile was huge. It lit up my computer screen.

He talked about how he’d been diagnosed with a disease at 12 years old, which wreaked havoc on his kidneys. And he never let that stop him!

He’s stronger than I am, and I’m wildly impressed by him. He sings and dances and won’t let anything stand in the way of his dreams. His philosophy is – “I will dance until the day I die. If that’s 20 years from now, that’s better. But if it’s tomorrow, I’ll still be dancing ’til it happens.” I admire that so much.

I thought to myself “I really (really!) hate choosing who deserves to have his or her life changed, but if I have to choose, I choose him.”

I wrote him and told him I’d love to be tested to see if I was a match. When I got a reply, it was from his mother. He was in the hospital with complications from his disease…

This is where I’ll pick up next time.

Color Me Rad 5k! – Part 2 (Dressing in All White)

June 13, 2014

Aurora De Lucia posing in front of the Color Me Rad sign after the race Picking up from last time

How, oh how, did I forget to mention in the pre-race chapter the whole dressing all in white thing?!

This was something I didn’t think that much about until I realized how stressful it is for a few reasons. (Still fun, mind you – but fun and stressful, for sure.)

When I first was setting up my entry to the race, I decided to buy the white t-shirt, because why not? I was going to need a white t-shirt anyway, might as well buy theirs. (This is another brilliant idea by Color Me Rad, by the way. They seem so smart over there!)

So, I figured, okay. I got my t-shirt. I’m good.

But as I got closer to the race and started planning what I was going to wear and such, I realized “uh, wait a second. People can sort of see through white. And I have no white undergarments – none.” (Why would I, right? White is kind of boring… but I guess it can go under a lot of stuff.)

So, this is the first reason why it’s stressful to wear white – you have to worry about what you’re wearing underneath.

Aurora De Lucia stands on one foot on her toes, posing at the Color Me Rad sign
(Yes, this is quite similar to the last photo, but I did a bit of relevé here. I liked both poses. So, I put ’em both in!)

I also realized “hmm, what pants am I planning to wear to this part-ay? ‘Cause I also don’t have white pants. (You can see the stress building, right? ;))

So, I headed to Target. I did find an actually somewhat cute white bra. (High five, Target and Barely There.)

Then it was on to finding some white bottoms. There were pure white shorts. But I think it’s pretty safe to say I’m so not wearing shorts. There were some cute white flowy skirts I considered. After all, it is just a 5k. But ultimately, I decided I wanted pants pants pants.

There were no totally white pants – at least from what I saw. So, I shrugged and went with cream-colored pants. (I could’ve gone to other stores, but cha’mon now. (There’s not enough time in the day sometimes.))

So, I made do with cream-colored pants, knowing they should still show color pretty well. The pants were thick enough I didn’t even have to worry about getting white underwear (score).

Okay, so I have the clothing. Tomorrow, I’m gonna talk about a few more concerns with all-white clothing (*shakes head* I know, life’s rough…).

That Time I (Hopefully) Gave Away A Kidney – Part 2 (But Seriously, Why Do You Want to Give a Kidney To A Stranger?)

June 11, 2014

Aurora's medical bracelet while she waits for a kidney testOh my gosh! Is it finally time to talk about kidneys again?! Yes. Yes it is.

Starting today, I will be posting kidney chapters every Wednesday and Sunday night at 11:33pm. I look forward to sharing this with you, and welcome your comments!

Picking up from part 1, let’s start with why I want to give a kidney to a stranger:

I already talked about this in part 1, but that hasn’t been enough for some people. So, let my try to elaborate.

Even though it’s been years since I was in the hospital with my congenital heart defect, I still remember vividly what it was like. I don’t at all want to sound like “wah, wah, poor me.” The doctors and nurses made it as fun and comfortable as time in the hospital could be. However, it took a real toll on my life.

It definitely made me go through some crazy emotions. (I mean, I guess nothing can “make you” do anything, since we’re all supposed to have complete control over our emotions…) But, I certainly went through some crazy emotions during my time in the hospital (and for a while after getting out).

I think even the trajectory of my life changed. Part of that was definitely due to me and decisions I made. But part of it just kind of happened when such crazy health stuff happened.

I worked and stayed in school as long as I could, but eventually I quit both.

I just remember (so vividly) every part of my life being so wildly affected by my health problem. It ran my entire life. I couldn’t decide to take a job, or go on vacation, or make any of the normal decisions other humans can make, because my heart decided for me.

As much as we can try to focus on the bright sides, I would never wish that sort of trapped life on anyone.

When I found out I could donate a kidney to someone, helping them get away from that life (the one the hospital runs), to me, it felt like a total no-brainer.

People ask me why I want to give a kidney. But that’s never even really been a question in my mind. The only question I’ve ever wondered is, “How can I not?”

To me, quality of life = life. I’m not interested in just the idea of saving someone’s life. I’m interested in the idea of making it so that someone is free.

When I was in the hospital, if my health had been dependent on a stranger stepping forward to give me freedom, I would’ve desperately wanted someone to step up for me. Thankfully, all I needed was a great surgeon. And I got that. I was saved.

I can’t imagine knowing I could be a small part of giving that gift of freedom that was given to me, and then deciding not to be a part of it. That just doesn’t make sense for my life.

I hope this has possibly cleared it up for the curious. If you still have questions, you can always feel free to hit me with them and I’ll do my very best to answer! And we’ll talk more about kidneys next week!

Color Me Rad 5k! – Part 1 (Pre-Race – Seriously, They Are Oh So Rad)

June 10, 2014

close up of Aurora De Lucia after getting color bombed with blue at Color Me RadI won this race entry from the Nikki’s cool blog.

(Side note: I totally had a wonderful time! I happen to also be giving away a race entry (to a different race) on my blog, and if you want to win and experience something cool for free, you should enter – before Friday :-))

Back to Color Me Rad, this race truly was Rad. First off, every interaction leading up to it was amazing. Their website is funny and adorable. I was happy to read any emails I got from them because they were cool.

This race has a personality and shows it every chance it gets. So, basically this company seems pretty much to be a master of branding.

I ended up having to change races (twice!) because of, I dunno, life or whatever – jobs or things coming up. It was a simple and easy process, and super rad of them to let people change races without any hassle.

I was almost skeptical. “How can it be possible for one place to be so incredibly cool and more customer oriented than the majority of races out there?” But however they end up making it make sense for them money-wise and stuff, apparently it works. And I know I appreciate it!

So, I ended up in the Carson, CA race this past Saturday.

And goodness gracious, I was oh so embarrassed when I got there because I’d forgotten my bib!

How does that even happen? What am I, a total newb to racing? Aye, aye, aye.

So, I, slightly mortified, slink up to the booth where people are doing race day pick-up. “Uh, I forgot my bib this morning.”

They were so cool about it. No big deal about it was made at all. They just gave me another one, no problem!

I feel like I’ve been a mess in every way possible when it came to this race, and yet Color Me Rad just sort of cradled me in their arms, taking care of it.

So, thanks y’all! (Thumbs up.)

Next to the start line, there was a big stage where a super peppy emcee was leading Zumba – Basically, this race was funny and silly and a great time (and it hadn’t even started yet).

We’ll pick up here on Thursday, because tomorrow I’m starting a new series.

(#28) Walk to Cure Arthritis (May 31, 2014) – Part 3 (What The Day Was Like)

June 9, 2014

Aurora standing with a first aid kit at the Walk to Cure Arthritis Los Angeles 2014
Yep, one more slightly different picture of me with a first aid kit. 😛

Picking up from yesterday

So, what did I end up doing?

One person got injured cutting fruit before I got there. Many volunteers had to start at 4:30, but they said the medical volunteer didn’t need to come until 7 (since the walk didn’t start until 8:30)… no one took into account that the volunteers might get hurt. And one did.

It was the only actual injury of the day and I wasn’t around to help the person. (Someone did help them get bandaged up though, and the volunteer was totally fine.)

I gave band-aids to two people who had injuries from home (small scabs or cuts on their fingers) and just wanted to replace their band-aids.

One woman had the beginnings of a blister. So, I gave her a band-aid for it. We also had these special little moleskin blister patches in the first aid kit. She was actually really excited when I offered her one. So that was lovely.

Can I just admit to you that I’ve never even seen those blister patches before? As I was going through the first aid kit in the morning, I noticed them and googled them to familiarize myself, but I kind of didn’t know they existed ’til today. I found out the woman I was helping was actually a nurse herself, and she was super excited about the one I gave her. So, I’d take that to mean they probably work. I guess that means if you have blister problems, go try a moleskin patch.

One person actually requested an ice pack and Erin (the intern) leapt into action. She grabbed one of the plastic gloves out of the first aid kit and ran to one of the food areas and got ice out of their cooler. She was all over it and really thinking on her feet, which I always love seeing.

Speaking of the food area, this was one of the most well-stocked 5ks (or almost 5ks since this was 3 miles not 3.1) I’ve ever seen. The food started flowing at 7am and didn’t stop until everyone was leaving (or maybe even had left).

There were bagels (presented in beautiful baskets with individual cream cheese packets!), cookies, granola bars, chips, and more. There were even hot dogs! This place was so stocked.

I did love the hilarity of the nutrition table with a bunch of gluten-free options all around, trying to teach people tips of living with arthritis was right in front of the food tent chock full of gluten and sugar and all that jazz. I’m not against it. Heck, I had a hot dog (since I haven’t been offered a free hot dog since November 2012)! So I’m happy the food was there. I just thought the placement of the food was hilarious.

That sums it up. I’m grateful for the chill day since that means no real injuries… I just need to remember to bring a great book next time!

(#28) Walk to Cure Arthritis (May 31, 2014) – Part 2 (Helping With Ideas for Next Year’s Medical Tent)

June 8, 2014

Aurora smiling while holding the first aid kit at the Walk for ArthritisPicking up from yesterday

I settled in as the lone medical volunteer. (Though I did find out later that Erin, an intern there helping coordinate the volunteers, was also CPR/First Aid certified. I mean, I believed in myself and all, but I was happy to have an additional possible backup there in case it became really necessary.)

Once I started getting acclimated with the first aid supplies, it started to dawn on me, “Uh, we don’t have ice to wrap on people if they have swelling. We don’t have water to give them if they’re dehydrated. I don’t have any electrolytes. I don’t even have any chairs set up for injured people to sit in.”

(In case you’re wondering what I did have – I had basic first aid kids.)

I actually gave myself a little imaginary pat on the back for noticing this stuff. As we’ve established, I don’t usually work the first aid booth. But because I have passed oh so many by doing so many races, I think I just somehow picked up what they usually look like. So, yay for experiences coming together to help inform new ones!

There was a moment in the morning where both people who were working the volunteer check-in booth (which was located at the same place as First Aid) were away taking care of things. Gabby, this awesomely helpful volunteer showed up and asked what she could do to help.

Aurora giving a large smile with the first aid kit by her face at the Walk for Arthritis
(I know it must be so riveting to see me do slightly different poses with the first aid kit 😉 But I have the photos so why not put ’em in)

Even though I wasn’t really working check-in, I was keeping an ear out for the stations that needed volunteers, but in this moment everything was pretty well staffed. So I asked her to grab some chairs and water.

There wasn’t any extra ice she could round up. But she was helpful in setting up more than we had.

I brought our lack of supplies up to the volunteer leaders once they were back at the booth and had some down time. One mentioned my ideas to Rachel – one of the leaders of this event. Rachel seemed so sweet and nice and thankful for my ideas. She asked me to write them in an email so they could think about what they wanted to do differently for next year.

(Granted, they might not need to beef up stuff too much anyway since after all, this is only a 3-mile walk.)

Either way, that email was really my biggest contribution to the day. I’m, of course, very glad that I had a chill day as the medical volunteer where no one really needed me. I think that’s definitely what you always want when you’re doing medical stuff – for no one to be injured, and all to be healthy. But that also meant I didn’t really do anything. So at least I contributed with ideas, right?

I’ll finish out the day tomorrow.

(#28) Walk to Cure Arthritis (May 31, 2014) – Part 1 (Being a Medical Volunteer)

June 7, 2014

Aurora smiling holding a first aid kit at the Walk for ArthritisI volunteered with this walk because I saw a listing on volunteer match for people certified in CPR to volunteer at the medical tent!

I figured since I’ve done the work to get certified, I might as well try to put it to some good use, right?

I was a wee bit nervous since I don’t usually use my CPR/first aid skills. I mainly keep my certification up to date on the off chance that something happens around me (anywhere – work, running, traveling, whatever). I want to make sure I’m able to help.

But you know how it is with things, if you don’t use them often, then your skills aren’t as strong. (Granted, it’s a wonderful thing that people aren’t getting hurt around me. Still. I like to be uber-confident in my abilities, and just taking classes doesn’t bring me to the level of confidence I’d want – though apparently I’m confident enough to raise my hand and say “I’ll do it!” when a walk is looking for medical volunteers…)

So, I brushed up the night before and morning of – going through the paperwork from my class, drilling with myself number of compressions and breaths, pantomiming what to do if someone starts choking (back blows first before you go into the straight Heimlich).

I felt pretty ready, but also wrapped in the warm feeling of knowing I’d have other people around me who knew what they were doing so we could all work together and hopefully make up at least one competent person. 😉

Alas, when I got there, they greeted me as the medical person – not one of many. Nope. Just me.

Granted, it was a small race – actually, it wasn’t even a race, just a walk. It was only a 3-mile walk at that. It’s not like I was working a marathon. Hopefully I wasn’t going to deal with a lot of injuries. (Spoiler alert: I didn’t.) So, it was fine that I was going to be the lone medical person, but it was slightly unnerving in the moment.

(Granted there were firefighters and police there. And we could’ve always called 9-1-1 for true emergencies. So, everything is cool! Don’t even sweat it.)

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#27) Trash For Teaching (May 25, 2014) – Part 4 (…But Mia’s Picking Up That Slack, Making Our Gender Proud)

June 5, 2014

Aurora making a little silly face as she opens a box at Trash for TeachingPicking up from yesterday –

Once she decided to put the fabric straight on the bed, I offered to try to sew the fabric to the foam board if that’s what she wanted, but she said she thought we could actually just wrap it around the bottom and tape it instead of trying to sew through the tough foam board stuff. I thought that was a nice idea.

So, we laid out the fabric on the bed. She flipped it over and taped underneath it.

I really adored working with Mia. I thought she was awesome!

She was a quick thinker, not afraid to make decisions (or to abandon ideas when they didn’t seem like they were working). She wasn’t afraid to ask for what she wanted/needed – asking for someone to help her sew, asking me to cut a leg when the usual volunteer who did it was busy.

She wasn’t afraid to jump in boldly. When it was time for me to cut the legs of the bed, she set our supplies up, clamping them to the table. She even held the end of it (by the clamp) to be extra helpful.

(Don’t worry. I had my other hand also holding and closer to the saw than hers. Her hand was absolutely nowhere near the saw, so she was totally safe.)

She also zipped around the barrels of supplies finding what she needed, without needing anyone to hold her hand or give her ideas.

Aurora De Lucia smiling while opening a box at Trash for Teaching
(How many pictures do I have of myself opening boxes, right? :-P)

(Yes, I know children can’t generally run around the world completely unsupervised ’cause it could be kind of dangerous. But she was in this really small warehouse where we could easily see her across the room as she looked.)

Basically, she was strong and awesome. I love when I meet little girls who make me want to be like them. She inspired me, and I hope she doesn’t lose any of her wonderful qualities as she grows up.

So, as has happened multiple times now, I think the people I was supposed to be helping at this volunteer event helped, inspired, and taught me way more than the other way around.

I’m so glad I’m now acquainted with Trash for Teaching, and if I ever work for a place that’s gonna have a lot of leftover stuff, I’ll definitely suggest we send it there!

(#27) Trash For Teaching (May 25, 2014) – Part 3 (Letting Down My Gender! (Sorry, Women))

June 4, 2014

Aurora De Lucia doing a silly pose as she opens a boxPicking up from yesterday –

She really wanted to finish this bed, and time was at least somewhat of the essence since we were within probably the final 45 minutes that crafting was allowed. The guy who was doing most of the cutting still wasn’t free due to him cutting another child’s project.

However, there was an extra saw available. So, she asked if I’d cut the legs.

Okay, sure. I took stagecraft. I can saw something.

I know I’ve talked about my incredible lack of upper body strength on this blog before. But I’ve actually been doing a very intense workout class during lunch breaks at work. So, I’m stronger than I’ve ever been before.

While the hand sawing was taking longer than I wanted, I was actually mildly impressed – maybe not impressed, but at least pleased – with my ability to even do it.

But since it was taking a bit of time, I did a little sheepishly ask her, “Did the other person do this faster when you cutting the legs earlier?”

She said yes. (Oof.) Then, she said “of course though, because he was a boy.”

Oh no! Mia! I tried to explain to her that being a boy doesn’t inherently mean that he’s stronger or better at cutting or working with tools. It just means that this girl specifically (me) isn’t as strong as I should be. But please don’t think so gender role-y.

Aye, aye, aye. I’m letting down my gender too often. (Though I’m really trying to get stronger – in every sense of the word! There may be a day where I don’t let you down, ladies – maybe.)

So we cut and attached the legs. Then she started working with her styrofoam (what she’d brought back for the mattress) trying to lay it out in a way that made sense to her.

She didn’t think the pieces fit well together. I asked if she wanted to go look for bigger pieces with me, but she said no – she decided the styrofoam was actually too hard for a mattress anyway.

She thought for a second about the softer options she had. She looked around a bit more in the bins by us, before ultimately deciding to attach the fabric right to the bed itself instead of making a mattress.

This is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#27) Trash For Teaching (May 25, 2014) – Part 2 (Letting the Kids Problem Solve)

June 3, 2014

Aurora De Lucia looking down and smiling while opening a box at Trash for TeachingPicking up from yesterday

So, I went over to Mia (the little girl who needed help sewing). She told me she was making a doll bed, and wanted someone to sew the mattress. She had fabric and was just looking for something fill it.

We’d been instructed before the day began that if children asked for our help on anything, we were to let them make all the creative decisions. We weren’t to really make suggestions. We were just there to help them realize whatever it was that came into their heads.

I absolutely loved that attitude! Imagination is so important, and so many people lose it. So it’s great to let it fly. Problem solving is also wildly important, and I think can help with practically every job in the world. So, that’s another wonderful skill to build. And kids can’t work very much on their problem solving if we’re trying to solve their problems for them.

So, she said she had the fabric. Before deciding what material went inside the mattress, she wanted to see how big of a mattress she’d need to make. (Smart.) The legs of her bed had finished gluing, so we flipped it over to roughly measure the bed.

When she flipped it, we realized the middle (where she’d joined two things together) dipped. My first instinct would’ve been to add legs to the middle as well… But I couldn’t say anything about that! I didn’t want to take over the project and do whatever I thought was right.

Thankfully, she suggested we add legs to the middle, which was awesome. We took the bed over to the cutting station so the volunteer working there could cut us some legs. While she waited in line for that, she decided to go get some mattress material.

I took this opportunity to quickly look up on my phone a refresher tutorial of how to sew. I was in a music in high school where I had to sew. (It didn’t have to be fantastic. It was just some stage business that I don’t think anyone was paying that much attention to – but obviously I wanted to be as great as I could be.) So, I’d had some experience – but only for a few weeks, and never again after that musical.

I raced through google piecing together a quick tutorial for myself before she came back.

I got my needle ready, was prepared to sew, and greeted her as she came back to meet me at the cutting station.

I’ll pick up here tomorrow.

(#27) Trash For Teaching (May 25, 2014) – Part 1 (What’s Trash for Teaching? And Unboxing Stuff)

June 2, 2014

Aurora De Lucia giving a big smile while un-packaging boxes at Trash for TeachingTrash For Teaching sounded pretty darn dope, so I was excited to sign up to help them.

Their little tagline-type thing is “minimizing waste, maximizing education.” They take materials that would usually go to waste, and have people make crafts (or inventions) out of them.

The materials come from many various places including businesses, even police stations, and more. (From police stations, they receive these little plastic rectangles with tons of holes – because they used to hold bullets!

There’s yarn, thread, glass tubes, paper products – basically a smorgasbord of materials with endless possibilities.

Kids can come in during certain hours of the weekend and build their own projects. It’s pretty awesome. I love watching the kids be creative and make adjustments on the fly!

(Trash for Teaching also works with schools, and helps supplement programs to help kids not only stretch their imagination, but learn about math and science and all that biznatch.)

So, I went to a weekend day. I was expecting that the day would revolve around helping the kids. But really, the day revolved around unpacking boxes and organizing new supplies. I actually enjoyed that portion of the day because I adore organizing.

And, I ended up being handed the knife so I was the box opener. That was fun because I had a specific job and had the challenge of trying to safely open the boxes (responsibly – in a way so they could be used again) fast enough to stay ahead of everyone doing the unpacking.

Ultimately, my friend who went with me also jumped in on opening boxes, which I think was a great idea. As is shown all the time – teamwork makes the dream work. Things moved more efficiently/smoother when two people were opening for a large group. (Hands can only move so quickly! :-P)

As the opening of many, many boxes started to wind down, we heard one of the leaders say, “do any of our volunteers love sewing?” No one piped up or did anything. Then she made eye contact with me.

I’m not a seamstress or anything. So, I wanted to let someone who actually had the skill have the chance to help. However, once it seemed as though they just needed someone (basically anyone) who could help this little girl sew, I felt compelled to say, “sure, I’ll give it a shot!”

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#26) Venice Art Walk (May 18th, 2014)

June 1, 2014

Aurora De Lucia posing underneath an umbrella at the Venice Art WalkPicture me and my friend James hanging out on the sidewalk under an umbrella for 3 hours. You’ve now practically heard about the entire activity.

Thank goodness James (a friend from my last job) agreed to go to this with me. It was nice to have someone to keep me entertained in a sea of sitting around.

We got there, got cool t-shirts. An extremely nice woman (who made sure we always had water and snacks)  told us to move this big umbrella – the one big thing we did all day, and it really only benefited us (’cause of the shade).

We were parking volunteers. We didn’t have to take any money or tell people where to park – that was the job of the parking attendants.

We were to tell people the Art Walk was about half a mile away, and they could take a shuttle which came every 10 minutes or so. If we had people who wanted to take the shuttle, we’d flag it down.

I didn’t realize that apparently almost the entire Art Walk crowd comes early. I guess that makes sense. If there’s a lot to see, you want to get there early. But I thought since it’s California and everyone’s always late, some people had to be trying to get in at the last minute, right?

Barely. Being in the final shift, we saw maybe 3 people going to Art Walk. None of them wanted the shuttle. (Good for them. It was heartening to see people willing to walk 1/2 a mile since that old saying – no one walks in California – holds oh so so much truth.)

So we sat and talked for three hours waiting to flag down a shuttle – which we never had to do.

The whole reason I picked this as an activity is because I wanted to see the Google building it was held in. But then I checked off parking as something I’d be willing to do! How silly was that?

Why would I check off something in the sun (thank goodness for that umbrella) – and most importantly where dogs abound!

I never think about vicinity to dogs until it’s too late. Tons of people were walking their dogs. Dogs were roaming freely – not on leashes(!) at the park right across the street from us. Aye, aye, aye.

I thought volunteering with parking would be sort of contained in a lot. Maybe I’d be directing cars, or telling people where to go when they got out. It didn’t dawn on me I’d be on the sidewalk out in the dog world!

I don’t know how long I have to live in this crazy town before I realize practically everyone here has dogs. Dogs are everywhere.

At least I learned through this experience that when given the option, I should never pick parking as my volunteer station… (and really I should probably never pick an outdoor option if an indoor option is available.)

Yay for learning!

(#25) Girls on the Run 5k (Happy Hair Station)! – Part 4 (Success! (and Yay for Anosmia))

May 31, 2014

Aurora De Lucia doing the little shake the can dance at the Girls on the Run 5k Happy Hair StationPicking up from yesterday

Even though it seems I maybe wasn’t budgeting my time wonderfully, Girls on the Run was all about helping. We even had a volunteer coordinator come by to see if we needed help. My happy hair partner and I said we didn’t.

Sure, we were in kind of a rhythm (and a fun, invigorating one at that)… And there wasn’t a humongous amount of room at the table. So, I think we both were thinking, “eh, is a 3rd person really going to help or just sort of get in the way?”

But perhaps we should’ve taken help! Were we being to stubborn, or not doing a good enough job at seeing the big picture, or watching the clock/realizing how close the race was to starting? Only after the the volunteer coordinator moved on did I start to become a bit worried we weren’t going to get to everyone…

I sped up and eventually did end up scrapping the shake-the-can dance. (Sorry girls.) We finished up with the last girl just in time to get everyone on the course before the race started. We also were using our very last bottle when that happened.

So, ultimately, even though things were a little rushed at the end, it was pretty cool how the color and time wrapped out perfectly.

It was an incredibly fun station. Parents got into it. Siblings got into it. I sprayed the hair of people of all ages, and everyone loved it just the same no matter their age.

I learned that I was the absolute perfect person to do this station after my Happy Hair partner said the hardest part about the day was smelling all the chemicals for 2 hours. It didn’t even dawn on me that the smell was probably bothersome until he said something as we were packing up. Crazy. Anosmia up in the house! (I can’t really smell.)

It was a total pleasure to volunteer with Girls on the Run. While there were things I mentioned that I’d hope to do better next time, I think it was a pretty magical time. I hope the runners and parents felt the same way!

(#25) Girls on the Run 5k (Happy Hair Station)! – Part 3 (Am I Budgeting My Time Correctly Here?)

May 30, 2014

Aurora De Lucia spraying the hair of a little girl before the Girls on the Run 5kPicking up from yesterday

We were talking about how I’m trying to use people’s names more often.

Unfortunately, I’d say that I’d grade myself at about a D on that skill this day! I usually said their name when I asked what color they wanted. But I always forgot to say it at the end of “have a great race!”

Sure, we can give excuses all day long. “Oh, the line was just moving so fast!” So, what? because the line was moving fast, there wasn’t one extra second to put a girl’s name on a sentence? Was I really all that flustered or hurried that I couldn’t say one extra word? Aye, aye, aye Aurora.

So, it was good practice, but not great results.

When it was time for the actual spraying of the hair, depending on if I thought we could hear each other, I’d ask how her training went and if it was her first race. I tried to always mention that what she’s doing is amazing and I hope she’s proud of herself and enjoys herself out on that course!

As time went on, I started to wonder if the whole trying to learn names thing and always doing the shake the can dance were wastes of times…

I mean, it’s never a waste to try to learn someone’s name. But if I was failing at using it as much as I wanted, why was I wasting the little girl’s time by asking her?

And at the beginning, we had to shake up the cans, so the shake the can dance made sense. But once we started spraying girl after girl in rapid succession, the cans were sufficiently shaken. But at that point I kind of had my routine. And it seemed like the girls enjoyed the little shake the can dance.

So, I didn’t stop the routine. I didn’t want anyone getting up there saying, “why didn’t I get to shake it?!” But I did wonder if I made the routine not as time-friendly as it should’ve been, ’cause we started to get a little slammed… It started to seem as though the line of girls was unending. And they had a race to get through! Gah!

Will we get to everyone? Let’s finish it out tomorrow!

(#25) Girls on the Run 5k (Happy Hair Station)! – Part 2 (Setting Up The Happy Hair Station)

May 29, 2014

Aurora De Lucia making a little pose at the Girls on the Run 5k (Happy hair station)Picking up from yesterday

I took a deep breath, decided to partake in the fun-ness of it all, put on a thick pink tutu (really it was two tutus worn together) and made my way to Griffith Park.

We got a tub of hair supplies, and I started setting all the cans on the table. At first it sort of seemed like a lot of cans. I wondered if we really needed to get them all out, but since we had ample space, why not?

I learned later that yes, we definitely needed them all out. We only took those seal stickers off about 1/3 of them at the beginning. I wanted to save any we didn’t use. But we totally used them all. Note to self: I shall prep that way, should I ever do this event again.

The line moves *so* fast once it all gets going that you want to be prepared as possible before you start spraying. There’s no time for sticker removing in the middle!

Once all the bottles were out of the tub, I thought it wasn’t cool to have them just strewn about the station, so I arranged them in a heart. (Yes, I know that speaks to being girly, and for someone who wrote yesterday’s post you might say, “really? a heart?” But what can I say? It’s me and I wanted to do it!)

The hair station was quite straightforward. I read the directions on the spray cans, and stood ready to spray some hair!

At first it was just one girl who came over. But before you knew it, the line was crazy! Both me and my happy hair partner at the station got into kind of our own rhythms.

I usually tried to ask for the girl’s name, then ask what color she wanted (mentioning her name in the question). Then I’d have us both do a little shake-the-can-dance. I’d spray her hair however she wanted (multiple colors, just the ponytail, etc.).

I am really trying to get better at calling people by their names more often. I think it shows a genuine interest in someone and helps to make someone feel special. I like to make people feel good, so that’s definitely a skill I’m working on.

And I tried to work on it that day… But did it pan out? Let’s talk about it tomorrow.

(#25) Girls on the Run 5k (Happy Hair Station)! – Part 1 (My Original Conflicted Thoughts On Working Happy Hair)

May 28, 2014

Aurora De Lucia smiling in a tutu at the Girls on the Run Happy Hair StationI adore Girls on the Run. I know I’ve mentioned it before, but it’s so true.

You can read all about who Girls on the Run is, and what they do, on their website. But basically, they empower and encourage young girls. So, when I saw they needed help with a 5k, I absolutely had to make it one of my 52 volunteer activities for the year!

When we got to check off what area we’d like to work in, I was a bit hesitant about working in the Happy Hair Station. I thought, “here I am trying to empower girls and show them they can be strong and awesome. They can be anything they want! Now how do I show that? Oh right, I do their hair!” [Wah wah]

Does that go against what we’re trying to do here? Or is it all just innocent fun? I feel like a pretty empowered woman who’s overall pretty confident – at least when it comes to what I can accomplish in this world, and what I push myself to go after. But I love being called adorable! And I like putting my hair in pigtails and wearing pink and all that jazz.

And there’s nothing wrong with that, right? Or is there? Have I just been programmed by society to think I like this stuff, but if I’d had different impressions from the media, would I have a different sense of what I like?

Maybe that doesn’t matter so much. Because perhaps the point is, if I like a style I like it and it’s not even necessary to ask “should I?”

When I brought up my bit of hesitation about whether this hair station undermined empowerment, he fought on the side of “sometimes things are just fun.” And “kids are kids.” And “I’m sure if little boys were they, they’d want colored, fun hair. Perhaps they’d want mohawks. They’d definitely be into a funky hair station as well.”

And truly, I think he was right. We actually did have some little boys coming by. In fact, I did make a mohawk pink for a little boy who requested that!

I think it’s beyond wonderful that there’s an organization encouraging girls to get out there and get athletic. So, if we need to make athletics fun by spraying hair, dressing up, and being silly – then that’s what we’ll do.

I chose to work at the happy hair station because I thought it would be fun! Even if I didn’t know if I should be “allowed” to think it was fun, I thought it would be. And I knew there was no other place I’d get this unique volunteer opportunity. So, I signed up. And I’ll talk all about it tomorrow.

(#24b) Technology Fair for Older Adults (May 17, 2014) – Part 2 (What Our Students Were Like)

May 20, 2014

Aurora smiling with student at Technology Fair for Older AdultsPicking up from yesterday

The people who worked alongside me were Mike and Kyle – co-founders of Home Hero. It sounded like a super passion project to help families find safe, awesome, and affordable home care for seniors.

So, this event was totally their jam – right up their alley about a cause/demographic they care a whole lot about. And they were great with Apple products. So it was nice to have these super knowledgeable partners to work off of.

We were all warned before the technology fair that the people we’d be teaching might barely know anything at all about their devices. But in my experience, people were actually pretty darn skilled, and they were pretty familiar with their devices.

Their questions were for the most part very specific. One thing I thought was interesting was that every person I helped had questions related to connecting with others – “How can I FaceTime my granddaughter?” “How can I make a slideshow with music for my husband’s birthday?” – and other things like that.

I feel like most of the technology questions in my life have been a long the lines of “what’s the best blogging platform to use?” (Btw, in my opinion, it’s wordpress.) “How do I do this or that in html so I can make this site look better?” (“How can I get the sounds on my computer to be Michael Jackson themed?” :-P)

Aurora De Lucia listening to person at the Technology Fair for Older AdultsBut I didn’t hear questions that revolved around building their brands or doing novelty things for the fun of it – just questions on how to stay more connected to family… which was perhaps one of the main things technology was made for in the first place?

I also liked how nice everyone was. Some of our “students” kept telling me and the guys I work with, “You’re so adorable! You’re so smart and helpful!” And the compliments just kept coming – which of course was pretty rad. Who doesn’t want to be adorable, smart, and liked? Some of my dreams in life are just to embody those adjectives!

It was a lovely day. I had a wonderful time, and I hope the information I tried to give to people proves useful to them!

(#24b) Technology Fair for Older Adults (May 17, 2014) – Part 1 (We Were Treated Like Princesses!)

May 19, 2014

Aurora De Lucia and Mike helping senior citizens learn about Apple products
photo credit: Shams Soomar

This rocked.

First off, I think the volunteers were thought about and cared about more than any other event I’ve been to thus far.

Now, of course, we’re there to help others. So we don’t necessarily need to be treated like pretty, pretty princesses or anything. However, it amped up my warm, fuzzy feelings about being there even more so when I felt so taken care of and appreciated.

The flow of the day was clear. They gave us sheets with tips on coaching and such. They tried to make sure we were informed and prepared for the day.

There was a little pow wow in the morning in a small auditorium to make sure we were all on the same page and everything and all that jazz.

And there was a raffle in the morning! We got raffle tickets when we checked in as volunteers… and I won something! I got $10 in iTunes money now. Woo.

After the morning meeting in the auditorium, we went up to our stations. Naturally, I was at the Apple Gadgets station. (*in Homer Simpson voice* Mmmm, Apple Products)

Aurora smiling in the audience of the pre-talk before the Technology Fair for Older Adults
(I’m in that crowd… to your left)
(Photo Credit: Shams Soomer)

We were actually seated across from the Android station. So, I felt we had a nice little Jets and Sharks rivalry going on. (I won’t even waste space here talking about which products totally win in a fight, because… come on now.)

Going back to how taken care of we were (even though it skips things chronologically), there were carrots available in the free (yay!) lunch we were provided!

I’ve been to so many places that give chips, cookies, sugar-filled things and the like. And I know you know – since I mention it way too often that I’m trying to watch my weight – that I’m sometimes sort of tempted, and it’s sometimes sort of hard for me to have all this junk food available at all these events.

(Though I will say that sometimes when the food is quite delicious (such as at the Grilled Cheese Truck), I throw caution to the wind. I don’t mind spending some calories on something sort of exotic-ish that I only have once in a great while… but how often can I have random store cookies, right? I know, I know. Be thankful for any free food. But let’s all look out for each other?… Aaaaaand I’m getting way off subject.)

The point is, they had carrots, they had wraps of normal proportions, and they had veggie options! And, they even had cookies for the people who don’t feel the way I do about this food.

So, high fives all around to the people organizing this fair, ’cause that was truly awesome.

And I’ll pick up here tomorrow.

(#24a) S.T.A.G.E with AIDS Project Los Angeles (May 10, 2014) – Part 2 (Nothing To Do)

May 18, 2014

Aurora posing with silent auction materials at APLA stage eventPicking up from yesterday

So, there was nothing to do. I’m not usually a huge believer in “there’s nothing to do,” because there’s always something to do, right?

But sometimes there just isn’t anything that any of the people running the joint can think of at the moment.

I work in TV. So, I’m used to hurry up and wait, but this was going to literally be what we did ’til the end of our shift. So, if there’s no hurry up part, then what am I waiting for?

They did say in the little volunteer talk at the beginning of the night that if we wanted to stay after our shift, we could work the (non-silent) auction. It sounded really fun, but it was hard to justify staying for hours to help with something that really they’re probably already staffed for.

They did mention that last year it was a rush with too few people when it came to volunteering for the auction, apparently because the auction happened right on a shift change… And they said this year they didn’t think they adjusted the shifts.

But why, when you have so many people didn’t you ask for some of us to be a swing between the two shifts, instead of coming into the first one?

So, I went to the little hang out room for staff/volunteers, because originally my plan was to stay until the auction happened. After all, I love helping out with things where there’s a rush or where you’re understaffed and have to work overtime.

But judging by the amount of people they had, plus the people who were coming in 2nd shift (and it seemed that they were pretty much saying the main job of the second shifters was to work the auction), they’d be more than okay.

And as I started to kill my time reading a magazine, I thought about all the stuff I could be doing and all the sleep I could be having and I decided it just wasn’t worth it to stay. So, since they didn’t need me, I left.

I also had the worst time getting home because I kept having to switch sides of the street because first there was a dog not on a leash, then there was a different dog on the other side of the street. And there was this tall long fence along the medium. So crossing the street was a whole ordeal. I went back and forth for 3 rounds before I could finally walk to the bus stop.

It was like some horrible, cruel, exhausting game – and I was way more frustrated and cranky about it than even I would normally be (which is already an insanely high level when it comes to dogs). And that just really drove the point home for me that I needed sleep… ’cause when I don’t get my precious, precious sleep I can get a bit cranky… (At least I can recognize that. So perhaps that’s something.)

So there you have it. The volunteer event that wasn’t really. Wah wah.

(#24a) S.T.A.G.E with AIDS Project Los Angeles (May 10, 2014) – Part 1 (They’re More Than Fully Staffed)

May 17, 2014

Aurora posing with some silent auction materials at APLA STAGE eventI really thought that in this project, there would be no numbers that were A & B.

There wouldn’t be any events that were only half done because it wasn’t like I was going to get lost on a course or something. It would happen, or it wouldn’t. But alas, here we are at 24a.

So, what is S.T.A.G.E.? It stands for the Southland Theatre Artists Goodwill Event, and it’s billed as the world’s longest running musical theater AIDS benefit.

This was a group I was pretty excited to work with. I will admit before going that I had stretched myself perhaps a bit too thin, and I was pretty tired and felt I still had a lot to do over the weekend. But, I’d made a commitment. I wasn’t so tired or busy that I couldn’t handle it. So, I got my attitude in check and made my way to Beverly Hills.

When I got there, I saw a big group of people from an organization called One Brick. Apparently it’s an organization that gets people together who want to volunteer for things. I think it’s supposed to be a way to meet people while volunteering for stuff. I don’t totally understands what differentiates them from Meetup or Volunteermatch.org. But I like learning about things I’ve never heard of, so that was cool.

Once we got there, they told us we’d all be working the silent auction. We stood around for a bit waiting to see where we’d all be assigned. Then someone started walking around assigning people to tables. This was the most attendant-full silent auction I’ve ever seen.

Granted, I have not been to very many silent auctions in my life (just the two I’ve volunteered with this year and one with a friend from America’s Got Talent who was being honored at a charity.)

But they were certainly fully (more than fully) staffed with volunteers. There were 2 – 3 volunteers for every table of stuff. And there were still volunteers left over!

And that was it. That was all there was to do – work the silent auction tables. They didn’t really know what to do with the rest of us. They said we could float around in case anyone needed help. I did that for a bit, but quickly saw that no one was going to need help. And if they did, since there were multiple people per table, one of the extra people could always leave to go do whatever was needed.

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#23) Reading to Kids (May 10, 2014) – Part 3 (The Little Girl Who Made the Morning and Helped Teach Me)

May 16, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

There was a little girl in our reading group who seemed so nice, but I could tell she was really shy. Once we got to craft time, I went and sat by her to see if I could get her to talk more.

We had 4 boys and 1 girl in our group. And every time my reading partners or I asked a question as we read through the books, the boys were all excited about answering right away. But our girl was quiet.

Obviously, that’s never a dynamic I like to see. (I read Lean In, baby!) (But I do believe I would’ve also tried to look after a shy boy. I’m not trying to favor women, just to make people in general feel they deserve to be heard…)

So, in craft time, I went and sat by our girl and started talking to her about school and everything. She was extremely smart and curious about the world. She was wildly well-spoken, and very aware of what was going on in the world around her. Plus she was really open. She told me about how her teachers had conferences with her parents about speaking up more.

I loved that the teachers were looking out for her, and apparently her parents were too, to pass on that information to her. And we talked about her feeling afraid of speaking out. After all, what if she had an answer wrong to a question? (dum, dum, dum *scary chords!*)

I said a lot of the stuff that we hear already all the time on the internet, so who knows if maybe it’s too old hat by now. But, I talked about how some of the most successful people made huge mistakes. I also talked about how if you’re never wrong, then you’re not pushing yourself. Aren’t you in school to learn? So, you can’t possibly know everything already!

I also went through some scenarios with her – “What is the very worst thing that could happen if you answer a question and it’s wrong?” She answered people would laugh at her. “Mmm hmm. And then what?”

We talked about how being laughed at (while quite embarrassing) isn’t the worst thing in the world. We talked about trying to laugh with people instead of allowing them to feel like they’re laughing at you – you get to decide if you’re going to join along.

We even drew a picture of fear holding someone back. We drew a little world and things we knew and were exposed to. Then there was a wall. The wall was fear. Beyond the wall were rocket ships and things we’d never heard of. And we could see all the things we missed out on if we put up a wall of fear.

(If I do say so myself, this was a pretty good on-the-fly picture-making lesson I was doing.)

She got pretty into it and drew a picture of herself with a thought bubble of things she wanted to learn about, but never could if she were too afraid to push herself.

I hope I maybe helped a little, but no matter what, she helped me.

I don’t generally operate under a lot of fear, but every once in a while I still feel it. And now, when I do, I’m gonna think about the picture of that wall and all the stuff I’m keeping myself from if I build my own wall.

(#23) Reading to Kids (May 10, 2014) – Part 2 (Reading and Craft Time)

May 15, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

So, as I said, I was working with 5th graders. The books were picked by the organization, and we were reading The Odyssey.

One thing I thought was cool was that there was a theme that went across all grade levels. This day’s was folklore and fantasy. But it was cool to me that there was a cohesive umbrella, even though it was segmented between grade levels.

Usually, when I volunteer for things, it’s not so bad when I go alone. Sure, I’ve noticed that a lot of times people come with people or with groups – whether it be people from their job, church, hobby group, meetup group, or wherever else they might find people.

And sometimes, depending where I am, I might feel like I’m the only person not from UCLA or One Brick or whatever. But it hasn’t bothered me too much. And today, it didn’t bother me all that much more. But I will say, of all the volunteer activities that would be better with a friend – this would be the top of my list so far.

You’re paired up with people and the pair of you take a group of kids to a classroom to read to them. (We actually had 3 in our group since there were enough volunteers to justify that.)

So, we went in and each of us took a chapter. I absolutely adore that really over-the-top excitable delivery. So, reading to kids is right up my alley. I really enjoyed doing it.

There was one child who seemed really into books. He knew a lot about a lot of books… However, when it got to craft time and the kids were to draw their own ideas of monsters, he just sort of put aside the craft supplies and went for the book.

Now, I love the idea of kids loving to read. Reading is grand, and I understand it’s why I was there. But he mentioned that he didn’t think he was very good at crafts. And I’d never want someone squelching his creative side because he’s afraid he’s not “good” at it – especially since there basically are no rights and wrongs in creative projects.

So, I really tried to encourage him to draw a monster. It was a little bit like pulling teeth, but we did get him to draw at least a little by the end of the day.

There was also this incredible girl who I can’t wait to tell you about tomorrow.

(#23) Reading to Kids (May 10, 2014) – Part 1 (Orientation and Such)

May 14, 2014

I would say this is one of the absolute easiest events I’ve been to.

Reading to Kids makes the scheduling wildly easy. Instead of emailing with a person, you just go through an automated system. You’re confirmed right away, and there’s a little page that tells you everything you need to know about the book you’ll be reading, where to go, and all that jazz.

Also, since it’s automated, if you can’t go, it’s wildly easy to cancel. So, I could see how the extreme ease could work against them a bit… but I highly doubt that the people they lose (due to people not feeling guilty about telling another human they’re no longer gonna go) outweighs the time the save by not having to manually coordinate so many people through emails and such.

So, good on them for streamlining the process and making everything as simple as it can be.

As far as the event itself, it was pretty easy and chill. They had a nice spread of bagels and pastries. As I’ve mentioned along the way, many of these volunteer events have spreads of foods that aren’t that great for you. Please don’t get me wrong, I appreciate that they want to give us anything at all, but it does make it hard sometimes when you’re working as hard as I am to do all that calorie counting and such.

But, I guess it’s nice to have to turn down food in the real world because that’s part of trying to lose weight and such. Food is around sometimes. You have to deal with it. And I dealt with it by not indulging today. So, yay me!

The tables were organized by grade level. I was with 5th grade. My understanding has come to be that if you don’t specify a grade level preference, you’re put with the older kids. It seems to be that anyone who requests, requests kids who are younger (probably since that’s more “adorable” or whatever.

But of course, we all know how weird I am about age and that we put too much emphasis on youth (even apparently when just deciding which kids we’re going to read to). So, I was happy to work with the 5th graders.

Getting back to the day, after you get in, new readers have a little orientation. Basically, they just read a book to us in the kind of fun, over-the-top manner in which we were to read books.

They also reiterated the papers about how the day would go – reading followed by craft time. And they told us small things I wouldn’t have thought about such as make sure people only go to the bathroom in pairs.

Tomorrow I’ll talk about the actual reading!

(#22) A Window Between World’s “Art in the Afternoon” Art Walk (May 4, 2014) – Part 4 (My Brain Got a Workout)

May 13, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

So, as I said, I was the ticket taker, which was really pretty dope. I got to watch people make ice cream all day. I got to see the joy and wonder on people’s faces over and over again with each new batch of people.

Plus, the people working in the booth were funny and interesting. So it was a pretty spectacular day, I’d say.

It was also fun because taking tickets wasn’t this really simple thing of an orderly line where people come up one at a time and I just simply take the tickets. Different bowls are going in different places by different people.

So, I’m trying to get all the people getting salted caramel in front of the bowl making salted caramel, and all the vanilla people in front of the other bowl. But it also wasn’t as simple as just “let’s make four lines, one for each flavor – and everyone will fill in those four for the rest of the day,” because well,
a) we didn’t have enough room for four lines
b) we had to move and adjust along with the day. Sometimes we’d go a long time where one no one ordered a certain flavor. So, it wasn’t like we could say, “Okay, Josephine will always be doing cookies and cream and salted caramel.” Because then if two different people come up – one asking for chocolate and one for vanilla, even if we had assigned those as Ben’s flavor, you better bet Josephine would’ve needed to start making one of those so we could keep the day moving.

So, I found it to be pretty fun to try to always keep it straight,
“okay which bowls are which people making right now?”
“As soon as they’re done, what flavor do I need to tell them to start on? Etc. etc.”

On the periods where we got slammed, my brain was working hard and I loved that. I always love anything where I have to think and focus and all that fun jazz.

So, it was a lovely, wonderful day. And I was a bit sad when it was done. Also, I hope I am tasked with planning an amazing party because I definitely know what dessert place I will be hiring. Yum!

(#22) A Window Between World’s “Art in the Afternoon” Art Walk (May 4, 2014) – Part 3 (Why Did We Take Tickets If No Other Food Place Did?)

May 12, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

So, you might be wondering, as I mentioned in my first post, why we were taking tickets and no one else was.

Well, here’s the thing. Super Cool Creamery is still a start-up (an amazing, awesome start-up). So unfortunately, they don’t have a charity budget for now since there’s not extra money rolling around for that quite yet.

These huge corporations (such as Panda Express and more) could afford to come give away a bunch of food in exchange for promotion. Super Cool Creamery doesn’t even have a store front yet. Right now they only do parties. So I’d think it’s somewhat hard to do promotional exchanges since the group they’d be promoting to is pretty specific. (It’s just people who are going to throw some type of party.)

So, Super Cool Creamery had to be paid to be there. There wasn’t much of a way around it. So, the Art Walk wanted to try to make their money back on hiring Super Cool Creamery, meaning they charged tickets for the ice cream.

You might be wondering, “Well, why is this huge art walk, that’s getting all these heavy hitters for free, spending money on getting a start-up in there?” I think the main answer to that is that Super Cool Creamery’s first year happened to also be the art walk’s first year. So, it worked in the beginning when the art walk wasn’t getting huge sponsors.

And now that Art in the Afternoon has grown exponentially in, I think, only 3 short years, they’re not cutting out Super Cool Creamery probably for a number of reasons… You don’t want to cut out the people who started with you at the very beginning of whatever you’re doing. Also, do you want to cut out that super cool and amazing party-trick food booth?

And then Super Cool Creamery still wants to do it because I think they believe in the organization A Window Between Worlds, and of course they love making ice cream.

So, I see why Super Cool Creamery is invited back, and why they decide to come back. (But it is rough when all day long people keep saying, “what? I have to give you tickets?”… Though I will say, even though people were surprised, they didn’t necessarily seem to mind all that much.)

All I know is I’m so glad Super Cool Creamery was there, and that I got to learn about this amazing place. If I ever throw a party, I know who I’m calling!

(And I have a bit more to say about the art walk tomorrow.

(#22) A Window Between World’s “Art in the Afternoon” Art Walk (May 4, 2014) – Part 2 (What Is Super Cool Creamery)

May 11, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

What is Super Cool Creamery?

Oh, it’s only the coolest freaking ice cream place I’ve seen, probably ever. It’s this insanely, unbelievably brilliant idea and I wonder why no one came up with it sooner, and how in the world Ben (the owner) is not already a millionaire.

Here’s what happens. The Super Cool Creamery people (so today (and I think usually), Ben or Josephine) put a cream base (sugar, cream, milk, and whatever else you put in ice cream) into a big bowl. Then, they add the flavoring of whatever flavor you choose. They work on whipping it up. And then *drumroll* they add liquid nitrogen!

It’s cool because this smoky-looking stuff starts billowing out of the bowl. Of course kids (and adults alike) are all “whoa! That looks so cool!” And the very cold liquid nitrogen starts turning the ingredients into ice cream right before your very eyes!

It it unbelievably cool. And in the morning, they gave me a spoonful from a batch. Before I tasted it, I wondered what this crazy makeshift ice cream would taste like. Would liquid nitrogen taste chemically or weird?

No. The ice cream tasted absolutely incredible! It was so rich and creamy and unbelievably delicious. My mind is still blown at how I think this is one of the coolest things ever.

It’s also incredibly environmentally friendly. Think about the ice cream place that never has to plug in a freezer, and practically never wastes food.

You basically only make what you need, ’cause you’re making the batches as people are asking for them. And if you do end up making more than necessary and the stuff in the bowl starts to melt a bit, when your next customer comes in, you can just add more liquid nitrogen!

I feel like I’m in an informercial right now because I suppose it’s a little odd to be so incredibly excited about a product that I just found out about and have no stake in. But I just thought it was exceptionally cool and wildly smart, not to mention environmentally responsible.

Of course my only issue(s) as someone trying hard to lose weight this year (and trying to eat less and less dairy) is that I kinda wish there were perhaps a vegan and sugar-conscious version… But!
a) there’s always time to try that kind of stuff once the company grows.
b) It’s ice cream. Maybe every once in a while, you just have to indulge.

I’ll talk a bit more about the art walk tomorrow.

(#22) A Window Between World’s “Art in the Afternoon” Art Walk (May 4, 2014) – Part 1 (The Event)

May 10, 2014

What is A Window Between Worlds? It’s a non-profit organization designed to use art as a healing tool for victims of domestic violence.

I was more than happy to give an afternoon to help an organization with such a noble goal.

They put on this Art Walk called “Art in the Afternoon.” I was assigned to food. When I got there, there was a small volunteer meeting by the stage in which they just thanked us for coming out, and said a little about the day and about A Window Between Worlds. After our little pre-event huddle, we went off to our stations.

I happened to overhear the folks at Super Cool Creamery talking with  one of the coordinators for the event, saying they’d need someone to take tickets. The coordinator was saying the food leader wasn’t there at the moment, but she’d definitely assign someone when she came back over.

I piped up so none of them had to ask to again for something when they saw another coordinator person. I said, “I’m assigned to food and haven’t been given a station yet.”

Boom. I became the ticket person for Super Cool Creamery!

I want to talk to you all about what Super Cool Creamery’s business is. So, I’m gonna give it its own post tomorrow. For now, let’s talk more about the event.

This seemed like a super fun Art Walk, and it looked like people had a great time. You could engage in art projects there, and I always love places where doing things is an option.

Color Me Mine – which is this lovely-sounding in place in Los Angeles that I’ve never been to where you can paint bowls and things – had a tent where you could paint tiles. There were other various art projects around.

Not only was there art you could partake in, there was wonderful art you could enjoy from survivors who were going through A Window Between Worlds’ program.

And there was food. So. much. food.

Since I was a ticket-taker, I thought all the booths took tickets (which translated into money since you had to buy the tickets). But I came to find out no. In-N-Out = free. Panda Express=free. A smorgasbord of vegetables, fruits, and juices from Whole Foods=free. Sprinkles Cupcakes and Hansen’s cakes=free!

Not only were all those things free, the Hansen’s cakes people even walked around with trays trying to give you cake!

I did not indulge in the cake… but I did love one bite of Super Cool Creamery’s ice cream because I had to at least taste it. And I will get into the awesomeness of Super Cool Creamery tomorrow.

(#21) Miles For Melanoma 5k (May 4, 2014)

May 9, 2014

This day was short, straightforward, and simple.

I got there, got a volunteer shirt, and looked around for something to do. (The person running the volunteer table wasn’t there. She (or he) was probably out and about doing something.)

I found one of the captains in the backlot street who asked, “You doing something?” “Nope.” “Come with me.”

She assigned me to the task of moving some shirts and goodie bags over from the main registration area to the VIP area, saying once I was done with that to go find her to get another assignment.

So, I did that and I found her pointing incoming runners on the shuttles to the right directions to get their packets and such. I asked if she wanted me to take over for her so she could do other things, and she happily took my offer.

So, I spent the rest of the day pointing people from shuttles to packet pick-up. Then after the race, I pointed people to the correct shuttle.

I talked with Tony, the director of transportation. I learned about Teamsters and such, which was fun.

One thing I’m enjoying is that even though I’ve volunteered at a few different athletic events at this point, my jobs have thus far all been totally different. I didn’t even really think about the shuttling part of a race… until I worked in the shuttle area.

Think about how well-rounded and ready to take on the world I’ll be when it’s time to put on a race of my own! 😉

(#20) Goalball Retrieving At The Junior Blind Olympics – Part 6 (Coaching a Little)

May 8, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

As the day went on, we got kids who were younger and younger. In our last couple of matches, we had people who’d never played before. So, what they decided to do was to have an adult with every child who would help them along the way.

I got to guide one of the children. It was a fun and unique experience. First, I was pretty happy that I actually knew enough about Goalball by that time in the day that I could sort of teach someone how to play it.

Second, it was interesting to try and help someone in the course of the game because how do you help someone when the whole point of the game is to pay attention to the bells inside this ball? Sound is so important that you can’t really verbally coach them.

But you don’t want to just manhandle them moving them without speaking – especially when they can’t see, you ’cause I’m sure that does not feel good!

I just tried to kind of basically very quietly say things, or sort of just use my presence, tapping the ground or whatever. Granted, since the game was moving very slowly with explanations, it wasn’t a high pressure situation or anything.

While we’re talking about things that were quite awesome about the day, another thing I loved was at the beginning of the day when all the athletes were in the gym, people led everyone through little morning exercises. I love any volunteer event that gives me an excuse for a mini workout!

Overall, I would say it was a good day full of learning, and I’m glad I got the opportunity to go!

(#20) Goalball Retrieving At The Junior Blind Olympics – Part 5 (More Learning Experiences (and Limited Lunch Choices))

May 7, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

Also, during the games, the volunteer leader of Goalball would stand by the bleachers and give the parents little tie bits and such as the game was going on (since many people had never seen Goalball before).

It sort of sounded like a little sales pitch because she kept mentioning that you could come play Goalball with them on the weekends… But it also sounded like it was free to participate. So, I dunno…

It was a little funny though because Goalball is supposed to be played in a quiet gym. (I know that’s a little counterintuitive for sports, but the athletes need to be able to hear the bells in the ball.) And this person running Goalball would talk about how important the silence was – but then she’d be giving facts during the game.

She wasn’t all that loud, so I’m sure that’s why she thought it was fine. But the athlete closest to her (and me) in one of the intense matches sshed her, which was sort of funny. (I didn’t have anything against the woman, it was just hilarious to hear her continue to talk about how important silence was, but then talk, and then get sshed by an athlete.)

We broke for lunch. And again, it was incredibly sweet of them that they provided lunches for us. However, yet another thing I like to think I learned if I ever plan some type of event like this –
In the volunteer handouts, they said salad would be available instead of the meat option.

I’m actually trying eat less and less meat. I don’t want to go so far as to start saying I’m trying to be a vegetarian. I don’t want to make a declaration that I will never have meat again for the rest of my life. But I am generally trying to keep a mainly vegetarian diet. And I’ve been doing a pretty good job.

I was excited about the salad, but I hung back to make sure any real vegetarians (and of course any athletes) could have what they needed before I got what I needed. But they completely ran out of salads in both places where food was being served! Tons of people were not pleased. Lots of vegetarians did not get fed.

I did bring bars with me, because I know if you’re going to have a special diet, you always have to be prepared to provide your own stuff. But I felt bad for all the vegetarians who’d been told they could have salad, but instead got turkey sandwiches.

Wah Wah.

And I’ll finish out here tomorrow.

(#20) Goalball Retrieving At The Junior Blind Olympics – Part 4 (Ball Retriever? No? Wait, Ye-yeah! Ball Retriever)

May 6, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

– and things we can learn from the volunteer leader…  As I said, we already had jobs on our name tags. But then she was assigning us different jobs.

Now, look. I’m a team player and if things need to change, I’ll change and adapt. That’s fine. But why do you want to change and adapt to things that don’t need to be changed for any reason.

I was standing there across from someone assigned to safety gear. And she asked me, “Hey, do you want to do safety gear?” I didn’t want to be a diva or a jerk, but since she phrased it as a question, I said in a very nice way that I’d prefer to do ball retrieval if I could, but you know, whatever she needed.

She assigned me to safety gear. Then when she looked at the person assigned to safety gear and thought about what they should be doing, you could see her running through what she needed in her head. Then she assigned him ball retrieval! What was the point of assigning us new tasks when we were both there already assigned?

This is another example of when it would’ve been good to have been keeping a list so you can actually know if you’re short in any area, not just judge it based on what’s right in front of you.

I’m really for any challenge, but I was more excited by the prospect of trying to run around getting out-of-bounds balls as quickly as possible than I was by putting elbow pads and knee pads on people all day.

As more people started coming in from opening ceremony – and she realized she did have everyone she needed – she graciously allowed me to move back to ball retrieval. (Phew!)

And I spent the rest of the day chasing balls and calling goals. (There were no super close calls, so it wasn’t that pressure-filled. I just had to raise my arm when the ball went past the line.)

In one of the corners, a ball retriever looked just like Santa. It was pretty funny. He had a very round belly. So, he barely ever bent over to get the ball. He’d kick it somewhere or do some foot magic to get it up to his hands.

He tapped out before the end of the day. I hope it doesn’t sound like I’m making fun of him. I thought it was nice that he volunteered his time. Just pointing out it was a funny little act to watch during the day…

And I’ll pick up here tomorrow.

(#20) Goalball Retrieving At The Junior Blind Olympics – Part 3 (Checking In and Day Beginning)

May 5, 2014

Aurora De Lucia posing with Shriners at the Junior Blind OlympicsPicking up from yesterday –

Now we know all about the Junior Olympics, and we know what Goalball is. So, I suppose it’s time to talk about the day.

I got there and everyone checking people in was bubbly and organized. We had name tags that not only said what we were assigned to (e.g. Goalball), but also what we were assigned to within that area. (I was a ball retriever.)

There was an area where we could all pick up free box breakfasts. I really appreciated the gesture. However, most of the stuff in there had sugar as either the first or one of the first ingredients. I am really, really trying to make a much bigger effort when it comes to eating healthily. So, I didn’t take one of the free breakfasts (even though I always find it hard to pass up anything free).

We all spent some time in the gym prepping for the day. I met a group of Shriners. (I know nothing about Shriners, just that a Shriner’s hat is worn in By The Skin of Our Teeth.) The only thing I do know is the guys were nice, proud to be Shriners, and we all got some pictures together.

Now, what I’m about to say is in no way supposed to disparage the Goalball volunteer leader. But through this project, I’m trying to pick up things that I want to keep in mind for the future if I were to coordinate volunteers, and I feel like she did a couple of things I could learn from.

For one thing, she specifically told multiple volunteers after they checked in that they should go watch the opening ceremony because she thought it was something really cool that’s “not to be missed.” But then, she got overwhelmed and said that she was short people.

Then, when volunteers came back after watching the opening ceremonies, she seemed surprised that she had people. So, my only point here is maybe keep a list you check to actually know who’s there and who’s not. Or don’t tell people to watch the ceremony. But whatever you choose, don’t get worried when people aren’t there – when you actually know they are there.

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#20) Goalball Retrieving At The Junior Blind Olympics – Part 2 (What Is Goalball?)

May 4, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

What’s Goalball?

All players wear googles which completely block everything out (for anyone playing who does have some sight). It’s 3 on 3. Each team guards a goal that is basically the length of the end of a basketball court.

The players do a mix of kneeling and standing. They mainly kneel. When you kneel, you can feel the tape out in front of you, so you know which direction is the correct way to be facing. Also, when you’re on the floor already, you can “superman” out – stretching your body out – so that you can try to cover as much area as possible to block any balls coming in.

How do you know when the ball is coming to you? You can hear it! There are bells inside the ball, and you rely on your hearing to get a sense of where it is. When you want a teammate to pass you the ball, you pound on the grounding front of you, making noise so they know where you are.

Once you have the ball, you have to roll it to the other side. My understanding is there’s a line in the middle of the court and it can’t be in the air (or to a certain height in the air) as it goes across that line, or else it’s called as a high ball.

I find it a little interesting that a game for blind people can only really be reffed by sighted people, because it’s sighted people who say whether it’s a high ball and whether a ball is out of bounds, whether a goal is counted – all that jazz.

I suppose maybe if you were incredibly skilled with your hearing, you might be able to hear that stuff. But we had sighted people working the game.

So, after you roll the ball across the court, you either score a goal or the team blocks it. Then they roll it back, and on and on. We played games for 5 minutes each. I don’t know how long Goalball matches usually are.

Whenever the ball is thrown out of bounds (which was kind of often), one of the ball retrievers (that was me) just drops it back in to one of the side players, and the game resumes.

It might not sound super face-paced with all this talk of rolling and such. But when a game really gets going, I thought it could be a bit exhilarating.

So, now that we know what Goalball is, let’s talk about the day tomorrow.

(#20) Goalball Retrieving At The Junior Blind Olympics – Part 1 (What is the Junior Blind Olympics?)

May 3, 2014

While this event was super in fact super cool, let’s get to it right off the back that the “Olympics” moniker is a bit of a stretch.

Some people had never even played these games before. So, if you think this was a wildly intense competition, get that out of your head.

So, what is the Junior Blind Olympics?

Well, it’s not anything sanctioned by any official Olympic body. That’s just the name they use. It’s an event for blind and visually impaired people 6-19 years old from, from various states, experiencing different fun athletic (or semi-athletic) events. I say semi-athletic because in addition to sports, there were picnic games and such.

There were plenty of events to participate in – archery, golf, long jump, shot put, tandem cycling, etc.

Basically, the vibe I got was that the point of it was to encourage blind and visually impaired people to be more active because the obesity rates are high in that demographic. (Granted, it’s America. So, they’re high in basically every demographic… And I’m certainly not one to talk since y’all have seen that I’m working on losing weight.)

How did I end up at Goalball?

When I got the paper asking me to rank my preferences for volunteer activities, I put Goalball at the top of the list for two reasons:

1) It is a game specifically for blind and visually impaired people, and one I’d never seen (or even heard of) before. So, I wanted to experience something new.

2) It was indoors, baby! And if you ask me if I want to be indoors or outdoors, my preference is always – always – indoors. Sure, I like outdoor athletic events, but if I could run and jump and dance and everything exclusive inside for the rest of my life, I’d be all for it!

But, I will say that after having seen the day, it’s possible that the volunteers who sort of had the most interesting day and possibly got the most out of it were the assistant coaches. They got to take athletes around to the various competitions throughout the day. That seemed like it would’ve been rewarding (and interesting and ever-changing). So, if I volunteered at this event in the future, I’d maybe want to try that out. (Though it was kind of super awesome being indoors.)

Goalball itself is an awesome sport – which I will tell you all about tomorrow.

(#19) Making Care Packages With Operation Gratitude (April 19, 2014) – Part 2 (Having a Great Time Filling Boxes)

May 2, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

I was assigned as one of the people who passed out food to go in the boxes.

So, basically, I learned this is how it all works:
There are two lines that run through the warehouse, both accomplishing the same thing – just happening concurrently on different sides.

Some people tape up the bottom of boxes, getting them prepared to be filled. Then, there are people who walk the boxes all around the long semi-oval of stations of food and other goodies. Once the box is full, it goes through the automatic tape machine to close it. As that’s happening, filler of the box goes to get a new box and start all over.

Runners take the boxes from the end of the tape machine and run them outside where they are labeled. I didn’t totally get to see what all happened outside, but I think those tents also had letter writing stations available. And I’m not sure how all the boxes were sorted and everything, but the point is the magical sorting and such happened outside.

Indoors (always my favorite place), we had a grand ol’ time. The people around me were very friendly. We also had super fun mini-conversations with the people who were coming around filling the boxes. At one point, we even started a timer to see how long it took people to get back around to us. (I think it was about 5 minutes.) One guy made it a little game, trying to shave seconds off his times. It was fun and silly! I loved it.

In keeping with the whole well-run machine thing, we even had a couple volunteers who just continually re-filled the bins as we were getting low. There were never any hold-ups or slow-downs that I saw because everybody had a job. Everybody was needed. It was run quite well.

As I saw the people in the boxes going around, I saw their different strategies on how to fill it without overflowing. That looked like an incredibly fun puzzle-type job that I was dying to try.

Sure enough, toward the end (once my area was all out of everything), I got the change to run around with one box. It was an awesome challenge trying to pack it full.

At the end of the day, an announcement was made that we’d put together close to 4,000 boxes. Amazing, right?

I absolutely adored my time at Operation Gratitude. I’d love to go back anytime!

(#19) Making Care Packages With Operation Gratitude (April 19, 2014) – Part 1 (Grilled Cheese Sandwiches & Finding My Place in a Huge Operation)

May 1, 2014

At a previous volunteer event, I was introduced to Operation Gratitude, and I really wanted to go check out their operation!

So, on this day, I did.

I’m on their mailing list, and they said in their email that there would be food trucks available at lunch time. (Yum!) I know I’m trying to be extra healthy and all, but sometimes I just want to eat at the Grilled Cheese Truck.

Since I feel like I’ve heard about this truck numerous times out here in Los Angeles, I not only felt I had to try it – I tried two different sandwiches! I ate half a sandwich while I was there. I saved the other half and the other sandwich and over the course of the next two days, I finished all my food truck goodness.

The first sandwich was good, for sure. (I had macaroni and cheese inside my grilled cheese.) While it was delicious, I didn’t totally understand why this would be the talk of the town… until I had my dessert sandwich!

I had the s’mores melt (marshmallows, nutella, and graham crackers) with added peanut butter. And that’s when I totally got why this was something to write home about. Nom nom nom.

After chowing down on some grilled cheese, I went and signed in. Then, it was time to get to work.

At first, I felt this place was a little overwhelming. I’d never been there before, and there’s stuff everywhere. There are tables and tents outside. Inside, there’s this huge warehouse with stuff everywhere! From an outsider’s perspective, I had no idea what was going on.

I was told to just find someone in a blue shirt and they’d tell me what to do. They were just starting up the after lunch shift, so there were a bunch of us doe-eyed volunteers looking for blue shirt people to help us make sense of everything.

But ah, the blue shirted people. They knew exactly what they were doing, and they were oh-so-helpful.

Boom, they just made eye contact and pointed you right where you were supposed to go. ll the volunteers were being funneled into various positions pretty seamlessly as far as I could tell.

Almost in the blink of an eye, the well-oiled machine of this place became visible to me.

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#18) Heart of the City 5k (April 13, 2014) – Part 2 (And Moving Those Sandwiches)

April 30, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

One of the more senior/in-charge volunteers gave me some pond cardboard containers that I could put the sandwiches in so they had somewhere to live (since a table was already full of them). Little did we know, this box was going to spur a great idea.

See, we weren’t actually set up at the finish line. We were set up in a courtyard area where people sort of hung out before the start and after the finish. It was where people got their shirts and such before the race. And it apparently was where people also go their food and drinks after.

I wondered why the food at our table wasn’t moving as quickly as food usually does after a race when it dawned on me… we’re not at the finish! People aren’t even realizing they can walk over here. So, I walked over the box of peanut butter sandwiches. And of course, they start going like hotcakes!

But then the runners helped me realize something I couldn’t fathom that I didn’t think of before – they were so thirsty! When I was handing out sandwiches, they were saying, “these are great, but do you have water?!”

For the time being, I just pointed them in the direction of our tent. But then I walked back and grabbed water. That went faster than ever. I didn’t even make it all the way to the finish line before an entire case was gone.

One of the lead volunteers of our tent saw how fast items were going. Plus we were so overstocked with volunteers that we had more than enough to send out. So, she started sending out multiple people with multiple things, and everything started moving a lot quicker and easier.

That made me feel really good. Keep open eyes, build off each other’s inspirations and ideas, and boom! Things move smoother.

Pretty soon we started winding down. Then a dog costume contest (yep. I said a dog costume contest!) started up. My shift was winding down, and I was so outta there!

But even with the dogs, it was a good time with good people, good fun, & good problem-solving. I’m calling it a success!

(#18) Heart of the City 5k (April 13, 2014) – Part 1 (Making Sandwiches)

April 29, 2014

Welp, I didn’t really pay any attention when I signed up for this. All I saw was that a 5k was happening right near my house. So, sign me right up! What I neglected to realize was this was a dog-friendly event.

They made it really clear. There were paw prints on my shirt! They were oh so dog friendly. So, of course that was a joyous discovery for me. (That’s sarcasm, because I’m terrified of dogs… But I made it through!

My job was to work at the post-race food tent. When I got there, they put me to work making peanut butter sandwiches. I worked with these people in high school who were telling me about this program they were in, in which they had to log a certain number of hours in various categories.

They had to do community service and athletics. I think there was another one I can’t remember. But I do remember thinking how nice that they have a structured program helping them become well-rounded people.

Even the community service had to be approved as both something that would help the community and something that would help the student in some way. So, it sounded cool.

The event was extremely well stocked with volunteers, so once I made some sandwiches, there wasn’t much to do but stand around and wait for people to come in.

There’s a new apartment complex downtown doing a big marketing push to get people in. Someone came over with beautiful chocolates in nicely presented boxes and offered us some. I was proud of myself for passing them up.

I have noticed that there’s often so much free food at these volunteer events! Sometimes I’m (somewhat responsibly) indulging, but other times I’m staying steadfast in my new, healthier lifestyle. So, I feel pretty good about the balance I’m striking.

As I was waiting for runners to come in, I knew there had to be something that needed to be done. There’s always something, right? As I looked around, I saw that more peanuts butter sandwiches could be made. We still had tons of supplies. And the only reason we’d stopped was because the area where they were being made needed to be used to prepare the fruit for a while.

So, I went back to making more sandwiches. I know how hungry runners get. I know it’s only a 5k, but people love their food after races. I also know how fast the crowd will go. Plus, one of the higher-up volunteers told me they wanted to use as much of the food supply as possible. So, we threw ourselves into making sandwiches.

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#17) Hope University’s Under The Big Top Gala (April 12, 2014) – Part 2 (Auction Items Running & Super Calm Night)

April 28, 2014

Picking up from yesterday

After the auction, we all went into the auction items room, where we then were given different clipboards with different forms and instructions on them. They told us how to accept payments. We were to run auction items to various tables and collect payments.

It was pretty fun and pretty simple. It was a little funny how little they trusted us, wanting to send us out in teams of two. I sort of get it, because we’re dealing with money and we’re strangers to the organization.

But it didn’t seem like they were worried we were going to steal (honestly, who’s going to be paying in cash anyway?), so much as they were worried we were not going to understand the simple concept of “collect the amount of money they wrote down for us, hand off the auction item, bring the check back to the room.

As if it weren’t straightforward enough, we had those directions taped to our clipboards in case we needed a refresher. It’s totally fine, and places can choose to utilize volunteers however they wish. And if I were a volunteer coordinator, especially one dealing with auctions and money and such, I am sure that I would not necessarily trust the competency of strangers.

But, that doesn’t mean I still don’t find it a little funny.

One extremely nice man who bought multiple things had gotten a huge pack of Carl’s Jr gift certificates in the silent auction, and he went around the whole place passing them out to every volunteer. I thought that was really sweet.

Turns out the gift certificates had expired over a year ago, but you know, you win some, you lose some, I guess.

After all the auction items had been run out, the night was over. It flowed exactly the way our grid said it would. It was also wonderfully themed. The centerpieces were very cute and circus-y. The step-and-repeat photo area had props. I was extremely impressed with how this event was run.

Comparing this volunteer experience to other events, I’ve realized I find more thrilling joy and excitement at the ones where problems creep up and you have to solve issues and/or do a lot at once.

But, I also don’t mind being a cog in the wheel. There is something to be said for not having to think at all. Plus, I like taking the little trek down to Anaheim and getting off at the Disneyland stop (which was very close to the hotel where this was held).

So, basically it was an incredibly calm, easy, simple night. Just tie it in a bow and gently exhale like you’re in a meditation. *blows out air quietly*

(#17) Hope University’s Under The Big Top Gala (April 12, 2014) – Part 1 (Oh So Organized)

April 27, 2014

This event itself was a lot like the California Jazz Foundation’s dinner/silent auction/concert, but the night was much different. I have not seen as many things or people quite as organized as this event and its volunteer coordinator.

Hope University is a fine arts programs for adults with intellectual disabilities. We all know how much I love the arts and truly believe they can help people, so I’m always down to help places like this.

Before I even got there, we got a detailed grid of the exact plan for the night and when and where we’d be helping. I got there, and the volunteer’s room was all set up. I got checked in and prepped on how to do registration. That’s where I spent the first hour or so of the night.

After that was the volunteer dinner break. I believe there was also unlimited food here, but I restrained myself much better than I did with the all the pizza the week before. I didn’t even have a peanut butter cookie (though they looked quite delicious).

After dinner, our jobs for the auction got assigned to us. We each got little clipboards with the action forms – which had all pertinent information we even might need to know taped to the clipboard itself!

They could not have been more organized. Also, they had each of us only assigned to watching one table. So, it was not a big job.

I’m happy to help however places need me to help, but I will say I felt a little on autopilot only having to watch one table.

And I actually have a small regret… When the auction was going on, I almost wrote down everyone who won, just to have it, even if they weren’t at my table. It wouldn’t have hurt anyone for me to do that. It would’ve been quiet and to myself, so there’s no reason I’d need to refrain from doing that.

However, I still had this nagging feeling of “don’t step on anyone’s toes. You’ve been assigned to this one table. Everyone is doing her or his own job. Just allow people do to their jobs, Aurora.

And yet, no one ended up writing down who won the 6th item. Had I just quietly written it all down, I would’ve known! Sigh.

This is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#16) AbilityFirst’s Stroll and Roll (April 25, 2014)

April 26, 2014

AbilityFirst is an organization out to serve adults and children and with special needs, “looking beyond disabilities, focusing on capabilities, and expanding possibilities.”

The Stroll and Roll was basically a 5k, but very wheelchair and stroller friendly.

I got to work the Mega Bloks booth. After the race, kids (and adults too, if they wanted) got to come build things from Mega Bloks – and then take their creations home!

When I first got to the booth, the other volunteers suggested we make things so kids can see a finished product. I started building something, but then I realized when all the pieces were thrown about the table, there was no way to see what I was doing. So, I went to town organizing my table.

At first it was hard to organize, because there wasn’t a ton of space… Of course it dawned on me – “Wait a second. These are stacking blocks. I can organize by stacking like ones together!”

The person from the booth next to us came over and joked that he wanted so badly to knock down my table since I was working so hard on getting it organized.

The woman in charge of the volunteers came over to check on us, and definitely gave me a look with a tiny bit of “are you a little crazy?” in her eyes. But, she didn’t seem against it. She said, “ah, I see. They can get pieces they need here.”

Sure. They can do whatever. I just know that I have a hard time envisioning the possibilities if I don’t know what I have to work with… It’s possible that kids are more creative than I am. I’m sure some people would argue that seeing neat stacks of blocks stifles the creativity that would come from blocks strewn about all haphazardly on a table – where anything is possible, not just towers.

But, my table was the neat one. And it was the first one to have all the blocks taken. So, take that for what it’s worth. (Of course, *stands up straighter, gives the side-face glance* I take it as as though my table won, because we were so conducive to creativity that people just had to work in that clean space.)

The rest of the Mega Bloks volunteers all came from the same school, but when they took a picture together, they specifically walked over to get me and invite me to be a part of it. I thought that was incredibly sweet. They don’t know me. They all knew each other. Yet, they included me, and I really appreciated that and thought it was quite kind.

(#15) California Jazz Foundation’s “Give The Band A Hand” Concert (April 6, 2014) – Part 4 (Silent Auction and End of the Night)

April 25, 2014

Picking up from yesterday

So, we were told to put out cards during the speech. I threw one on one of the back tables, but felt wildly weird about it.

My attitude was, “I’m not here to run the event and figure out when I think things should happen. Sure, I’m trying to help when I see needs, but if the producers/people in charge are saying pass out these cards during a speech… well, it’s not my job to argue, but to just do it.”

Thank goodness for the other volunteers who stood up and said, “we’re not doing this during the speech. We’ll pass them out at the very beginning of the auction.” Really, they were right. And perhaps I was being a little too meek not standing up for this person’s moment.

While we’re on the subject of the speech – one of the incredibly cool things about this concert is that Quincy Jones himself was supposed to be the presenter of the speech. Quincy Jones! Whenever I tell people why I went to Berklee (if I’m giving the shortest version), I simply say, “because Quincy Jones went there.”

He’s Quincy Jones! And let me tell ya, I was gonna do everything in my power to be the volunteer who took care of Quincy Jones and led him to the stage.

Quincy.
Jones.

But alas, he was not there and had to send in a video message instead.

The auction went off fine. The auctioneer was great. We rallied the volunteers and got him everything he needed.

Another volunteer and I wrote down all the numbers of people who won things. This was obviously quite an easy job – until we just started taking donations because Mark (the auctioneer) would talk about a level of donation and ask how many people wanted to donate at that level. Then we’d have to write down all the numbers in the room at once.

(They had two people doing it so they could compare lists and make sure nothing was left off.)

However, Mark was awesome and read each of the numbers for us. We wrote fast, and everything was good and accounted for.

After the event, I went down to the hotel bar with the auction guys and another volunteer, and we had a grand ol’ time!

I had planned on just going for my first shift, getting home, and doing boring housework and such. I realize sometimes you do need days to clean and organize, but in the end, I’m glad I decided to stay twice as long. I met fun people and enjoyed the event.

It was certainly interesting, to say the least. But we made it all happen. So, yay!

(#15) California Jazz Foundation’s “Give The Band A Hand” Concert (April 6, 2014) – Part 3 (Make It Work)

April 24, 2014

Picking up from yesterday

So, we find out that people are going to start trickling in. I find a person who has info on how we register people. And then I start working with her at registration until the people actually assigned to registration show up.

As volunteers trickle in, they seem a bit lost and confused. The person they’ve been emailing with is nowhere to be found because as the producer of the event, he’s running around taking care of a bunch of other things.

Since the volunteer coordinator ignored me, I just started people where they could go. I barely even know, but I just took any information I did have and thought about where people could be used. I ended up leaving registration to go basically work the floor and see if I could see any places where we needed more volunteers, or any volunteers who needed answers (that I could only hope I could give them).

After guests had time to mingle, drink, pose at step-and-repeat, and take a look through the silent auction, it was time for the sit-down dinner. So, we ushered everyone into the dinner, and then hung out as confused volunteers in the hallway.

We had been shown there’d be a room for us where we got unlimited(!) pizza.

(Blugh. I’ll admit I had a bit too much… I’ve been more responsible about food lately… but is it not maybe a bit challenging to be completely responsible with unlimited pizza at your disposal?)

So, we went in and had some pizza. That’s where I met the auctioneer, who also had not been given all that much information.

He said he was going to need volunteers to help write down bidder numbers and such. I know this is silly because there’s really no reason I needed to take responsibility for this event. But I was just nervous.

I don’t want to sound as though I think I’m a superhero. I’m pretty sure things could’ve been figured out without me. But, I felt better about staying. So, I stayed.

When the auction was approaching, there were supposed to be donation sheets passed out at the tables. The auctioneer had been told that had happened. But alas, it had not. Then, we were told to just pass it out right then – during the acceptance of an award! That was our last chance before the auction.

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#15) California Jazz Foundation’s “Give The Band A Hand” Concert (April 6, 2014) – Part 2 (What Are We Doing? And Where Is Everybody?)

April 23, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

Let’s just start from the beginning. When I first got the volunteer information sheet, I listed all of my preferences as second shift. Yet, I was assigned to first shift.

I get it that if you don’t have enough people who can work the second shift, you have to put some on the first shift. But it was weird to me that there wasn’t even a question of “I know every preference you put is second shift. Can you work the 1st one?” Nope. Just on there.

I know I could’ve protested. But I wasn’t booked for anything else that day. And the hotel was within walking distance of me. So, it was fine. I’m just saying…

13 people were listed for the first shift, and as far as I know, only 4 of us showed up.

The girls I was talking to were a little perplexed about everything. They were saying they volunteer a lot, and that usually there’s some sort of check-in or at least someone welcoming you, and there’s a little direction as far as what you should do.

Whereas here, we had to figure out a lot for ourselves. A lot of the time, people didn’t even necessarily seem to care that we were around. Those girls were so willing and at the ready to help, but they said they felt a little weird because the vibe was so relaxed.

People were just eating lunch, saying they’d tell us more in a bit. Whereas our mindset was sort of like, “can you just tell us what to do? We’re here to help, and an event is going down in just a couple of hours. There are only 4 volunteers here. Is honestly no one worried about this?”

We somehow pieced together all the various tasks and things did indeed get set up.

As it got closer to 4:30, which is when people were supposed to arrive, the afternoon volunteers hadn’t shown up yet. Even though technically my shift was about to end, I didn’t feel good about leaving wondering if anyone would be there to work the event.

So, the girls and I decided to stay a bit longer until we were sure it was safe to go home.

It also was weird that guests were supposed to come at 4:30, yet the volunteers who were supposed to work registration and such were also scheduled not to come until 4:30… Generally, I’d think you’d schedule them at 4 (or possibly even earlier) so they have a chance to come check in, settle in, learn about their position, and be in place before the early birds get there.

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#15) California Jazz Foundation’s “Give The Band A Hand” Concert (April 6, 2014) – Part 1 (No Volunteer Coordinator)

April 22, 2014

I’m about to sound a little judge-y, I guess. So, if you don’t feel like hearing that attitude, wait ’til we get to the next one.

This was an interesting event, to say the least.

The person who’d been talking to all the volunteers and assigning them shifts and such was not a volunteer coordinator, but the producer of the event.

Now, it’s not that weird that for a small event there wouldn’t be an extra coordinator for the volunteers. However, he didn’t really check on the volunteers at all. He didn’t make sure any positions were staffed or that anybody knew what they were doing.

And I don’t really fault him, because he was busy doing a lot of other things and running the slideshow and all that jazz. Technically, he’d even gotten a volunteer coordinator apparently, but I helped her when she showed up at the registration desk.

So, he probably thought since he got a volunteer coordinator, everything would be fine. However, that person didn’t show up until the event was starting and many people were in place. She also didn’t seem interested in volunteer coordinating at all.

All she did was complain that we didn’t have a bid number assigned to her – even though she wasn’t a registered guest. She hob-knobbed with the fancy people and went in and sat down at a table, enjoying the same dinner and show as all of the guests.

I don’t like to step on toes, so even though the volunteer situation seemed a bit like a mess, and even though she didn’t seem interested in coordinating at all, and I think it was just her way of getting in for free – I still deferred to her because she was the coordinator.

When she got there, I tried to get her up to speed on who people were, and what was happening before she came in. I even told her where some free volunteers were standing, and pointed out stations stations that could probably use more people so that she could assign people how she saw fit.

Not too surprisingly, she seemed completely uncaring. And once she started drinking with her friends and disappearing, I knew it was time to just step up and get stuff done.

(By the way, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having some fun at your event when you’re sure are you’re moving parts are working correctly. Life should be fun. But if you’re there to be the volunteer coordinator, maybe, just maybe, make sure every station is staffed and that people know what they’re doing? You know, maybe. If you feel like it.)

So, we were a rogue set of volunteers practically on our own, and this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#14) Create Now Book Fair (April 5, 2014)

April 21, 2014

Create Now is a place that uses the arts to help people, and that is something I can always get behind!

Plus, they were having a book fair. I can also get behind getting more people reading more often. This is actually something I want to work on even in my own life. The Pew Research Center put out a report earlier this year that said 23% of Americans didn’t read a single book last year!

I don’t quite fall into that category, though I will admit I did not read many! So, yeah. Let’s read. And let’s go to a book fair where kids are being given free books!

Since I was coming from the Mensa board meeting, I wasn’t going to be able to get there until pretty late in the fair, but the volunteer coordinator said to come anyway. Once I got there, there didn’t seem to be a ton to do.

I asked what to do, but it was basically just “go see if anyone needs help.” So, I went to different booths. I did help get an extra table to a craft area. But everybody was pretty set. And that’s when one of the leaders said, “they need more help at face painting.”

Now, I’m always ready to jump in and help in any way I can, and I certainly love challenges… But to go and paint kids faces? I have absolutely no experience doing that.

I looked at the volunteer leader, probably with a look of terror in my eye, and said, “Does just anybody paint the faces? Or are these people who’ve have training to be face painters?”

She said it could be anybody. So, off I went! I jumped in, no nervously, but I am good with children, ’cause I’m outgoing and make big facial expressions. So, at least there’s that!

Thankfully, the first kids who came to my spot on the table asked for flowers, rainbows, and other simple things. One person asked for hello kitty, which I googled, then drew. (Later, I saw there was one super trained person at the table who did a hello kitty for someone, which completely put mine to shame!)

One person wanted Mario, so I sent him to that girl who was trained and was doing intricate unicorns and things. But other than Mario, I didn’t turn away any requests.

Even though I was pretty petrified about face painting (and really not exceptional at it), all the kids (and parents) acted very appreciative! They all seemed happy about the fact that face painting existed at this event, no matter how amateur the paintings were.

So, yay happiness and faking my way through the face painting booth! *high-five*

(#13) Fight For Air Stair Climb (April 5, 2014) – Part 4 (I Got A Blue Shirt, And I Felt Like A Princess)

April 20, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

I’m sure you’re not surprised, I selfishly asked Rebecca if I could in fact have a blue shirt and she said, “of course! You’re definitely a volunteer captain at this point.”

She also explained they actually ran out of the shirts that said “volunteer captain” on the back, and that the ones in the box were just blue Lung Association t-shirts – but it’s what they were using to pass out to captains since they ran out of the other ones. But nonetheless, she wanted to recognize my contribution with a blue shirt.

I really shouldn’t have cared about a shirt color… but I did, and ultimately I got my blue shirt. *hair flip, wipes off shoulders*

After that, it was basically the end of my shift. (I know that getting the blue shirt at the end of my shift makes it all that much more ridiculous. What can I say? Sometimes I’m ridiculous.)

Rebecca told me that they needed a stage manager for the awards ceremony later in the day and that they were all talking about how I’d be the perfect person to do it. I thought that was really sweet. It was nice to feel so very valued and special (and to know that even though I was just trying to get stuff done efficiently without make a big stink about it, that people still totally noticed).

Alas, I had to get to a Mensa board meeting (which I’d told them about, so we all knew I couldn’t stay – though I thought about playing hooky!)

Before I left, Rebecca and Vanessa both said goodbye to me – and they couldn’t have been sweeter. As I said in the blog title, they made me feel like a total princess! Vanessa said, “you just get it. I could tell within minutes of meeting you.”

They both said they’d love to have me help again and I even got an email later thanking me again and giving me information on more volunteer activities.

I know the point of this stuff isn’t to puff myself and feel special, but I’ll still admit that it felt amazing to not only feel like I helped accomplish a lot (and got to be physically active while doing it), but that my work was oh-so-appreciated by the people running the event.

So, amazing day. Wonderful feelings. And perhaps two new best friends!

(#13) Fight For Air Stair Climb (April 5, 2014) – Part 3 (Getting Supplies to the Roof!)

April 19, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

So, I hear we need to get cases of water to the roof for the finishers.

Then one of the sponsors comes up to me because he has boxes of towels that need to go to the roof, and apparently I look like I know what I’m doing. Cool.

So, we recruit some people and some dollies and start taking it all up to the roof. Now, the elevator doesn’t go all the way up to the roof. So, we got to get everything to a high floor, then walk the last 2 – 3 flights, which was pretty awesome. Teamwork made it go extremely fast, and I really felt like I was working (and getting a great workout!) by carrying semi-heavy things up the stairs.

Once we got to the top, I saw that that seemed to be where the party was. All the people up there helping were getting so pumped for the event. People were taking pictures of this view high above Los Angeles. It was pretty awesome.

I learned from the medical staff that they needed a bucket of ice to help cool people down. So, I got in touch with the correct parties, and we got one up there.

After that, I went back downstairs to the main hub. That’s when I saw one of the volunteers from my team that morning in a blue shirt. And then I got a little jealous. There was a box of blue shirts just sitting there and Rebecca, the manager of the event, was also there.

I almost didn’t say anything. I thought to myself, “you know, if Cory Booker were here, he wouldn’t be preoccupied with a blue shirt. He would just want to make sure he helped to the best of his ability.”

But let’s get real. I’m not as cool as Cory Booker. To me, for whatever reason, the blue shirt said, “you did a great job – a great enough job to deserve a blue shirt.”

Did I ignore personal growth in favor of getting a special shirt? We’ll talk about it tomorrow.

(#13) Fight For Air Stair Climb (April 5, 2014) – Part 2 (I Don’t Have a Blue Shirt, But It’s All Good)

April 18, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

So, I was doing my best to run around and stay one step ahead.

Anytime I was confident I had answers for a few steps ahead, I took a pause from finding answers and got to helping with loading/unloading the carts.

When it’s possible to jump in and actually do work, I love to be a part of it instead of just telling people “do this” [said in an exaggerated bossy tone with hands on my hips].

So, once everything was in the respective places, people looked at me sort of expectantly with “what now?”

I kept my ears open and heard we needed to cut the fruit. So, I scrounged up some knives and a cutting board, and got some people going on that. I also saw empty tables in recovery. So, we started laying out food. Then I went to find Vanessa to get more instructions.

As more people got there, I started to see more and more how things fit together. I learned that volunteer captains had blue shirts.

Since I had been asked to lead a team, there was definitely part of me that wished I was wearing a blue shirt… But then I thought, “it doesn’t matter what color shirt you wear. It just matter what you do.” So, I didn’t grab a shirt or bring it up. I just went to work.

It wasn’t really an issue to be able to get people to help me even without a blue shirt because Vanessa had already told people to help me in the morning, so everyone just kind of assumed I knew what I was doing.
Plus, people had a generally helpful attitude there. So, we all worked together as a team and it was all good.

…And I had a zip-up jacket which somehow when zipped made people just assume I was legitimate.

So, the next thing I did was help brand the outside of the place. We had a big rolling plastic banner that said American Lung Association on it. So, me and two guys kept rolling off pieces to put on the backs of tents and things.

We weren’t completely sure how to adhere it, but ultimately we went with a mixture of safety pins and strong tape that we somehow materialized from who knows where.

Once things were branded, Vanessa told me we needed to get cases of water up to the roof.

This sounds fun!

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#13) Fight For Air Stair Climb (April 5, 2014) – Part 1 (Jumping In With Both Feet)

April 17, 2014

This was spectacular. I dare may say it was my favorite one yet.

I roll in early in the morning, well before the sun had risen. This event was practically down the street from my house, and I was oh so thankful for the convenience.

When I got there, there seemed to be  little volunteer area, but since things were still being set up, the two volunteers manning the sign in had also basically just gotten there and didn’t really know what to do or where to go.

So, I started walking around until I found the volunteer coordinator. She was with people from the building, and we were walking into a storage room to get supplies. We hadn’t even exchanged names yet and she promptly told me we needed to get half of the mini-pies up to the recovery area. (I absolutely loved her get-right-in-there attitude.)

As I was loading up a dolly, she brought me a small group of volunteers and said something like, “Here’s a team. Make it happen.” So I did!You don’t have to tell me twice. I love getting stuff done and teamwork and all that great stuff. So, this was an absolute dream.

I was getting information as it all was happening. I didn’t even really know where the recovery area was. My only goal was to stay one step ahead of the volunteer team she gave me. I wanted to have people standing around, bored, as little as possible.

If you give me a team, I want to utilize them. (And I want them to be glad they came and feel like I’m helping them to do the best they can do.)

So, any time a dolly was loading up or people were on the move with heavy objects, I was on the move, finding people with the answers, getting a map of the layout, and making sure things were going where they needed to go.

We got the pies up there. We found out where the other mini-pies needed to go (VIP). We found out where the crackers and other pastries went. And we got everything loaded up and out to the correct places quickly! Before you knew it, the storage room was empty. [*high-five*]

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#12) Feeding Homeless People On Skid Row (March 29, 2014) – Part 2 (Coach Glen – The One And Only)

April 16, 2014

Picking up from yesterday

Thankfully, one woman brought a rice and meat dish. Thank goodness for her, or all we would’ve had to give would’ve been oranges and cookies. (It’s thanks to other volunteers that we even had that much.)

It was just an interesting day where no one really seemed to understand what organization we were volunteering with…

Also, someone needs to base a sketch character off “Coach Glen – the one and only immediately.

Coach Glen (T.O.A.O)  was always pounding the table saying “peoples! peoples, peoples!” anytime he wanted to drive a point home. He also sort of liked to repeat himself when it came to talking about things his organization(? – if it exists, I’m still a little skeptical) had done. (And he started and ended most things saying “amen.”

He enjoyed mentioning how world famous skid row was. I get that it’s a place mentioned in a lot of things. But it was weird to me, sort of selling the idea of feeding homeless people (which we were already there to do anyway) by talking about how famous the area was…

He was obsessed with the idea that they needed a power-washer. I can’t tell you how much he impressed upon us that his group needed a power-washer for the park. He kept talking to always of us, it felt in sort of a pressuring way to somehow find more money to give, or find a power washer.

I understand that once you have volunteers, you want to rev them up and get them to do more things for your organization, but the constant, impassioned pleas for money and supplies was a bit overwhelming (not just to me, but to people I talked to that day as well).

So, we’re hearing about this power washer multiple times, but none of us could make it appear out of thin air – though it seemed in his eyes like he wished we could.

Also, we were all supposed to donate $5 – which I did… But I did find it odd that we all ponied up $5 to a man in the middle of a park who really just had a folding table. Nothing else distinguished him from anybody else. Volunteers brought the food. We met in the park.

He could’ve been a random guy who just had a table and put a listing on Volunteer Match. (Legitimately, I’d say there’s at least a 40% chance that’s true…) If this is some enterprising sneaky scheme to make money, it’s probably not the easiest or fastest way to do it. But humongous kudos for thinking outside the box.

(I guess it’s not incredibly odd to have to give money as part of a volunteer activity… I did have to pay to ride the Do Good Bus. However, it cost the organization money to do the ride. So, I understood why they needed it. And that’s the only other volunteer event I can think of where it was a requirement to give money… So, it did feel weird that we’re already there to volunteer our time (and many people already brought food). And we’re still required to give $5?)

He does seem to legitimately run a reading club. So, he’s probably legitimate to some degree. And maybe it’s silly and awful to be so cynical and such. But I wondered as we all just handed over cash to this strange man, “What is this money going to be used for?”

So, an odd day with an odd man who left all the volunteers looking a little perplexed.

However, we did end up somehow rationing the food out perfectly so that everyone who wanted some got some with nothing leftover. So, some good got done – no matter how puzzled we all were. Yay to that.

So, How Did The Taxes Shake Out?

April 15, 2014

Some people asked for a follow up post to my one about taxes on game show winnings. Since it’s tax day, let’s do it!

I had the privilege of writing a check with my taxes for the first time this year. I always claim zero deductions on all start work paperwork because I never want to owe at the end of the year. (Thankfully, I won the car back in March and had plenty of time to plan. So, we all saw it coming.)

Here are the solved mysteries we were waiting to hear about:

– Selling the car (and obviously taking a loss since no one will pay sticker on a car previously titled to someone else) does not count as a capital gains loss. (I know. It’s a super bummer. You don’t have to tell me! I asked multiple sources, ’cause it seemed to me that that should’ve been a thing… But alas, it was not.)

– Even the huge sales tax bill (over $2,000) didn’t really help me. You can, in fact, claim your sales tax – but only if it is more than your state/local income tax (which the sales tax on the car was not, for me). However, I was told that had I saved every receipt from the year, I could’ve added all sales taxes from all receipts to the car’s sales tax and then hopefully come out ahead with sales tax.

So, I suppose that’s perhaps something to think about doing the next time you win a car on a game show…

(Again, I couldn’t be more thankful that this is the “problem” I had this year.)

I think that’s everything, right? It played out the way we expected. I did in fact get a form from TPiR, and had to claim my winnings as other income, paying taxes accordingly. So, there you have it.

If I’m forgetting to mention anything, or you have any questions, please let me know!

(#12) Feeding Homeless People On Skid Row (March 29, 2014) – Part 1 (The Oddest Event Yet)

April 14, 2014

I know we’re only 12 activities in. So, this might not mean anything yet, but this was by far the oddest event yet.

Before I get to the weirdness, I do want to mention one takeaway of the day which is really just a question of how are we helping poor or homeless kids?

Of course I also genuinely care about homeless adults. But there was a middle-school-aged-child that came up to our group and started asking us questions about where we’re from. And he really didn’t have a grasp of the different states in America.

He seemed so outgoing and passionate about learning. He also seemed interested in sports; he dribbled a basketball the whole time he talked to us (and at points even tried to do some tricks).

So, where does someone with so much potential and so much passion go to fulfill those things? I’m sure there are (hopefully) organizations working on that. I think the school system is probably failing some people.

But seeing this kid right in front of my face who could be doing more with this potential, but doesn’t know basic things (such as the states in our country)… It was just slightly jarring and sad. But let’s get off the sad note and just talk about the total weirdness of the day.

I can’t even really tell you the name of the group, because it all seemed a bit convoluted to me. Apparently this guy (whom we’ll call Glen) – “Coach Glen – the one and only” (and yes, “the one and only” was actually part of his name each time he introduced himself to someone) kind of maybe runs a non-profit?

Is it a 501(c)(3)? Your guess is as good as mine. What is the name of the non-profit? Who knows, really? Anytime we asked for specifics, they didn’t seem to exist. He seems to basically just be a guy who runs various programs around skid row.

People asked if there was a website we could visit. Even when trying to give us a web address, he seemed non-committal, and a little unsure of the details – of his own organization’s web domain.

Eventually I did end up getting on in a message after the event. It does talk about some things (but not feeding people on Skid Row). It doesn’t seem to be a full-fledged organization. It doesn’t say anything about 501(c)(3) status or anything like that (as far as I can tell).

(It wasn’t a standalone domain either – one of those that’s .this, .that (using other website-building sites, but not paying the fee to have your own domain). There’s not necessarily anything wrong with that, but it just doesn’t yell legitimate organization to me.) (Though, I’ll admit, anyone can get a standalone domain. So, that in itself does not at all make you legit. So, it’s really a small point.))

Basically, I went on Volunteer Match, saw there was an event feeding the homeless within walking distance of my home, and decided to go over there.

In the listing, it did say we should bring something if we should – though it did not specify that if we didn’t bring anything, there’d be nothing to give!

I thought the listing was asking that we supplement what would already be there… Nope. We were supposed to supply the entire lunch.

And this is where I’ll pick up next time.

 

(#11) Marathon Kids Finisher Medal Celebration (March 22, 2014) – Part 6 (A Small Problem I Probably Should’ve Foreseen)

April 13, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

I guess I knew someone knew kids weren’t running of course, because someone instructed me to hold them up on the walkie. But it was a crazy day, and I was just afraid that information wasn’t going to get back to me. And I didn’t want to be holding kids up for no reason.

So, I waited with anticipation with my co-captain. Eventually we heard we should let the kids start running again. So, off they went!

Another thing that was crazy about the day was that as much as I thought the only problem would be people pushing forward and desperately trying to start as soon as they could… the opposite problem actually also existed. I’d excitedly tell people it was their turn to run. But then, the adults would decide the group needed to hang back because they had to wait for one person or another.

At the beginning of the day, we were told by the volunteer leaders, “The schools mix up. People are sat in order of how they arrive. It’s first come, first serve. If people ask where their school is, just tell them we’ll be running in mixed heats.”

Well, this sounded like a fine idea in theory. I was completely ready to follow the instructions. Little did I realize how important it was to people to run with their schools… Of course, thinking about it now after seeing how important it was to everyone, how would I not have realized that ahead of time? Of course as a kid (or a teacher so proud of all your kids), it’s important to you to run with your buds and the people who’ve done this with you.

I was thinking about it with my adult mindset of wanting to meet new people all the time – and of not being a part of any tight-knit groups right now. I almost always go places alone and am fine with enjoying the company of new people. I had totally forgotten the days of being in your super tight-knit loving group where you spend SO much time together and you just want to be in the presence of each other as you accomplish your goals.

So, as much as it was somewhat annoying to tell people to go, just to realize that basically that whole group was not in fact going to go yet, it actually didn’t slow down the day that much. And it was their day. So, they basically could do whatever they needed to do (assuming it didn’t completely stop or interfere with the day’s events), as far as I was concerned.

Overall, the event happened. Everybody made it to the finish line.

I met some extremely nice volunteers. And I got to help out with a group I can completely get behind. What a lovely day!

(#11) Marathon Kids Finisher Medal Celebration (March 22, 2014) – Part 5 (Nice People… And Some Of The Day’s Obstacles)

April 12, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

Let’s get back to the events of the day. I will say that this is one of the most caring groups of people I’ve worked with. Three – that’s right, three – different people brought me water during the day because they knew I couldn’t leave my post, and they saw me doing oh so much talking with the children.

I didn’t tell anyone I was thirsty – I didn’t even realize I was forgetting to hydrate! But three separate people walked by at different points, saw that I might have a need for water, and just grabbed it for me. I thought that was so sweet, and it was an act (x3) that totally touched me.

Also, one of the main volunteers brought me a megaphone so I didn’t have to keep basically screaming to try to be heard at this huge outdoor event. (I mean, I can project and all… But you gotta imagine a lot of stuff happening, and a lot of noise happening as well.)

There were some obstacles during the day – other than just the kids who often ignored human chains and instructions. (I mean, good for them for their fearlessness, and their refusal to conform or follow rules or whatever… but also, eesh. I’m glad they have free-spirts that haven’t been squashed… However there has to be some order to things, right?)

Anyway, another smaller obstacle was hearing each other on the walkies. I tried to keep mine close enough and loud enough that I could hear important information… But as I mentioned, it was really loud there – kids, parents, the emcee, music…

We didn’t have earpieces (and honestly, I’m not quite sure how much they would’ve helped anyway, since we probably would’ve had to blow out our eardrums to hear. (And that volume would distort voices anyway.)) So, communication was hard to have.

Granted, once the day got going, we didn’t generally need to communicate all that much – except when they ran out of medals(!). I know. Running out of medals sounds super sad and disappointing (and probably was for the kids…). Thank goodness I wasn’t working the finish line after that happened. That was probably not fun to be the bearer of that news…

(I heard the kids would still definitely get medals mailed to their schools.)

Thankfully, I heard the call to stop heats from going. (The kids in the heat we stopped we sooooo not happy. I think they would’ve overthrown us and just stormed the track if we’d needed to wait another minute or two….

So, I heard the call to stop them. But I was so overly-petrified that I wasn’t going to hear the call to let them start up again! After a few minutes, I’m nervous asking into the walkie if people know that kids are no longer running, and if we know when to start. I don’t usually like to waste walkie air space on info people already know. But that’s the thing. I didn’t know if anyone knew it!

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#11) Marathon Kids Finisher Medal Celebration (March 22, 2014) – Part 4 (I Gotta Be More Careful How I Treat Females)

April 11, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

So, I’m talking to all these different kids in different groups.

Once girl really stood out to me who seemed not as impatient, really together, and she was wearing a science shirt! I talked to her a little about her science ambitions. And I just thought, “look at this awesome girl with this confidence, and this drive to pursue athletics and science. I really hope our media and culture doesn’t ruin her and that she keeps this confidence forever…”

BUT! Guess who else is the problem (besides “media” and “our culture”)? That would be me! That’s right. I said me. *shakes head at self*

When it was time to have the kids go past me to the start line, I’d give high-fives and say encouraging things about how I hope they’re so proud of themselves, and I’d congratulate them on their amazing accomplishment…

But sometimes I also said things like, “I love your skirt!” “Your hair looks so cute!” etc.

And guess who got most of those comments that make it seems like image matters? Yep. That’d be the ladies, not the fellas.

Of course, my reasoning for this wasn’t because I thought it was important that girls look cute for running events… it was because the girls wore interesting, frilly, colorful, different running outfits! And the boys seemed to be in plain stuff.

BUT… did the girls worry about it because they felt they needed to? Quite possibly. And I’m SO sad that I maybe helped fuel that a little… I’ll admit even as a grown woman, I often don’t pick my running outfits based on comfort, but instead on how I’ll look in them. This whole, “I gotta be cute” thing – even when running a freaking marathon, it’s part of me that’s not going away anytime soon.

…However, when I see it in other younger girls, it makes me sad. I know that dichotomy doesn’t make sense. But what does make sense is empowering women. (I read Lean In! ;))

I know it’s important to complement children on their work ethic instead of their image (or their intrinsic abilities, since it’s been shown in studies that if you tell a child they’re smart, they’re less likely to push themselves on hard problems for fear of no longer being smart (if they were to mess anything up). If you tell them they’re a great worker, they work even harder to keep that compliment coming… Or at least that’s my understanding.)

I’m going off on a  tangent, but the point is, I didn’t realize ’til I got home that I gave too many image-based compliments. It doesn’t matter if someone’s hair looked cool. There is no need at all for me to mention it (even if I had good intentions of making people feel good) when there’s plenty of other stuff to mention – such as her awesome accomplishment that we’re there celebrating!

Aye, aye, aye. *continues to shake head at self*

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#11) Marathon Kids Finisher Medal Celebration (March 22, 2014) – Part 3 (I Had No Idea What Excited Kids Are Like…)

April 10, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

So, I’m all “sure, I can hold these kids back” Bahaha. Sorry, I just had to laugh one more time, because this idea truly is preposterous.

Thankfully, the person in charge totally knew the human chain was actually necessary, and she rounded up more volunteers for us. As the day went on and the kids came our way, I learned that generally, they push and shove their way forward. They are not patient.

If they saw other kids at the start line, they wanted to be there too! Forget this whole different heats business.

As I explained to the children in a fun, overly-dramatic way while we were waiting, “I know. I know, it’s soooo hard! Every time I do a marathon, I’m always antsy and ready to just get this thing started already! I waited and waited the months to get here, training along the one. Today’s my day. It’s my moment. I’m ready to go right now. So, I get it.” (I do.)

I followed that up with, “but in order for you to really have your moment and be able to go across the finish line with space to take it all in and revel in it, you gotta let people go in heats. Otherwise, it’s gonna be a mess. You’re gonna trip over each other [of course pantomiming this stuff as I’m saying it]. And it’s gonna be rough. You waited all this time. I know – I know you can wait 5 more minutes.”

That talk and energy and logic sort of, kind of worked. But kids were still wildly impatient. They kept wanting to go. In the end, I might even be a little glad that I was the on-deck area instead of the start line, because I heard the impatience level was even worse at the start itself!

So, basically my day was spent doing my very best to basically placate impatient children over and over and over and over again – which was totally fine with me. I was an elf at Macy’s Santaland. I have spent many a day saying the same information over and over while trying to entertain bored and/or antsy, impatient kids.

I also tried reinforcing the messages of the program. I kept asking what they learned about exercise or nutrition or themselves during this marathon. They generally seemed to get pretty into that.

And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#11) Marathon Kids Finisher Medal Celebration (March 22, 2014) – Part 2 (What Is Marathon Kids? And The Beginning Of Our Day)

April 9, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

It was explained to me that since phys ed teachers are being cut at many schools, teachers of other subjects are stepping up, helping out with this 501(c)(3) charity, and making kids aware (and hopefully care) about healthier lifestyles. I think that’s noble and very cool that teachers of other subjects are giving up their own extra time because they’re passionate about this stuff.

So, what is Marathon Kids? It’s an organization that works with schools. They set up a program so that children track all the mileage they log over the course of some months. The kids also track their eating. Along the way they learn about the benefits of healthy eating and exercising.

Then, there’s this big celebration that we had. The kids make it almost to the end of 26.2 miles (so, a marathon distance) in their logs, saving just the last 1/2 lap on a track to do with us at this event!

The energy at this event was so strong, bouncing throughout over the stadium! It’s funny that I really didn’t realize quite how energetic (and fearless) kids are.

At the beginning of the day, they introduced me to the co-captain at the start line with me, See-Wan. When they explained our job, they said one of us would be at the actual start line making a human chain with other volunteers until we were ready to send that heat of runners.

The other one of us would be off to the side of the track as part of another human chain, keeping the next heat of runners ready and off the track until the start line is ready for them.

I thought start line would be the most fun (and probably most important) of those two jobs, so I offered it to her because she’d volunteered there before. See-Wan was super cool, and a total team player who seemed chill and like she would’ve done either.

At first, we were only assigned enough volunteers to our area to form the human chain at the start line itself. And I was alone in the area to the side of the track. When one of the main volunteer coordinators came to check in on us, she asked me where my human chain was.

I said we didn’t have enough people, but then I stood out, showing how wide my stance could be and I said something like, “I think I can hold back the heats while they’re just waiting.

Bahahahaha. Little did I know how incredibly silly that statement would seem later.

This is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#11) Marathon Kids Finisher Medal Celebration (March 22, 2014) – Part 1 (I Hated Gym… Marathon Kids Benefits Kids Like The One I Was)

April 8, 2014

I love everything.

I am finding out about so many cool organizations that I had no idea existed through this adventure of my 52 volunteer activities.

I’m also finding out about so many problems I didn’t realize were such problems. So, that’s a bummer. First, I learned about libraries being shut down in school. Now I heard more about physical education being cut in many Los Angeles schools.

I’ll admit, as a kid, I would’ve loved that. I was always complaining, “uuuuggghhhh but why do we have to run a mile? How is this possibly going to help me in life? Why in the world would we be doing insane things like having gym class when we could be off doing creative endeavors like singing and playing our instruments? This is the biggest waste of time I can think of.”

Now, in child-me’s defense, from what I remember, gym class did sort of seem like a waste. There was a bunch of game playing (such as dodgeball) that didn’t really require that you be all that active. Could you be active in a game of dodgeball? Sure. Could you also apathetically stand there until someone hits you? Of course. Is that basic idea true of any sport? Yeah, probably pretty much.

Is it time to stop asking questions just to answer them? I’d say so.

The point is, I think I perhaps would’ve cared more about physical fitness had there been an end goal. I was always very competitive. So, if we were logging miles, I probably would’ve wanted to log the most, or log them before anyone else did, or do whatever sort of “winning” I decided was important.

I mean, we can’t say for sure… But I did always make sure to read more books when we logged those and all that jazz. And I always did more math problems so I could move ahead on that little board… I was always trying to win… except in gym.

It was the only class I wasn’t competitive in… For one thing, I knew I’d never beat anybody (Does it totally surprise you that the girl who didn’t believe in gym class was completely out of shape?) And I didn’t understand the importance of it all. And if I didn’t deem something important as a kid, then it was over! I had two modes – this matters a LOT, or this doesn’t matter.

And perhaps you can’t really impart on kids the importance of food and exercise… Maybe they’re all stubborn like I was. Maybe healthy living is just uncool and doesn’t make any sense to kids.

But if healthy living can be made to make sense, and be cool (and can’t it be, since anything in this world is possible?), then Marathon Kids is doing it!

That thing I just said I wish I’d had in school that maybe, just maybe, could’ve excited the girl who hated gym – that was Marathon Kids!

So, I was absolutely stoked to work with them – which is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#10) Santa Monica Airport ArtWalk (March 15, 2014) – Part 4 (I Feel Good!)

April 7, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

and going away from my tangents on dogs and cupcakes, so the day went splendidly. I had so much fun getting families psyched about the day and hearing about what they learned while collecting their stamps.

When the day was coming to an end, Allison, the volunteer coordinator, made me feel like the belle of the ball! She was all, “Where did you come from?! You’re awesome! You are made for the information booth. I loved the way you interacted with people.”

It was raining compliments, which of course makes me feel amazing. She even offered to drop me off at a Metro station on her way home (since Santa Monica Airport is sort of hard to get to by public transport).

Since I was staying to hitch a ride with her, I went ahead and helped with the cleanup as well – which caused another happy storm of compliments. “Wow, you just get right in there. You know how to fold up tables! You seem to really know what you’re doing.”

Of course, I felt so happy and special all over again. I’ve never really thought too much about how events have been a pretty big part of my life… until now that I’m doing these 52 volunteer activities.

I’ve been around so many plays, recitals, dinners, receptions, etc. – and also so many set-building and tear-down days that I do just kind of go into the mode and start helping. My theater teacher instilled a bunch of great lessons and characteristics into us, and the desire to just start helping when you see people who need help is one of those things.

I mean, that sounds like a pretty normal thing, right? But now that I’m meeting more people involved in event planning (and now that I’m going to events myself), I’m starting to learn about all sorts of volunteers. Some are more helpful than others. Also, some have different strengths.

Just because I’m sitting here talking about how awesome I am (conceited, right?), I’ll readily admit that I’m better at interactive jobs. I’m better at jobs that keep you pretty busy. There are certainly things I do better than other things.

So, it’s really not about whose better or best… (I mean, for those of you who know me, it sort of is, since I’m always saying “If you’re not first, you’re last” ;)) But It’s about everyone using their best strengths – which I’m sure is a hard things for coordinators to try to navigate when they’re meeting people on probably the one and only day they’re going to use them.

Anyway, I felt great, valued, smart, and happy! And I got to go to a place I’d never been (and didn’t even know existed), so I’d call it an excellent day!

(#10) Santa Monica Airport ArtWalk (March 15, 2014) – Part 3 (Cupcakes)

April 6, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

So, I worked the information booth and barring all the dogs, it was absolutely wonderful!

…But, it was also extremely tempting, because there was a lot of amazing-looking (though fattening) food for you. At the time, I was being oh-so-good about that stuff. I will admit as of the writing of this post, I’ve gotten a little more lax with that stuff (while I do believe there’s a balance to strike, I’m not particularly proud of the way I’ve been eating this past week…)

Anyway, there were Sprinkles cupcakes given to the volunteers. I was offered a free cupcake probably at least 5 times. At the end, while we were cleaning up, I could’ve taken 4 because of the excess! But I didn’t eat a single one (though I will admit I came close).

I am learning that many volunteer events feed their volunteers all sorts of little treats. That’s wonderful and precious and sweet, but boy oh boy if I’m gonna do 52 of these, I gotta watch out!

Speaking of cupcakes, did you know that red velvet is really just chocolate? ‘Cause I had no idea. And it sort of devastated me a bit. (That perhaps is a bit of a dramatic way to put it….) But I’m not a humongous chocolate fan. I’ll eat it, sure. But I’d much rather have something cinnamon or vanilla anytime.

And anytime there’s a choice between chocolate or red velvet, I always pick red velvet thinking it’s some kind of cool alternative to my least favorite kinds of sweets… until I learned that it is just another variation of chocolate!

Of course someone already told me that what it actually is doesn’t affect how it tastes, so my opinions on it shouldn’t change. Logically, I understand that. But realistically, I already look at differently. It already doesn’t taste better in my mind. (I haven’t eaten it since, since obviously this has been so upsetting…)

I don’t have a great sense of taste anyway since I have anosmia (like Ben Cohen of Ben and Jerry’s). So, you know, mind matters here! (And texture… that’s what matters for good ol’ diminished taste buds me)…

Whether or not it makes sense, I’m no longer a red velvet fan. I don’t know what in the world I ever thought it was, but I didn’t know it was chocolate. Blegh

I’ll finish out the day (and tell non-cupcake related stories) tomorrow!

(#10) Santa Monica Airport ArtWalk (March 15, 2014) – Part 2 (But I Have One Rant…(Hint: It’s About Dogs))

April 5, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

All right, let’s get into the rant part – something that seems to come up a fair amount with me…

When I’m in the human world, and I’m at an event that travels through many buildings with tight spaces (even if it does wander into the outdoors), and there are lots of tiny little children around, I don’t like dogs to be everywhere! I especially don’t like when all these horse-dogs are out.

I don’t know what it is with people in Los Angeles (I think it’s because people are lonely out here, and because we have so much more space in our homes than people have in New York), but people seem to love to have these gigantic dogs – dogs that seems like they could eat the children at this place in about two bites.

So, dogs were plentiful. And people who bring dogs don’t even seem to worried about it. They let those retractable leashes just go longer and longer, not really caring if the dog is going to touch other humans. That pretty much boggles my mind.

It also boggles my mind how people react! The last time I went to New York (dreamy look), I only saw one dog anywhere close to Times Square and every single face I saw looking at the dog looked at it and its owner with disdain. “Why in the world do you have that dog in this crowded, awesome city environment, lady? Get it out of here.”

But in California, people welcome dogs everywhere. I was at the Apple Store not that long ago, and someone just brought a dog in! Let me remind you, this is a place with very expensive equipment everywhere. But yeah, let’s just have animals running around with all the cords and everything. I’m sure that’s not a bad idea at all.

Is this even a thing in other places? Whenever I’ve gone to visit my parents or my sister, I’ve never seen a dog just entering a normal store in the midwest… or really anywhere I’ve gone except for this crazy town. People who live in other places, do you experience this?

So, there are these huge horse dogs there. I’m expecting that people will look annoyed, but no! They go up to the dog and start petting it.

Okay, everybody.

a) Do you not realize that’s totally dangerous? That is a strange animal you’re putting your hands all over. But you know, whatever.

b) You are encouraging this behavior! When people bring their horse dogs to crowded public events that involve small humans and indoor elements, and instead of ignoring them, you praise them and give them tons of attention – you are encouraging them to do it again and again. I’m sorry to say it, but you’re part of the problem, my friends.

I could rant on and on all day about dogs, dog owners, and what I believe is proper etiquette for where you should and shouldn’t be taking dogs. But, you understand what I’m saying, so I won’t belabor the point anymore (in this post, at least – I’m sure I will in the future).

And I’ll pick up here tomorrow.

(#10) Santa Monica Airport ArtWalk (March 15, 2014) – Part 1 (An Absolutely Lovely Event)

April 4, 2014

This was awesome!

After volunteering at the food bank, I made my way to the ArtWalk. Yet again – as seems to be the theme with this project, of me apparently not knowing anything about anything – I didn’t even know there was a Santa Monica Airport.

In fact, not only is there an airport, it’s a sort of controversial thing, as I found out by talking to people throughout the day.

My job here was to work the information booth. Not to flip my hair cockily or anything, but I was pretty sure I could rock this because I love being pleasant and talking to people.

When I first got there, they had me walk around to all the different areas so I could have a better idea of what to tell people. I was so glad I got to do this! I found out things I wouldn’t have known otherwise.

I saw that Mike Machat – the artist who did the mural in the Santa Monica Airport – was drawing pictures for people in the Museum of Flying (which had free admission during the ArtWalk)!

I also met Chris, a volunteer at the Museum of Flying, who totally rocked and knew everything about every plane.

It also was wonderful that I took a look around the place because we all know how bad I am with maps. But since I got to go to the places, I could say “oh, go behind this or that.”

It was a really cool day filled with activities. There was a station where children could build little terrariums.  There were places for painting and ceramics. Basically, there was all kinds of stuff to do. And here’s the best part! There was even a little sticker/passport thing on the back of the map. If you collected 5 stamps, from going to the different areas of the ArtWalk (including an improv class! – how great and full of different mediums was this place?), you got a set of wings!

I loved telling people about that awesomeness. (I love goals and checklists and things, so to me an already fun day of exploring is made all that much better by a fun list with stamps to help take you through it.) I also loved presenting the wings to people who’d finished.

Overall, this was an exceptional day. However, I do have one small rant (and more things that were great) tomorrow.

(#9) Los Angeles Regional Food Bank (March 15, 2014) – Part 2 (Sorting Food)

April 3, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

It was time to get to work. Basically, the entire day was just filled with taking food out of really, really big containers and putting them in much smaller containers so they could be sent to various food banks all around the city.

I know yesterday I admitted I didn’t realize that was a thing – one central food bank. But don’t you think it’s a nice idea? They get food from everybody! Various grocery stores, even the USDA – everybody gives food to this place. So, big chains and governmental agencies and such don’t need to worry about finding all these little places to give food. They just boom it all out to the one central location.

Then the LA Regional Food Bank then figures out the rest of the process – getting it to food pantries and various places with need around Los Angeles.

As we’re taking food from huge boxes on palettes and putting them into small boxes, I see people doing it a bit haphazardly, dropping carrots. (We had oh so many carrots on the floor.) I thought to myself, “I shall not be a carrot-waster! This is precious food that people desperately need. We can’t just waste carrots!”

I made it so long without dropping a single carrot. But alas, *sighs, slides down in chair*… I hate to admit this, but I did in fact drop one carrot on the floor… It was a small one! (I know I’m just justifying it to myself…) So, I was bummed. Then I thought, “well, if I just give them a dollar, that’s 4 meals. So, maybe this can make up for this poor carrot on the floor business.”

Anyway, we have to move on. I know it’s very upsetting that I didn’t hit my “save every single carrot, by golly” goal. But we must let it go, okay?

It was a bit of a free-for-all, with people taking boxes off and putting them on our conveyor belt. (So, nothing made it to the end of the belt, which negated the point of the belt since people were doing lots of lifting).

The place was set up in a great way meant for efficiency. But different people went at different rates, and it seemed like peak efficiency went out the window pretty quickly. Oh well. No one seemed to mind. One guy who was an architect (so, I’d assume smart, thoughtful, and good at plans) made a go at trying to get an actual system going… but it just didn’t work out.

Even still, we got all the food sorted before the original ending time of the day. So, overall, I’d call it a success. Thumbs up, and on to number 10!

(#9) Los Angeles Regional Food Bank (March 15, 2014) – Part 1 (Arrival and Intro Video)

April 1, 2014

I don’t know if this is daft* to admit, but I didn’t realize before this activity that there’s one main food bank that distributes to all other food banks in Los Angeles.

*No, I’m not British, but I just felt “daft” fit in that sentence. Why not?

Did you all know this concept of one main food bank?

So, I got onto the subway and made my way down there. While walking to the food bank, I felt I wasn’t perhaps in the very best neighborhood… Obviously, I wasn’t all that afraid. I choose to think the best of people. Plus, I’m all tough and strong. *determined musical theater face*

My biggest concern of the sort of dilapidated neighborhood, with practically no public places (meaning restaurants, coffee shops, libraries, etc), I really just worried dogs might be around and able to get out. It just felt like a place that would have dogs around. And is there anything scarier than a dog on the loose?

I did end up making it to the food bank without any dog attacks. (Celebratory dance music plays).

Once I got there, we all milled about outside for a bit. There was a sign that says “take pictures while you wait.” That’s cool that they were encouraging us to document the day. (I’m assuming they wanted us to tweet/instagram those pictures, though that wasn’t explicitly stated…

Once everyone had checked in, we all moved inside the big warehouse and were shown a small video. Here are some of the takeaways I found most interesting:

For every dollar donated, they distribute 4(!) meals. Is it just me, or does that seem like they’re really stretching money, y’all? I wondered if I possibly heard it wrong. But I went to the website to verify, and that’s what they say.

They also said they’ve distributed a billion pounds of food since their founding in 1973 – which is the equivalent of 800 million meals… That sounds like a lot of food to me.

They also said their ultimate mission is to go out of business. Of course that makes sense, but I thought it was still nice they put it in their video.

Then, we got to work – which is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#8) Habitat For Humanity (February 28, 2014) – Part 2 (*sings* All By Myself)

March 31, 2014

Picking up from yesterday –

As Steve’s talking to me, he says, “Oh, I guess you didn’t get the email.” I ask, “What email?”

He says that the night before he called it off because of the weather. In my head, I yell with eyes wide open – but out loud I just politely remind him, “But I called you this morning. You said it was still happening.”

He said, “Well, you were already on your way. Oh goodness.

So, he set me up in the house with paint so I could paint doors and door jams while he did more work outside, because he had to do things having to do with all the water coming into the area.

He did seem like a very kind mind (even if I had yelled at him in my head). And he gave me a free, dry Habitat for Humanity t-shirt.

So, there you have it. I listened to podcasts about game shows and painted some doors, while still pretty cold because my feet were still wet.

When my shift was over, I fell into a (literally) knee-deep hole of mud outside of the house. (How was there a hole that big?!)

I really didn’t want to spend the money for a cab all the way home, but I was so cold, muddy, and wet. The next train didn’t come for over an hour! So, I just swallowed my pride and common sense and paid to go all the way back to Los Angeles from the San Fernando valley.

Before I even walked into my apartment, I started stripping down in the laundry room on our floor. I wasn’t tracking the mud from my shoes, socks, and pants into my room. Thank goodness nobody walked in on me. I feel like that would’ve been a bit embarrassing. Like, “uh, hey there. Don’t mind me. Just taking off my clothes…”

The next hour involved a lot of cleaning – laundry, shower, trying to salvage shoes – all while trying to keep my apartment free of mud.

The day was exhausting. I was out $100 in cab fare. And the only thing I did in the house was paint some doors… Granted, someone needed to paint them. And at least something got done.  But this was a really stark contrast to the Do Good Bus where tons of people helped and a room was transformed.

Working alone really illustrated for me how teamwork makes the dream work.

(#8) Habitat For Humanity (February 28, 2014) – Part 1 (Aye, Aye, Aye)

March 30, 2014

Oh, I’m gonna say it. This was miserable.

This is no fault of Habitat for Humanity’s, but it was a rough day – which is especially lame because when I started this project, I thought, “One place I must work with in the 52 weeks is Habitat for Humanity. That seems so fabulous, fun, and fantastic!”

But on this day, it was raining all across L.A. As I’m sure you know, anything other than 80 degrees & sunny and the city practically shuts down because of how much people freak out about any weather here.

I dutifully went to the train station. It was just sprinkling in the morning, and I didn’t think too much of it. But as I was on the train headed toward some far away suburb of Los Angeles, I saw that the rain seemed to be getting worse not better.

Of course, that was very perplexing. I’m only used to it “raining” for about 5 minutes at a time out here. As the rain poured more, I started to think this might not be happening. So, I called the man in charge of the site asking if it was still going on.

He said, “Oh, I’ll be there! You can paint indoors.” Wow, well, okay then. I have not yet become too L.A. to go places in the rain. So, if it’s happening I’m going.

I get to the train station (which is outdoors, by the way), because what isn’t in L.A.? I’m trying to stay somewhat dry under this awning thing. Originally, I was going to walk a bit then catch a bus. However, I was within 4-ish miles of the site, and figured I’d save myself the 1/2 mile walk in the pouring rain and just splurge on a cab from that point…

The cab ended up taking 43 minutes(!) to get there. Dealing with the cab company was infuriating. They were SO unhelpful, and not at all apologetic, though they knew I had nowhere to wait indoors.

Obviously, if I’d known the cab was going to take so long, I would’ve just gone for the bus, or at least walked to a coffee shop or something. Nothing was super close by, but I’m pretty sure I could’ve found something indoors within 20 minutes.

I finally get to the site and I’m freezing. I’m dripping wet. Once I get there, it’s just a construction area (of course) so there’s nothing paved between the houses. We have to walk through the dirt. Usually, this wouldn’t be a big deal – except that the dirt is now mud. Everything is so muddy.

So, we walk to one of the back houses. And this is where I’ll pick up tomorrow.

(#7) Big Sunday & Operation Gratitude (February 27, 2014)

March 29, 2014

Aurora De Lucia making a paracord bracelet with Operation Gratitude at Big SundayI’ll admit when I first heard the name Big Sunday, I was slightly hesitant.

My last roommates (before the one I have now) were really into youth groups and church and stuff, and I know Sunday was a big day for that. So, I just thought maybe a “big Sunday” was the churchiest of all church days.

But that is completely incorrect.

Big Sunday is purely and simply “a nonprofit organization that works to build community through community service… The idea is that everyone has some way that they can help somebody else.”

It’s really cool. They partner with different non-profits and find different ways to help each week.

They give free food when you get there, and they’re even pretty centrally located & easily accessible.

Though, I will say, I take the same route to get to Big Sunday as I do to get to the Groundlings. So, as I walked down Highland, even though it’s been over a year, my body tensed up. I was going into fight or flight, baby, ready to go to an improv class.

However, it was not time for improv. It was time for volunteer work.

That week at Big Sunday, they worked with an organization called Operation Gratitude. Operation Gratitude sends care packages to our nation’s military. We were there to make paracord bracelets to put in the care packages.

I didn’t know anything about paracord bracelets, but they’re really cool! There’s a whole page on what they are and how they can be used here.

Aurora De Lucia making a little face as she struggles with making a paracord braceletIn case you don’t want to go to that link, the gist is, 8 feet of parachute cord – which can hold up to 550 pounds – can go in one bracelet and can be used for all sorts of things, such as creating harness, splints, etc. Even within the cord, nylon cords can be used to repair gear, or they can be used even as sutures, and more.

So, these two wonderful women taught us how to make the bracelets.

I’m usually a loud person who loves interacting with every person on the planet. But for whatever reason, on that day, I was just feeling a little quiet. (I know. Weird, right?)

So, this was the absolutely perfect activity for me for that day because it was a very individual activity. You could just sit there, make your bracelet, be quiet and contemplate whatever you want.

Of course by the end of the day, I was talking with everything. I mean, really, how long can you possible be quiet?

I also made the most bracelets! Up top! I “made” 13, but I kept having trouble with the last one. One piece kept coming out longer than the other. I don’t really think it’ll pass inspection. So, I say I made 12 – which was still the most of the class.

(‘Cause come on, can we really just be helpful. Or do we have to win at being helpful? ;))

This was awesome. Everyone was so nice. I would definitely go back to Big Sunday, and I’d love to help with Operation Gratitude again!

(#6) Tree Musketeers (February 26, 2014) – Part 2 (Digging Out and Recycling Trees)

March 28, 2014

Aurora De Lucia making a little struggle face while digging out a dead treePicking up from yesterday

We waited a bit for the other volunteers, but none ended up showing up. It was just me and James for the day.

But the only thing we needed to accomplish was digging up eight dead trees so alive ones could be planted in their places.

A new plant by the Department of Water and Power opened up, and the deal the plant made to move in was that they would replant all the trees they harmed by coming in. They ended up digging out the system that brought water to those 8 trees, so that’s why the trees died and will be replanted (on Arbor Day (which at the time was only a week away, but by the time this is posting, is behind us)).

It was a beautiful day to work outside because it wasn’t wildly sunny. So, yay. Our precious skin was spared!

James was so knowledgeable about nature. He knew every thing there was to know about every tree and plant – or at least so it seemed to me.

Aurora De Lucia stands in the back of a pickup truck, helping to unload treesHe said that nature has this innate positivity and that if you’re ever feeling down, you should go sit by a tree because within 15 minutes, your spirit will automatically be lifted.

Of course, being someone who dislikes the outdoors, I’m not sure how much I completely agree. But I will say, I felt really positive after the day with him. So, what do I know? Maybe it was his sunny personality, or perhaps it was the trees…

He also told me the story of how Tree Musketeers got started. Apparently, back in the ’80s, some Brownies (little Girl Scouts) planted a tree to get a merit badge. And they loved the work so much, they made a non-profit out of it! And I guess it continues to be run by kids to this day (even though the original kids have grown up, and at least one is on the board now).

So, I thought that was really cool. People seeing something they loved, seeing a need, and just boom. “Let’s start this organization.” I liked that.

After we pulled up the trees, we drove them over to a place that recycles them into mulch. And there you have it! Such a simple, efficient, fun-filled day.